tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post146313337566673422..comments2024-03-28T19:35:26.928-04:00Comments on The Misadventures of Widowhood: Making Friends - Mission Possible?Misadventures of Widowhoodhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-34965135375052114942016-06-25T16:34:01.912-04:002016-06-25T16:34:01.912-04:00FaceBook is such a strange thing. I have a hard ti...FaceBook is such a strange thing. I have a hard time with the concept of being invited to parties that way. But it's happened several times. Younger people have no concept of what it was like to grow up in the letter writing era. As much as they post on FaceBook the quality kind of keeping in touch just isn't there.<br /><br />I tell everyone to call before coming over. Even ten minutes Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-11661308179634992642016-06-25T16:07:04.940-04:002016-06-25T16:07:04.940-04:00My kids are grown and have families of their own. ...My kids are grown and have families of their own. They all live hundreds of miles from me. I do hear of some of their exploits through FaceBook, but just bits and pieces. I remember writing long letters to my mom and to my mother-in-law every week, but evidently that activity disappeared with the arrival of the internet -- even an email is too long for today's younger generation to take the Classof65https://www.blogger.com/profile/15620524862669295761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-8164146773846745102016-06-24T07:37:54.930-04:002016-06-24T07:37:54.930-04:00I know you three are right. Once in a while the wh...I know you three are right. Once in a while the what-ifs get the better of me, but most of the time I'm fine.<br />Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-89741810038439225092016-06-24T07:36:34.705-04:002016-06-24T07:36:34.705-04:00Libby, I agree. It's not the number of friends...Libby, I agree. It's not the number of friends anyone has. It's the quality of the friends that we have. <br />Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-43547268833826769822016-06-24T04:36:59.635-04:002016-06-24T04:36:59.635-04:00You're not the only one sitting in front of th...You're not the only one sitting in front of the computer with a cup of coffee - although in my case, it's tea. At the end of the day, if I can't have a true friend that I respect, trust and like, I'd rather have none. I like my own company. Libby<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-92180681319420829722016-06-24T03:42:37.876-04:002016-06-24T03:42:37.876-04:00+1 to Judy, and Sharon's comments regarding ki...+1 to Judy, and Sharon's comments regarding kids. We've all agreed before that kids have their own life, and no time for oldies.You haven't missed out. LibbyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-31298145946800328852016-06-23T09:27:37.335-04:002016-06-23T09:27:37.335-04:00Writing IS where I let my hair down and show all s...Writing IS where I let my hair down and show all sides of myself. We all have our ups and downs and I'm betting that most of us have a "secret life" going on inside our heads that isn't necessarily in sync with our public image. My goal in blogging is to share The Secret Life. I never thought about it terms of being "nourishing" but I think you're right. It's Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-53487062798214679802016-06-23T08:31:35.440-04:002016-06-23T08:31:35.440-04:00"Situational extrovert"---I like that te..."Situational extrovert"---I like that term and think I've tried to be that at times, but it feels unnatural. I guess like anything else, the more you do it the easier it gets. I have one week a month when all my reoccurring social events take place and I know exactly what you mean by weight gain coming with social plans.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-14990428345062783012016-06-23T08:16:34.533-04:002016-06-23T08:16:34.533-04:00There are so many conversations and events that at...There are so many conversations and events that attract you, Jean. Only sometimes do I hear you dragging yourself through your days. I'm SO glad you share both sides. You sound so approachable, but maybe that's because you're behind this screen.<br /><br />Don't most of us find it tough, after living with someone who attracted us ( and I mean intellectually, personally, GowitheFlohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01842273685414939160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-66457228556898592412016-06-22T22:32:28.769-04:002016-06-22T22:32:28.769-04:00Being an introvert and moving to MI with no family...Being an introvert and moving to MI with no family or friends around I became a situational extrovert and succeeded quite well. If I'm actually in town I have or can make social plans 6 nights a week. The problem with this is the weight gain. Right now all my best friends here are women. oc1deanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02302555382262295577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-19642578416327734722016-06-22T20:21:30.314-04:002016-06-22T20:21:30.314-04:00True, Sharon. Too bad, but true (and sometimes I ...True, Sharon. Too bad, but true (and sometimes I get bitter about it also!) Judy Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03399435237919718544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-43334475245547190322016-06-22T20:19:14.623-04:002016-06-22T20:19:14.623-04:00Sharon, Thanks for popping over to read and commen...Sharon, Thanks for popping over to read and comment! And, of course, for the words of encouragement. I know what you're saying about family not always being there even if you have kids and grandkids. It's a different world than when we were growing up and the younger generation supported the oldest generation.