tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post1026165286381704842..comments2024-03-29T08:54:05.713-04:00Comments on The Misadventures of Widowhood: Eagle Nests and Old People NestsMisadventures of Widowhoodhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-75411203682120999662017-03-22T09:55:30.647-04:002017-03-22T09:55:30.647-04:00That's the first thing I thought of doing, too...That's the first thing I thought of doing, too...trick the motion detectors and GPS trackers. My goal would be to stay at home until a week before I die. I don't want to die at home because it would be months before anyone would find my body and I don't want the dog to die just because I did.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-30529579934557504102017-03-22T09:50:21.594-04:002017-03-22T09:50:21.594-04:00If I lived in the Big Brother place, I can just se...If I lived in the Big Brother place, I can just see myself trying to play tricks on the listening and monitoring devices. But, I won't end up there as the price is about 3 times my monthly income. I will end up in one of those sad, colorless, smelly nursing homes. That's why, I have to stay healthy. My neighbor was 94, when I saw them taking her out, via ambulance, to the nursing homeJudyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03399435237919718544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-69902127568933077142017-03-22T08:50:27.854-04:002017-03-22T08:50:27.854-04:00Thank you for such a thoughtful reply. All of the ...Thank you for such a thoughtful reply. All of the places we've gone with the bus have said that we can drop in on our own and just walk around. There are two places I will do that with when I'm in the area. <br /><br />What I worry most about is what happens if you run out of money and/or something happens to social security and Medicare and you can't pay. Without children or Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-55584754898979668182017-03-21T21:51:11.156-04:002017-03-21T21:51:11.156-04:00Really good recap on some things to be aware of wh...Really good recap on some things to be aware of when selecting a facility where one might want to live. I've provided services in some of the better ones in my area -- the full range of care Independent, Assisted Living, Skilled, Green House (the first, maybe only one, in Calif.) Know they're busy updating tech services and since I retired a couple years or so ago, expect they've joaredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09999395062839739698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-42412124083364033972017-03-20T10:19:07.358-04:002017-03-20T10:19:07.358-04:00Ouch is right. I don't have any children or gr...Ouch is right. I don't have any children or grandchildren who could give in-house support to keep me at home so this is scary, not knowing how long your money will last. I know several older women who live with one of their adult children, so I know it's still an option for a very few. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-70878857779025666022017-03-20T08:46:16.519-04:002017-03-20T08:46:16.519-04:00Ouch! I can't see the money lasting very long ...Ouch! I can't see the money lasting very long if we both have to pay for eldercare. <br />My grandfather lived with a family who cared for him for about 5 years before he passed. He seemed happy enough in that situation. I have no idea what the cost was. I wonder if such a thing happens anymore?Sharonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02743921972328074980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-18563086927296607582017-03-19T09:06:17.167-04:002017-03-19T09:06:17.167-04:00Okay, you may be talking about our Hospice system ...Okay, you may be talking about our Hospice system which is at home support services for someone who is within six months of being terminal. We have other in-home services for elderly people but like Mr. Specialist said, you do need a family member who can coordinate it all. It's pretty much what many of us widows did for our spouses near their end. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-84545824052612096192017-03-19T06:41:20.232-04:002017-03-19T06:41:20.232-04:00The Government home care packages have been in pla...The Government home care packages have been in place for many years now, with tweaks, simply because its cheaper than expanding nursing homes. I'm pretty sure USA has something similar (we generally copy from you, or Canada).<br /><br />I should have inserted a paragraph break for the mention of a senior being made the responsibility of a younger person/couple. I heard brief mention of it Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-49641358369884214102017-03-19T00:17:58.405-04:002017-03-19T00:17:58.405-04:00I have to use the Urban Dictionary often, too, bec...I have to use the Urban Dictionary often, too, because I don't get the slang sometimes used on political sites.<br /><br />I have never heard of a home care plan like you wrote about in paragraph two, at least not a formal one. We still have family members who will take in a parent or grandparent here but it's not the norm. I think the fear of abuse is a real one, given that in recent Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-91041236129900364592017-03-18T21:51:30.581-04:002017-03-18T21:51:30.581-04:00Interesting read on your tour of retirement facili...Interesting read on your tour of retirement facilities. I was tempted to go on a tour recently. I have to admit that the offer of morning tea was the main attraction! But postponed the thought till next year.<br /><br />I've been in a similar situation of making a microwave joke and seeing a clear difference of who gets it, and who doesn't. My (minor) feeling of superiority died when I Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-90667357907390543722017-03-18T18:33:50.814-04:002017-03-18T18:33:50.814-04:00I'm pretty sure it is. This place made a point...I'm pretty sure it is. This place made a point of telling us how much their chef liked to bake and that she does it every day.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-75837835425571450992017-03-18T18:32:31.557-04:002017-03-18T18:32:31.557-04:00I would miss seeing wildlife. Even in my little ci...I would miss seeing wildlife. Even in my little city lot I have little critters coming and going. <br /><br />If you figure out the secret to making your investments grow every day, let me know! I'm so afraid to make changes I just don't do it.