tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post2442935577776465978..comments2024-03-28T20:40:18.960-04:00Comments on The Misadventures of Widowhood: Thank God for May, Eyesight and Gatherings Misadventures of Widowhoodhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-54399560039459810162016-05-07T16:31:03.724-04:002016-05-07T16:31:03.724-04:00That sounds very doable to me! I shall include it ...That sounds very doable to me! I shall include it in my road trip plans. :)RachelRhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08687892249904526575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-6792622478592301392016-05-07T13:30:58.997-04:002016-05-07T13:30:58.997-04:00I stressed last summer over the possibility of mov...I stressed last summer over the possibility of moving from the north end of a large town to the south end of town. I can't image the stress of moving between countries. North Carolina is a beautiful state, though.<br /><br />I'm close 131 just north of Grand Rapids and I'm betting you'd come through MI at Buffalo, NY to get to N.C. It's 5 1/2 hours one way from here to BuffaloMisadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-68320731494788958502016-05-07T12:28:11.043-04:002016-05-07T12:28:11.043-04:00I'm in Toronto and next year I shall be in Nor...I'm in Toronto and next year I shall be in North Carolina! Moving down to the states was something S and I were so looking forward to so this is going to be very bittersweet but I am still looking forward to getting out of this apartment and yet so sad to be leaving it. These two feelings constantly butt heads against each other in my mind. I can't stay but I can't leave. Oh, loss is RachelRhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08687892249904526575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-52312381394904136812016-05-06T15:05:34.037-04:002016-05-06T15:05:34.037-04:00You're right about strong muscles. I need to d...You're right about strong muscles. I need to do more in that department. <br /><br />No answer from you-know-who is telling, isn't it.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-12987981436760259442016-05-06T11:31:44.755-04:002016-05-06T11:31:44.755-04:00Cycling IS fun and folks do it into their mid-80&#...Cycling IS fun and folks do it into their mid-80's around here. I took it up after Ev died. I kept purchasing lighter and lighter weight bikes, though, to make the hills flatter. My bones are borderline, too, but strong muscles around them shield them ( not to mention the fat). The possibility of falling is one reason I prefer to cycle in a group.<br /><br />No bicycle outings this past GowitheFlohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01842273685414939160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-822269817532878212016-05-05T23:01:20.229-04:002016-05-05T23:01:20.229-04:00I keep telling the senior hall director that she n...I keep telling the senior hall director that she needs to teach classes to the other senior hall directors in the area. She keeps growing the membership and programs while others in the area just do bingo and health lectures.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-16522322391125453442016-05-05T22:51:38.219-04:002016-05-05T22:51:38.219-04:00What great programming your senior hall has! This ...What great programming your senior hall has! This is brilliant. -JeanAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-3869350618028419062016-05-05T18:32:40.088-04:002016-05-05T18:32:40.088-04:00If your local senior hall doesn't have anythin...If your local senior hall doesn't have anything, google MeetUps+. When I was thinking of moving to the other end of town I found a meet up for people over 60 and others for book clubs and quilters that I would have tried out. The over 60 MeetUp seemed to do a lot of the same things my senior hall does. <br /><br />I wish my doctor was closer! Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-72102615745386826582016-05-05T18:05:35.350-04:002016-05-05T18:05:35.350-04:00Maybe I will check to see if we have something lik...Maybe I will check to see if we have something like "the gathering" around here. You have great options available through your senior hall. H and I are companionable, but I worry about our deficit of friends if (when) one of us is left alone. We had so many friends, but they have dwindled over the years: moves, deaths, and separations when we were living with Dad. I hope you meet Bella Rumhttp://bellarum.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-52700957837056950062016-05-05T16:58:52.243-04:002016-05-05T16:58:52.243-04:00The eye doctor said cataract surgery is a good two...The eye doctor said cataract surgery is a good two years off, if that's what you mean. But I don't think the two things are related anyway. Cataracts are a film that forms and the spider has to do with a gel-like fluid that is suppose to be there but pulls away from the eye. <br /><br />I'm anxious to hear the latest chapter on your biking club. When Don first died I looked at bikes Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-92204301899080298512016-05-05T16:13:52.463-04:002016-05-05T16:13:52.463-04:00Your post woke up my longing for friends even more...Your post woke up my longing for friends even more. From "it'd be nice, but not necessary" to "I'm lonely and I want to share fun and feelings with a couple people". Waaa! Yet I also adore No Home Invasions, and can barely tolerate being herded together on my bicycle outings. Oh well, at least we are in charge now.<br /><br />These gatherings may be magic for you in GowitheFlohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01842273685414939160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-31968354982519033932016-05-05T16:00:08.297-04:002016-05-05T16:00:08.297-04:00When I first got the 'spider' I used to tr...When I first got the 'spider' I used to try to kill it on the wall. LOL It really was unsettling at first even after I knew what it was.