tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post1140194761160271612..comments2024-03-28T20:40:18.960-04:00Comments on The Misadventures of Widowhood: Elderly Cutie Pies and Other Silly StereotypesMisadventures of Widowhoodhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-87382143283711605292013-07-02T08:30:39.514-04:002013-07-02T08:30:39.514-04:00Oh, my gosh! A derby girl name...that will give me...Oh, my gosh! A derby girl name...that will give me a few hours worth of fun thoughts! Thanks for the idea.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-14267579574698188512013-07-01T22:31:21.898-04:002013-07-01T22:31:21.898-04:00Oh, Jean...so funny and sharp, as usual. I need to...Oh, Jean...so funny and sharp, as usual. I need to get caught up on your blog, as you always cheer me up. Hopefully you'll be able to get back on those roller skates, soon ;-) You know those derby girls come up with very clever names. I think you might need one...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-13158870257591096622013-07-01T13:55:55.793-04:002013-07-01T13:55:55.793-04:00Welcome to my blog! Thanks for reminding me of the...Welcome to my blog! Thanks for reminding me of the regional differences in how often people use the term "hon" etc. A friend of mine who moved from the north to the south had a hard time getting used to that at first. But now she just accepts it as part of the regional flavor of the south.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-53019530675265817062013-07-01T09:58:14.608-04:002013-07-01T09:58:14.608-04:00Hi - I'm new to your blog, so actually thought...Hi - I'm new to your blog, so actually thought that the Roller Derby accident was for real. I love your sense of humor. I'm usually not quick enough to think of good replies at the time.<br /><br />Age is just a number. I still believe that if you don't use it you loose it. And you can get it back - you just have to start out a little slower, and be consistent. I say this as I Grannie Frannie Runshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16320045525378931002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-66677994961596330912013-06-30T16:09:34.311-04:002013-06-30T16:09:34.311-04:00Thank you, Sally and welcome! Your comment about 7...Thank you, Sally and welcome! Your comment about 70 being old wasn't nearly as bad as one my mother got on her 50th birthday. Some teenager was shocked when he figure out that was a half a century and asked her if she knew that. LOL Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-57266794990592332612013-06-30T15:23:29.993-04:002013-06-30T15:23:29.993-04:00I don't know why, but it bothers me to have so...I don't know why, but it bothers me to have some young pipsqueak call me "sweetie"!<br /><br />Many years ago, I was talking to an old friend that I had not spoken with in a very long time. In talking something was mentioned about age, and she said "but you're a lot younger than I am". I asked her age, and she told me "70". I blurted out "you R old&Sallyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02865722713732049339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-678664061129662962013-06-30T07:45:25.870-04:002013-06-30T07:45:25.870-04:00Ficherreader: After spending 12 years pushing a wh...Ficherreader: After spending 12 years pushing a wheelchair nothing surprises me about the way a few people talk (or ignore) people using chairs. Good for Hall, for writing about it. <br /><br />Stepintothefuture: I used to get those 'why no children' questions too and it's only been in recent years that I am comfortable enough to say I was biologically challenged or to say "I hadMisadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-19214626158739956092013-06-29T21:59:20.466-04:002013-06-29T21:59:20.466-04:00I love the roller derby response; perfect!! (When ...I love the roller derby response; perfect!! (When I was in my late 20s, I had some similar responses for people I barely knew who thought it was perfectly appropriate to ask me in the middle of a dinner party why I didn't have children!) <br />The endearments bother me because they are infantilizing, and I actually consider myself a competent adult. -JeanAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-18412349231214812662013-06-29T20:47:16.010-04:002013-06-29T20:47:16.010-04:00Donald Hall has an essay about the way he's tr...Donald Hall has an essay about the way he's treated as an old person. He visited the Smithsonian, in a wheelchair, and was looking at a Henry Moore statue. The guard bent down and talked babytalk(!) to him. Hall, incidentally, had written a book about Henry Moore. http://www.newyorker.com/reporting/2012/01/23/120123fa_fact_hall<br /><br />Good comeback with the roller derby accident!Fichereaderhttp://somenewnormal.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-86473632330194965042013-06-29T11:26:24.007-04:002013-06-29T11:26:24.007-04:00I've often wondered why something so simple as...I've often wondered why something so simple as a throw-away endearment can cause my hackles to go up. I think it partly is a learned response from remembering how much it bothered my mother-in-law and my mother when it started happening to them. The other part, I believe, is those endearments are a reminder that some people don't view us as 'reliant' anymore. We're 'cute&#Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-71768964129309505522013-06-29T11:03:46.905-04:002013-06-29T11:03:46.905-04:00I get a lot of "Dear" and "Hon"...I get a lot of "Dear" and "Hon"--makes me seethe. Judyhttp://judeself.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-2827435021666119682013-06-29T09:24:18.054-04:002013-06-29T09:24:18.054-04:00I've been having low lights put in my hair for...I've been having low lights put in my hair for nearly a year now and they sure do make you look and feel younger. (This new hairdresser is much better at it than my old one, so because of that and the entertainment fodder for blogs she may give me in the future, I'll probably stick with her. <br /><br />That was a smart waiter you had! LOLMisadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-60776542628966286762013-06-29T08:27:47.596-04:002013-06-29T08:27:47.596-04:00THIS is what it feels like being older? Keep telli...THIS is what it feels like being older? Keep telling those roller derby stories, and dye your hair the color of the month. Maybe that would tickle your new hairdresser's fancy, and she'd take you out of the sweet little old lady category.<br /><br />Once I fished for compliments from a waiter. I was with my two sisters, one 7 and one 5 years older, and tired of being told we all looked GowitheFlohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01842273685414939160noreply@blogger.com