tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post7315633417782355053..comments2024-03-27T22:13:53.704-04:00Comments on The Misadventures of Widowhood: Families, Travel and Good Advice Misadventures of Widowhoodhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-39306225327139146052017-04-10T17:39:17.642-04:002017-04-10T17:39:17.642-04:00Grief is grief, no matter the relationship we miss...Grief is grief, no matter the relationship we miss. I saw a great video that says it's not a desirable thing think we can "get over grief"---that we have to acknowledge our grief in order to bring forth the good memories. I'm mostly at the fond wistfulness stage except for a few dates on the calendar.<br /><br />Thanks for the comment!Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-69477235691482327782017-04-10T16:33:37.254-04:002017-04-10T16:33:37.254-04:00I'm a terrific Secret Keeper. If I ever feel ...I'm a terrific Secret Keeper. If I ever feel the need to blab, I just tell my two cats.<br /><br />Whether or not your Red Letter Days ever fade is a personal thing, I think. For my own Sadnesses (and I am not a widow, so they are not comparable, of course), I was sure I would always be actively In Grief. That I would never be able to see those RLDs go by without reliving them.<br /><br />Nancehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17627214346956206283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-9988531974693398612017-04-03T22:23:29.240-04:002017-04-03T22:23:29.240-04:00I'm a lot the same way. My life is an open boo...I'm a lot the same way. My life is an open book. I had a sister-in-law who'd tell me stuff then tell me not to say anything to anyone, but it didn't take long to figure out that she'd tell everyone herself. LOL <br /><br />As for why people tell you their secrets, it's probably because you're an easy person to talk with who gives good advice.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-27894716305813097302017-04-03T20:49:06.229-04:002017-04-03T20:49:06.229-04:00I laughed about you publishing the big secret in y...I laughed about you publishing the big secret in your blog. People tell me their secrets all the time,and I don't know why because I'm what one of my former teaching colleagues calls a "high discloser" -- not secretive at all about my own life. Since the "big secrets" people are telling me are usually not things I would keep secret in my own life, I either have to willAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-4975974154921402872017-04-03T20:05:07.386-04:002017-04-03T20:05:07.386-04:00Thank you!
That should have been our houses, not...Thank you! <br /><br />That should have been our houses, not outhouses and yes, we had four at one time. We sold two rental places before my husband's stroke and then I sold both our other houses afterward to build another wheelchair accessible place that I still live in.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-82817266885801555222017-04-03T19:19:48.981-04:002017-04-03T19:19:48.981-04:00You are a natural story teller, and that makes all...You are a natural story teller, and that makes all the difference. We have a sense of being there and feeling what you feel. I'd read about a routine trip to the grocery store if you wrote it! <br /><br />Out houses? More than one?!Laurenhttp://www.laurensnelson.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-84717097685748965152017-04-03T10:36:18.451-04:002017-04-03T10:36:18.451-04:00It's that a great quote, it fits so many past ...It's that a great quote, it fits so many past regrets, hurts and painful situations.<br /><br />I can't imagine having to do a roof so soon after losing a spouse. It would have done me in!Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-83269676783993175142017-04-03T10:11:01.711-04:002017-04-03T10:11:01.711-04:00I love that quote!!!! I'm glad for pink-lette...I love that quote!!!! I'm glad for pink-letter days because they don't hurt as much, just good memories, however some of them seem to stay red-letter for a very long time! I had to have a new roof, and some new boards, 3 months after Fred died. It almost did me in, but was completed in 2 days--also by non-English speaking men. They did a great job and tidied up everything before they Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03399435237919718544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-39822427391798964382017-04-02T13:14:09.366-04:002017-04-02T13:14:09.366-04:00My life is so ordinary that it still boggles my mi...My life is so ordinary that it still boggles my mind that people keep reading my blog. But more than anything else, it's my blog that keeps me active...so I find things to do to have something to write about.<br /><br />A Place to Call Home looks like an interesting series. I've seen it advertised but can't get it the channel it's on. Anything set in Australia has a built-in charmMisadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-21275581766804815402017-04-02T11:32:06.075-04:002017-04-02T11:32:06.075-04:00The book you read brought to mind the plot line of...The book you read brought to mind the plot line of 'A Place to Call Home' on public television. Well written <i>anything</i> keeps us engaged. <br /><br />The thought of replacing a roof is stressful for anyone who has never done it alone. Your roof may have more life in it than you think, but it's wise to prepare yourself. <br /><br />The photo of Kotor makes me want to go there.Laurenhttp://www.laurensnelson.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-72950296788200191152017-04-01T21:06:01.474-04:002017-04-01T21:06:01.474-04:00Terracotta roofs are not common in snow climates. ...Terracotta roofs are not common in snow climates. I don't think I've ever seen one in Michigan except as decorations on a Mexican restaurants or turn of the century estates. I've never even heard of a concrete roof on a house here, probably be too heavy with a snow pack on top. Tin roofs used to be popular on farm houses decades ago here but now you'd have to see a lot of roofs Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-69249808715277403632017-04-01T20:36:32.323-04:002017-04-01T20:36:32.323-04:00We actually are expecting three babies this summer...We actually are expecting three babies this summer. Sometimes I can't believe the population explosion we're having in the family after decades of no babies at all.