<br /><br />If you've read any of my older blogs you'll know I used to obsess about finding friends. It's really hard as a widow. I didn't realize how much I depended on my husband to draw them in. He was easy to get to know, I'm more Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-84465699899758745662016-05-05T15:08:56.298-04:002016-05-05T15:08:56.298-04:00Wow! Jean, thank you for the shout out! That is so...Wow! Jean, thank you for the shout out! That is so very kind of you to do that. <3 I am deeply honored. <br /><br />This gathering thing sounds amazing. I really hope it sparks a friendship or two. If I lived near you, I would love to get together, you seem like my kind of gal and I think we would have fun! I hope to hear that happening for you soon. This seemed very encouraging. Fingers and RachelRhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08687892249904526575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-38690908619940064192016-05-05T10:38:42.177-04:002016-05-05T10:38:42.177-04:00You already have what I wish I had. You have John,...You already have what I wish I had. You have John, Pearle, Merle and even Dar within walking distance. If you truly had an emergency someone would find you and you chit-chat back and forth. I like my solitude, too, but I also like educational stimulus so it's a balancing act. I absolutely HATE hate it when people drop in unexpectedly. Give me at least 10 minutes notice! With cell phones that&Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-64371121380728486232016-05-05T10:23:39.013-04:002016-05-05T10:23:39.013-04:00I don't know what is wrong with me, but I have...I don't know what is wrong with me, but I have no need to find new friends or anything to fill up "empty" days. I guess I don't get lonely and don't really feel I have any empty day? I so love my solitude that I get annoyed when I have appointments I must keep or people keep dropping in uninvited. I know. I'm weird!Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03399435237919718544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-25767964513399331412016-05-04T19:49:29.271-04:002016-05-04T19:49:29.271-04:00Dealing with clingy people is challenge and a turn...Dealing with clingy people is challenge and a turn off. I guess the best defense is to learn to spot the signs early on and nip it in the bud. My husband had trouble with a friend getting too involved in his life, took all his privacy way and he finally had to tell him to back off.<br /><br />And ohmygod, a shoplifter would be a major deal breaker for me! How could you trust her not to steal fromMisadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-42923977775968075682016-05-04T19:22:19.834-04:002016-05-04T19:22:19.834-04:00I like the concept of The Gatherings. Just for ge...I like the concept of The Gatherings. Just for getting out and talking to other humans ... and if you meet a kindred spirit, even better!<br /><br />Then you get to learn how to UNfriend someone when you learn something about them that doesn't fit you. One lady here is very very spiritual and is always trying to get me to do things with her, along those lines. Finally she learned I was The Awkward Widowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03729456066739275695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-30368315787884732902016-05-04T11:19:51.626-04:002016-05-04T11:19:51.626-04:00Oh, my gosh! Floaters that look like "cockroa...Oh, my gosh! Floaters that look like "cockroaches"? I will never complain about my "spider" again. I didn't know they can be removed but I wouldn't do it either.<br /><br />After Don's stroke we built a house and sold two because we couldn't find wheelchair friendly housing and neither house we owned could be retrofitted. Apartments were practically Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-83475036596340052232016-05-04T10:58:59.521-04:002016-05-04T10:58:59.521-04:00I never worried or thought about making friends wh...I never worried or thought about making friends when Don was alive. He made enough for both of us but those friends except for a few dropped by the wayside when he had his stroke and could no longer talk. Even so, we lived close to his family and I knew in a true emergency I could count of them, if needed which I never did. Now, they all have health issues of their own and/or caregiver issues so Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-11890537279791610592016-05-04T10:55:43.601-04:002016-05-04T10:55:43.601-04:00Last summer was almost frantically busy with Bob&#...Last summer was almost frantically busy with Bob's medical appointments, and me evolving into a new role. For some reason I seem to schedule my physical in the summer months so I was running to my own medical appointments as well as his. Last summer all those tests you do one in a blue moon seemed to come due. I'm hoping this summer is going to be very different. I'm thinking calm andLindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11586429675286969340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-48501655049072442202016-05-04T10:15:17.716-04:002016-05-04T10:15:17.716-04:00With renovations, I was busier at home than at wor...With renovations, I was busier at home than at work (at least at work I could relax in my break, and on return to home!) and it continues, with something or other needing to be done/maintained. If I was working, I would never have noticed these things. I like being busy so that's ok. Its only when something else gets added on top eg medical appointments, getting quotes, researching flights/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com