tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post3524671728661333498..comments2024-03-28T20:40:18.960-04:00Comments on The Misadventures of Widowhood: Love Letters and those that Aren’tMisadventures of Widowhoodhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-74421587075413613682017-08-11T08:35:59.600-04:002017-08-11T08:35:59.600-04:00Thankfully, none of us have to go through that fir...Thankfully, none of us have to go through that first year twice. The pain does easy up with time. Blogging really helps me with that process so I'm always glad when other widows find something in it that relates to their journey as well.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-29341966083599333632017-08-10T22:52:56.351-04:002017-08-10T22:52:56.351-04:00I am a widow too and am glad I found your blog. My...I am a widow too and am glad I found your blog. My husband died less than a year ago so the pain is very fresh. We were married 45 years and my hubby was a great guy.Terra https://www.blogger.com/profile/04396481049075747940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-3488820207854318812017-08-10T20:54:59.432-04:002017-08-10T20:54:59.432-04:00Way back when we first met through the stroke comm...Way back when we first met through the stroke community I always thought you were lucky that you got a good guy, which is truly amazing considering you didn't get to pick him out. We both have a lot to be thankful for, don't we.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-8414632729481320782017-08-10T19:47:23.897-04:002017-08-10T19:47:23.897-04:00Jean:
Don was very handsome man. reading your lov...Jean:<br /><br />Don was very handsome man. reading your love-stories &blogs remind me that even though mine was arranged marriage I also got very lucky in marrying right kind of guy who have always encouraged me to be me & have help me become person I am so proud of today. you both were very fortunate to have each other in their life.<br /><br />Asha<br /><br /><br />AshaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-40969132624490778112017-08-09T21:06:08.257-04:002017-08-09T21:06:08.257-04:00Since Fred and Don died so close together that is ...Since Fred and Don died so close together that is interesting that we've both been thinking a lot about them in recent weeks. I didn't have any widow classes but you and I have always tracked in our emotions, I think. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-3812072896559722172017-08-09T20:52:41.556-04:002017-08-09T20:52:41.556-04:00Very lovely man and husband to you.
I think hone...Very lovely man and husband to you. <br />I think honesty, trust, loyalty and kindness rate at the very top of my list, I was lucky to find it once, in a man. <br />I've been thinking a lot about Fred lately. I wonder if there is some critical point at 5.5 years? Something we didn't study about in our widow classes?Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03399435237919718544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-28563226403749751582017-08-09T20:38:30.278-04:002017-08-09T20:38:30.278-04:00Sometimes I forget how good looking he was in his ...Sometimes I forget how good looking he was in his prime. <br /><br />Love the art work on your site! Looks like you have some great shows at the musuem. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-84070479489760706822017-08-09T18:16:02.534-04:002017-08-09T18:16:02.534-04:00How nice to see a photo of Don after he had a few ...How nice to see a photo of Don after he had a few years on him! Nice looking yes, but decent, kind and honest are what make a relationship satisfying. Doesn't hurt to have a little eye candy with the package however!GMMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15168797872861544692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-92005333194286727682017-08-09T12:29:55.043-04:002017-08-09T12:29:55.043-04:00I kind of this this blog turned out like a love le...I kind of this this blog turned out like a love letter.<br /><br />"Benevolent" is a good word! I might have to borrow it. We were both lucky, we're we.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-33958666320534034822017-08-09T12:27:03.050-04:002017-08-09T12:27:03.050-04:00I only found seven letters. He might not have kept...I only found seven letters. He might not have kept them all. I'm guessing there could have been a dozen?Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-17828397066841680282017-08-09T12:23:45.076-04:002017-08-09T12:23:45.076-04:00That means a lot coming from you. Thanks. That means a lot coming from you. Thanks. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-26444625724007311232017-08-09T12:21:14.191-04:002017-08-09T12:21:14.191-04:00Me too. LOLMe too. LOLMisadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-71026947951265910222017-08-09T11:57:50.854-04:002017-08-09T11:57:50.854-04:00I don't think love letters ever go out of styl...I don't think love letters ever go out of style. So DO write one. Write one every year! It's a fun way to put your heart in touch with your words. <br /><br />While Mr. Ralph is not atop a pedestal, he's pretty high up there, even when he was here. A man among men. Benevolent is my favorite adjective for him. Honor and legacy should be kept alive!The Awkward Widowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03729456066739275695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-41841042409491092012017-08-09T11:44:42.758-04:002017-08-09T11:44:42.758-04:00Yes he was a handsome man with kind eyes. That you...Yes he was a handsome man with kind eyes. That you only had seven letters in all the years you were married shows how strong your marriage was and that the letters were written at all show how important it was to you to keep that marriage comfortable. I'm sure he knows what you want to say. He is just reminding you in those songs of his feelings for you. Arkansas Pattihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14156004753267665579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-21580384074065282182017-08-09T11:33:46.714-04:002017-08-09T11:33:46.714-04:00You said it for a lot of us out here and you said ...You said it for a lot of us out here and you said well. Love your blog Jean because you really get it. Thanks again.<br /><br />Denise in NC Denisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11159259034681912144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-37677082212767061562017-08-09T10:56:55.717-04:002017-08-09T10:56:55.717-04:00Lovely post.
