tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post7775886809880942292..comments2024-03-27T22:13:53.704-04:00Comments on The Misadventures of Widowhood: The Road to HappinessMisadventures of Widowhoodhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-68060955937244621742013-11-27T19:04:06.208-05:002013-11-27T19:04:06.208-05:00Thanks for the comments, the other Jean. LOL The c...Thanks for the comments, the other Jean. LOL The combination between genes and life events makes sense. I always figured I got my optimist from my Dad who got it from his dad...there was always a better day ahead for them both. The Serenity Prayer is a great tool for getting through tough times. I've always loved it.<br />Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-8909807360580235972013-11-27T17:54:53.473-05:002013-11-27T17:54:53.473-05:00I'm late to the party here, but I wanted to jo...I'm late to the party here, but I wanted to join the conversation anyway. I've often wondered how people become optimists or pessimists. (I was just reading about an identical twin study in England that suggests its an interaction between genes and life events.) Like you, I am an optimist; and it's something I've been very grateful for, because it just makes my life so much Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-62858209154374743352013-11-09T13:10:50.588-05:002013-11-09T13:10:50.588-05:00I Googled it, too. I'm sure it's yours. Pe...I Googled it, too. I'm sure it's yours. Perfect.Bella Rumhttp://culdesacchronicles.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-87853711338320092132013-11-08T17:12:42.216-05:002013-11-08T17:12:42.216-05:00Gowittheflow: That would be hard to wake up every ...Gowittheflow: That would be hard to wake up every day thinking this is going to be the best day of my life. I couldn't do that. I'm happy just to stay away from the extremes on both end of the emotional spectrum. Appreciating small gifts definitely enriches our days.<br /><br />Bella Rum: As far as I know I came up with the penguin phrase on my own. Just to be sure, I Googled it and didn&Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-46962653008202479902013-11-08T11:01:15.542-05:002013-11-08T11:01:15.542-05:00I'm a pessimist, but I'm surrounded by opt...I'm a pessimist, but I'm surrounded by optimists. My husband is the greatest of them all. I've found that if I get up and do something, it changes everything. For some, optimism is a way of being, the way they were wired. For some of us, it's a daily choice. My favorite way to stomp the funk is to put a paint brush in my hand. Just put me in front of a porch railing, a wall or a Bella Rumhttp://culdesacchronicles.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-60027858193000059582013-11-08T10:26:19.009-05:002013-11-08T10:26:19.009-05:00Great post! Long ago, a self proclaimed 'real...Great post! Long ago, a self proclaimed 'realist' called me a Pollyanna, so convinced was he that my optimism had no basis in reality. <br /><br />Some days it's harder than others to believe this is the best day of my life, but always I remind myself the key is my attitude. I do know that if I'm not expecting this to be the best day of my life it hasn't a chance of beingGowitheFlohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01842273685414939160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-69425602250406195352013-11-06T23:07:03.844-05:002013-11-06T23:07:03.844-05:00Asha, I thought there might be a few people from m...Asha, I thought there might be a few people from my past life in stroke support who'd remember this blog. It sparked a big debate, if I remember correctly.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-77741728605117793662013-11-06T22:37:19.719-05:002013-11-06T22:37:19.719-05:00Jean :
this blog of yours had left great impressi...Jean :<br /><br />this blog of yours had left great impression on me even 6 years ago & still rings true today. I think I am optimist. I never worry about anything, hubby takes care of details my job is to just go with flow<br /><br />Asha<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-11978234321435263372013-11-06T17:10:21.865-05:002013-11-06T17:10:21.865-05:00AW: Your husband's passing is still really fre...AW: Your husband's passing is still really fresh and I'm betting this is all temporary for you---the worry-wart, feeling awkward and vulnerable. I can sure identify with going through those stages. Hang in there. It does get better.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-34778454399399231372013-11-06T14:03:17.416-05:002013-11-06T14:03:17.416-05:00I'm becoming more of a Worry Wart these days. ...I'm becoming more of a Worry Wart these days. All while feeling awkward and vulnerable! I hope I'm not losing my optimistic outlook. In hopes that this is just temporary ... widowhood, moving out of state, second grandchild .... I'm visiting my Dr today to get a little pharmaceutical help! <br /><br />This grieving stuff is a lot of work.<br />The Awkward Widowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03729456066739275695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-34441359757678476792013-11-06T10:02:05.692-05:002013-11-06T10:02:05.692-05:00To make it even more confusing, I've always co...To make it even more confusing, I've always consisted myself a 'worry-wart' too. LOL Another term that we could use is we are 'detail orientated' and being so, came in handy for me when I was dealing with brides for twenty years. Doing flowers over 5,000 weddings, I never had an unhappy bride, probably because I always had a back up plan. Worry-warts always have a back up planMisadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-49839734543672992392013-11-06T09:44:29.419-05:002013-11-06T09:44:29.419-05:00I've always been a worry-wart and pessimist--w...I've always been a worry-wart and pessimist--which is odd because most people I know think I am just the opposite. No wonder life confuses me--I am living a dual-person life!Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03399435237919718544noreply@blogger.com