<br /><br />When people trace family history most people concentrate on the male side of the family and the other side of the family history gets lost over time. With modern women keeping their names or joining hers with her Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-17667136965724641242017-04-01T20:35:49.409-04:002017-04-01T20:35:49.409-04:00Such an interesting post! I don't think the pa...Such an interesting post! I don't think the pain of loss ever goes away entirely, although it may be less at times.<br /><br />Re the roof shingles, I am puzzled. Here (where weather not as extreme as yours) we have terracotta (the best), and concrete (cheaper) roof tiles, some have been there for 60+ years. Metal roofs have taken off in recent years. The idea of replacing a roof every 15+ Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-85884484387337910982017-04-01T20:29:28.180-04:002017-04-01T20:29:28.180-04:00I need to look into that because I do worry about ...I need to look into that because I do worry about my roof catching on fire around the 4th with all the fireworks this neighborhood likes.<br /><br />It's fun to watch my nieces and nephew in their grandparent roles. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-81191089508922260712017-04-01T20:27:13.405-04:002017-04-01T20:27:13.405-04:00I love it when you write about the marina. You liv...I love it when you write about the marina. You live such an interesting life there and in your travels. <br /><br />Stay safe!!!!!!Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-54386938185196628142017-04-01T20:19:11.193-04:002017-04-01T20:19:11.193-04:00The crew that took a week, I swear sat around on t...The crew that took a week, I swear sat around on top of the roof doing nothing half the time. I like the idea of getting it done in one or two days because of the dog and chance of rain, so you can be sure that's a question I'll ask.<br /><br />That's amazing about your husband's family and only one grandson to maybe carry on the name. Mine I can understand because each generationMisadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-31857537500179791702017-04-01T19:21:05.933-04:002017-04-01T19:21:05.933-04:00H found a leak in our roof yesterday. :( I hope yo...H found a leak in our roof yesterday. :( I hope you can find someone reliable. I'm always cautious about things like that. <br />My MIL was so happy when we had a son. H's brother had three girls, so there was no one to carry on the family name until we had a son. I'll have to tell my son that story. He has two girls and one son. So the name goes on. <br />So sorry that April is Bella Rumhttp://bellarum.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-11892940776371746462017-04-01T19:10:46.438-04:002017-04-01T19:10:46.438-04:00We got a metal roof that looks like tile! 50 year...We got a metal roof that looks like tile! 50 year transferable warranty and even the realtors thought it was real. It's put over your existing roof so we didn't hear the rain pinging. Also is fire resistant ... good to have if your neighborhood has lots of trees.<br /><br />CONGRATS on the new little guy!!! Little people are our future.The Awkward Widowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03729456066739275695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-83349391842621611422017-04-01T17:54:49.495-04:002017-04-01T17:54:49.495-04:00The first robin always was a huge deal for us. Som...The first robin always was a huge deal for us. Sometimes, they got there a little early, and had some uncomfortable days before things improved.<br /><br />I feel for Levi. For the past two weeks, they've been pounding in new metal pilings in the marina. It's quite an operation, with a crane on a barge, a tug, and the biggest danged pile driver you've ever seen. Every time they would shoreacreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16284698314697628805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-28055901997677721412017-04-01T16:33:28.721-04:002017-04-01T16:33:28.721-04:00While living in Texas we went trough getting a new...While living in Texas we went trough getting a new roof two times. Hail damage both times. Both paid for by insurance. Our entire neighborhood got roofs. From that experience I'd say go with the crew of immigrants. They worked much harder in our neighborhood than the 'American' crews. <br /><br />Bob is one of 12 children fathered by his father. Would you believe the name will run outLindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11586429675286969340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-72875553136018178142017-04-01T15:05:19.782-04:002017-04-01T15:05:19.782-04:00The windstorm that got the roofs on my street is t...The windstorm that got the roofs on my street is the same one that came your way and destroyed your fence. I was lucky on my roof but the clock is ticking on its life.<br /><br />I've been on a reading kick here. Hope you find some good reads.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-79240986386014384812017-04-01T15:01:04.074-04:002017-04-01T15:01:04.074-04:00I know, I have to remember the number of times aut...I know, I have to remember the number of times authors rewrite those wise and memorable lines. Heck, even this blog goes through two drafts before it's ready to publish through on the third. <br /><br />A metal roof would be awesome. Love the sound in the rain. <br /><br />My great-nephew already has a baby girl and I don't think they plan on anymore. :( I need to talk one of my Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-917108232357578272017-04-01T14:07:13.734-04:002017-04-01T14:07:13.734-04:00Yesterday wa MaryLou's birthday and she was 69...Yesterday wa MaryLou's birthday and she was 69 years of age. You know, she may be 69 but she looks 50. My wife has taaken great care of herself. Me, my granddaughter says grandpa, you look 80. Not really but Marylou looks great. Even her voice, if she's on the phone, people say can I speak to your mother or father. LOL<br />I'm glad that the wind didn't really destroy your roof. Cruisin Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13137904435537645207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-88110614234963539102017-04-01T12:47:22.217-04:002017-04-01T12:47:22.217-04:00I wish I could tell you when the remembering days ...I wish I could tell you when the remembering days get better or fade. I suppose some memories take longer to pale than others. It's been that way in my life, anyway.<br />Good to hear your roof has been repaired, at least temporarily anyway. A new roof is a major expenditure. Have you considered a metal roof? Sure, they cost more, but add value to the house - a good selling point.<br />A new Sharonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02743921972328074980noreply@blogger.com