You sound much better than you did wh...Lovely post.<br />You sound much better than you did when I first joined you. I'm glad.Sharonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02743921972328074980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-20415773444249533342017-08-09T09:04:07.612-04:002017-08-09T09:04:07.612-04:00Exactly, it's not grief at this point in time,...Exactly, it's not grief at this point in time, it's about honor and legacy. I don't know where it comes from but I've always been concerned with legacy long before I even met Don. Probably an over exposure to genealogy, tagging my mom around to courthouses and listening to my dad and mom's stories about family.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-66088421409470229322017-08-09T08:56:09.192-04:002017-08-09T08:56:09.192-04:00I even shared it on Facebook and I've only don...I even shared it on Facebook and I've only done that five times out of all the blogs I've written. I wanted people who knew us both to read it. The responses were heart-warming.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-45871186361301003522017-08-09T08:48:53.393-04:002017-08-09T08:48:53.393-04:00This is a great testament to the depth and maturit...This is a great testament to the depth and maturity of your love for your husband. You don't just think of yourself and your loss; you are thinking of his Legacy and your lives together.<br /><br />The best marriages are ones in which the partners lift each other and bring out the best in each other. Clearly, Don is still doing that today. It's not so much grief as it is honor. <br />Nancehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17627214346956206283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-28549116701654194372017-08-09T08:41:15.458-04:002017-08-09T08:41:15.458-04:00That really is very sweet. Thanks for sharing it....That really is very sweet. Thanks for sharing it.<br />Regards,<br />LezeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-85827547782856995692017-08-09T06:49:32.461-04:002017-08-09T06:49:32.461-04:00That's true for me, too. Don still influences ...That's true for me, too. Don still influences me every day.<br /><br />He was a good looking guy, wasn't he. He spent a lot of time outside and tanned easily.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-24039661069171396022017-08-09T06:43:12.178-04:002017-08-09T06:43:12.178-04:00I would think songs about young love are easier to...I would think songs about young love are easier to write as are break up songs. Emotions are high and you want to get them out.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-70695793796090287572017-08-09T03:40:49.482-04:002017-08-09T03:40:49.482-04:00A handsome man - and honest and upright. You were ...A handsome man - and honest and upright. You were lucky!<br /><br />I just think I have him with me all the time now, in my heart. I know his reaction/response/advice to pretty much everything that life throws at me now. My only consolation is that he went before me - glad he didn't have to face old age alone, like me. ~ LibbyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-37020335665104642942017-08-09T02:50:17.236-04:002017-08-09T02:50:17.236-04:00How wonderful it is that you had that kind of rela...How wonderful it is that you had that kind of relationship with Don. Few (if any) decisions are as consequential as choosing a life mate. <br /><br />I never thought about it before, but you're right about there being a dearth of songs that capture the depth and spirit of a long, enduring love, a love that doesn't falter when times get tough. I guess they go for the younger demographic. Bella Rumhttp://bellarum.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com