<br /><br />Your friend Ruth seems to be right on schedule for the average widowMisadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-36481459025903181362016-06-22T20:05:36.699-04:002016-06-22T20:05:36.699-04:00I came over from Linda's blog (Two Fixer-Upper...I came over from Linda's blog (Two Fixer-Uppers)<br /><br />First, I'll say that having family and grandchildren doesn't necessarily mean you will be involved with them, as Judy says. I have 5 children, (maybe) 17 grandchildren and 5 great-grandchildren. Most of them within a few hours drive. I see two of the grandchildren 3 or 4 times a year. I see my one son (their father) maybe 6 Sharonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02743921972328074980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-68510111016674198792016-06-22T16:49:35.494-04:002016-06-22T16:49:35.494-04:00I think we've all had that happen, where we th...I think we've all had that happen, where we thought we had friends only to find out they were actually situational friends who fall by the wayside when our situation changes due to a variety of things. It hurts but when we think about it, it makes sense.<br /><br />Finding new friends as we age is not unlike dating. Like you with the woman you thought might make a good friend, I've met Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-68452228969080226042016-06-22T14:32:01.602-04:002016-06-22T14:32:01.602-04:00Since my church imploded in conflict and I decided...Since my church imploded in conflict and I decided to take an unspecified timeframe hiatus, I've realized that all the dozens of "friends" I thought I had were mere acquaintances. I have a couple of really good friends, yet I know in the hierarchy of things their partners/families come first. I don't know how one finds new BFFs as we grow older. So much is based on history donnajurenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10799559087972759233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-61482880583537815912016-06-22T13:55:06.397-04:002016-06-22T13:55:06.397-04:00I think our blog friends ARE true friends. If they...I think our blog friends ARE true friends. If they didn't connect with us they'd move on...that's my opinion. We may not agree with everything we each write BUT we understand where they're coming from and respect each other's point of view.<br /><br />I should quit thinking about what I missed, not having grandkids because I know from reading your blog that it's worse to Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-3208691249198414592016-06-22T11:37:17.301-04:002016-06-22T11:37:17.301-04:00BTW--having kids and grandkds does not always mean...BTW--having kids and grandkds does not always mean you will be busily involved in their lives. Yes, my grandson is going into medical school. I did not get invited to attend his college graduation nor his "white coat" ceremony. I rarely talk about my family to "live" people, but a lot on my blog. Speaking of which--I feel I have REAL friends that I have never met--from my Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03399435237919718544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-54274413806573298482016-06-22T11:23:15.255-04:002016-06-22T11:23:15.255-04:00I feel the same way! It makes me understand, bette...I feel the same way! It makes me understand, better, how people in past centuries could get to know one another through letters before they met in person.<br /><br />That wild turkey on your blog today is really cool!Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-1399929455821782022016-06-22T10:50:53.470-04:002016-06-22T10:50:53.470-04:00Right now my closest friends are the ones I've...Right now my closest friends are the ones I've met through my blog ... Sometimes I wish they lived closer to me so we could be "in-person" friends!rockygracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14457010488015617811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-69115114424605165782016-06-22T08:55:37.891-04:002016-06-22T08:55:37.891-04:00P.S. Someone recently was talking about how expens...P.S. Someone recently was talking about how expensive it was to get her teeth cleaned and I said, "that's nothing. My dog's vet just charged over $500 for working on Levi's teeth." She was appalled that anyone would "waste" that much money on a dog. Ya, like I'm going to leave puss pockets in his mouth.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-71466874242530145402016-06-22T08:47:31.648-04:002016-06-22T08:47:31.648-04:00It would be worth trying a Gathering.
You must ha...It would be worth trying a Gathering.<br /><br />You must have seen the same info on FOMO that I did. I can't remember where I saw it but it was only a week or less before I wrote this.<br /><br />Levi does have a good life but I still feel sorry for him. He loves other dogs and I don't take him to day care anymore. We used to drop him off, go get pizza and come back an hour later. He Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-43175318979178425642016-06-22T08:34:12.656-04:002016-06-22T08:34:12.656-04:00I used to be a social butterfly, but no so much an...I used to be a social butterfly, but no so much anymore. Friends have moved, died, drifted, etc. I find that it's hard to meet people now. I did check on a Gathering in our area. I think I may have found something similar. <br /><br />I just heard about FOMO the other day. I'd never heard about it before. <br /><br />Levi has a good life!! :)Bella Rumhttp://bellarum.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-78618767330645721332016-06-22T06:49:05.337-04:002016-06-22T06:49:05.337-04:00I like groups, too, from 7 to 15 people. Sometimes...I like groups, too, from 7 to 15 people. Sometimes it's like pulling teeth in one-on-one situations to get the other person to talk! Or the opposite happens and they talk non-stop. <br /><br />I have a device like a Life Alert from Great Calls. I'm not signed up for the daily call (costs an extra $4.00) but I will if I develop a health issue. Is it a real person who calls? I just assumed Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-13027738703004654032016-06-22T01:59:10.972-04:002016-06-22T01:59:10.972-04:00It's still a work in progress for me. LOTS of...It's still a work in progress for me. LOTS of acquaintances. Not one BFF. Some acquaintances want more, but I am not as inclined. Today the widow group met for coffee and it was fabulous. Lots of them have closer relationships and I enjoy some extra time with some of them. But always good time in the bigger group. We are going to try to meet once a month.<br /><br />One of my closer The Awkward Widowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03729456066739275695noreply@blogger.com