tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post4056372567869535412..comments2024-03-28T20:40:18.960-04:00Comments on The Misadventures of Widowhood: The Perfect Dead HusbandMisadventures of Widowhoodhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-65893127238389089222014-07-02T23:20:31.054-04:002014-07-02T23:20:31.054-04:00Have you ever wondered it you and Fred has meant w...Have you ever wondered it you and Fred has meant when you were younger would you have had the same great relationship you had? Sometimes I think people have to go through some bad relationships to appreciate a good one when you find it. I don't think longevity in a marriage is necessarily the best judge of a successful marriage which is what your original post on this topic was hedging aroundMisadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-89977398533397675272014-07-02T22:35:13.248-04:002014-07-02T22:35:13.248-04:00Sue is right--it starts when the marriage is young...Sue is right--it starts when the marriage is young.I know 6 married couples who have been married for 57 years or longer. Not a one of those couples act like they even like their spouse, let alone still love them. The women constantly complain about their husband's controlling ways and the husband's complain about their wives bossiness. I, am alone, but the remembrances I have about myJudyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03399435237919718544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-11122726887835561872014-07-02T20:49:07.223-04:002014-07-02T20:49:07.223-04:00Welcome to my blog, Sue! I hope you are inspired t...Welcome to my blog, Sue! I hope you are inspired to start one of your own. They really are a lot of fun, especially for someone who loves to write as much as you do.<br /><br />You had me laughing at the 'bus heater.' My old guyese translator would not have gotten that one on the first try.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-40133071486403556122014-07-02T20:19:17.749-04:002014-07-02T20:19:17.749-04:00Missing something here at home and know why: when ...Missing something here at home and know why: when our oldest granddaughter was interviewing my beloved for some project and asked about regrets, he said he wished he had been a better YOUNG husband. Me, too. That is where you lay the groundwork for the marriage you build. He was, I think, raised to think that being devoted to the job was pre-eminent. He kept telling me that, because of his Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-12738848211003224122014-07-02T09:34:36.255-04:002014-07-02T09:34:36.255-04:00Even though you don't write a lot about H, I c...Even though you don't write a lot about H, I can tell by your blog that you two are completely compatible and supportive of one another. I don't know how much choosing well or dumb luck plays into it, but I think it's more about the character of each person involved and how well they each are able to let go of the little things that happen along in a marriage. You see so many people Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-76157160509460709032014-07-02T09:21:39.075-04:002014-07-02T09:21:39.075-04:00We've talked about this, about how there's...We've talked about this, about how there's so much shared history in a long marriage, and all of that "sticking together through thick and thin" that happens over all those years. I know that we're in the home stretch and I'm grateful that I'm still with the guy who brung me to the dance. It sounds like you and Don were very compatible. I do wonder if I chose well orBella Rumhttp://culdesacchronicles.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-90489293699802278732014-07-01T19:03:56.557-04:002014-07-01T19:03:56.557-04:00Donna, it sounds like you and your man have found ...Donna, it sounds like you and your man have found the secret to a long relationship, too. And I will vote for a drama free relationship over exciting and glamorous any day. The latter doesn't breed the deep respect, love and contentment that you talked about quite as easily.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-5330100494915063732014-07-01T18:49:27.433-04:002014-07-01T18:49:27.433-04:00I do still have my man, and am grateful every sing...I do still have my man, and am grateful every single day. Our 42nd anniversary is coming up. In that many years (and the 4 dating years preceding our marriage) we often joke we've lived several "lifetimes" together -- through the ages and stages of personal growth and development, coupledom/family life changes, and geographic moves. Not every minute has been bliss and some donnajurenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10799559087972759233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-88314781396012324892014-07-01T18:41:04.666-04:002014-07-01T18:41:04.666-04:00Thanks! I know what you mean about patience and un...Thanks! I know what you mean about patience and understanding missing in a lot of relationships these days.I see it too. You gotta have both to have staying power.<br /> Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-9038800163536338442014-07-01T18:11:00.966-04:002014-07-01T18:11:00.966-04:00Another great post, sounds like you and Don were g...Another great post, sounds like you and Don were great together. You don't see that level of understanding and patience in a lot of marriages nowadays. You were blessed to have found each other. The Polished Widowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17481720108635907811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-4662143057381259692014-07-01T13:34:29.384-04:002014-07-01T13:34:29.384-04:00I've heard/read other widows say the bitchy ex...I've heard/read other widows say the bitchy exchanges bother them, too, so I do think it's a widow thing that we notice them more than we used to. In my first year of widowhood I saw a nasty exchange over buy baby carrots or a bunch of carrots and the man was being treated in such a degrading way for wanting baby carrots that I felt like pressing money in his hand and telling him to get Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-87458247130818848712014-07-01T13:00:17.738-04:002014-07-01T13:00:17.738-04:00A+ in sharing! A very important aspect in any rel...A+ in sharing! A very important aspect in any relationship, in my mind.<br /><br />Wow are you right about being a sensitive widow as I watch bitchy exchanges at the grocery store. Pick your battles people ... Ms. Misadventures is right! Get two tubes of toothpaste!!The Awkward Widowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03729456066739275695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-43084549363142267632014-07-01T12:47:28.441-04:002014-07-01T12:47:28.441-04:00I know I was, Asha. Most of the time I believe in ...I know I was, Asha. Most of the time I believe in the soul mate thing but once in awhile I think it was just a roll of the dice that we found each other and that good luck had a lot to do with it.<br /><br />Some people go through their whole lives without realizing and acknowledging what your stroke taught you about your marriage. The best is yet to come for you two. I always loved the wise Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-67542166228969196192014-07-01T12:33:18.857-04:002014-07-01T12:33:18.857-04:00jean :
you were both so lucky to have each other ...jean :<br /><br />you were both so lucky to have each other for so long. I have been married for more than 20 years & I still get bothered by some of things he does or won't do, but it took me adversity in my life in form of stroke to realize in big scheme of things this are all petty things & he is great where it matters the most.<br /><br />AshaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com