<br /><br />It was interesting to see who understood the microwave joke and laughed and who clearly didn't. A good indication of where they getMisadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-19621056234155142722017-03-18T18:26:58.003-04:002017-03-18T18:26:58.003-04:00I've seen a hummingbird cam. Thanks for remind...I've seen a hummingbird cam. Thanks for reminding me how interesting they are. I need to bookmark one. I've bookmarked the panda cam and the graffiti cam and peek in every day.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-34271761394008977212017-03-18T18:24:15.944-04:002017-03-18T18:24:15.944-04:00Ohmygosh, that Medicaid question is most important...Ohmygosh, that Medicaid question is most important and I haven't heard that mentioned locally at all!<br /><br />The train room and fish tank sound nice! A lot of places are trying harder to add life enrichment stuff to their facilities. I've even been to one with a little garden plot for residents. Still no place like home. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-36715595420799254642017-03-18T17:35:13.768-04:002017-03-18T17:35:13.768-04:00Oops. I forgot to tell you that my aunt visited an...Oops. I forgot to tell you that my aunt visited an extended care facility and they gave her just-baked cookies, too. Must be a sales technique. I know it would work for me. Bella Rumhttp://bellarum.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-89807663088885573422017-03-18T17:32:06.156-04:002017-03-18T17:32:06.156-04:00I would be one to throw my catch on the ice just t...I would be one to throw my catch on the ice just to get a close-up look at a bald eagle. We used to see them on Eastern Shore when we lived in Maryland. There's so much wildlife there, and the sunsets are inspiring. Oh, and when huge flocks of geese come down to roost in the open fields as the sun sets... it's a beautiful sight. <br /><br />I hate to think about assisted living, but I'Bella Rumhttp://bellarum.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-25651068457020953382017-03-18T16:29:29.665-04:002017-03-18T16:29:29.665-04:00Chase and flee tag isn't a regional term. I ma...Chase and flee tag isn't a regional term. I made it up when I wrote this blog because that's what the seasons seem to be doing.<br /><br />I've never thought about the nature web cams being invasive to animals and birds. Although you have a point, I also thing the good outweighs the bad. The good part is the more we know about animals the better we can protect them and their Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-72013738943407312072017-03-18T16:28:56.367-04:002017-03-18T16:28:56.367-04:00Clearly, I need to keep working until I'm 90, ...Clearly, I need to keep working until I'm 90, and then check out. There's no way in the world....<br /><br />So, on a more cheerful note, I love your eagle tales. I'm lucky enough to have ospreys around a good part of the year, and their behavior's similar. I love the nest cams. The Cornell Ornithology site has every sort. One of the most fascinating I've ever watched was a shoreacreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16284698314697628805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-15532552148984839602017-03-18T16:19:05.571-04:002017-03-18T16:19:05.571-04:00After having moved my Dad to assisted living with ...After having moved my Dad to assisted living with step ups, the most important thing we asked was "do you accept Medicaid if his money runs out?" <br /><br />Also look into those "step up" triggers. If we added a vitamin to his list of pills to take, the cost went up. When he needed wheelchair service 3x day to the dining room, the bill went up. And so on.<br /><br />My The Awkward Widowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03729456066739275695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-44842262970626163092017-03-18T15:45:30.882-04:002017-03-18T15:45:30.882-04:00Linda, that is an amusing story about the Eagles....Linda, that is an amusing story about the Eagles. I have on many occasions been to a nature reserve that has a web cam on an osprey nest. Although it is fascinating, I find it invasive and I know I am anthropomorphizing an osprey or an eagle's consciousness! There is something in my thinking that has to do with using technology to intrude and doesn't seem as comfortable as watching anAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-88470412742273006242017-03-18T15:33:48.659-04:002017-03-18T15:33:48.659-04:00How interesting about the bully female! Our lectur...How interesting about the bully female! Our lecturer said that what they believed to be 1-2 year old off springs would come back to the nest at a certain time of the year but the male would chase them away. Eagles are coming back in numbers because the researchers learned that the DNT the farmers were using for weed killers was found in their eggs and those eggs won't harden up because of it.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-20354677507753586952017-03-18T14:43:47.856-04:002017-03-18T14:43:47.856-04:00Very interesting. Really find that hi-tech one int...Very interesting. Really find that hi-tech one interesting to think about. What a thoughtful idea to have a garage for the men. Most men like congregating in a garage. I don't think I can afford those higher end ones but I'll certainly be disappointed if I wind up in one of those old fashioned nursing homes.<br /><br />I volunteered at a Wetlands for a while where they had a bald eagle Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11586429675286969340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-71559112652389758602017-03-18T14:01:58.319-04:002017-03-18T14:01:58.319-04:00Yes, their system does seem safe. I wish I would h...Yes, their system does seem safe. I wish I would have asked what happens during a power outrage but they must have a back up power source of some kind. <br /><br />I don't think I could afford $4,000 either but it wasn't the most expensive place we've gone to. I think if you knew you were terminal, though, or, you are 90 it would make a difference on its affordability. I'm anxiousMisadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-15185913761009634702017-03-18T13:36:40.296-04:002017-03-18T13:36:40.296-04:00Actually the hi-tech place sounds quite safe but i...Actually the hi-tech place sounds quite safe but it is way out of my range financially so I'd better work on my fitness and hope I blink out while still moving:) Those baby eaglets are adorable. Arkansas Pattihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14156004753267665579noreply@blogger.com