tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post2691618075855706793..comments2024-03-29T08:54:05.713-04:00Comments on The Misadventures of Widowhood: Reoccurring Dreams and Memory QueuesMisadventures of Widowhoodhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comBlogger34125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-5880950967382804712019-10-25T20:26:37.863-04:002019-10-25T20:26:37.863-04:00When I take a sleeping pill the bladder queue does...When I take a sleeping pill the bladder queue doesn't get to my brain/I don't wake up and I don't wet the bed, figure that one out. <br /><br />Repetitious dreams are fascinating, aren't they. I like to thing the ones about people we know when we were young are dreams of wishing for simpler times and less complicated relationships.<br /><br />I can't imagine how long it would Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-31356555847776776882019-10-25T16:47:08.295-04:002019-10-25T16:47:08.295-04:00I have that same bathroom search dream, but lately...I have that same bathroom search dream, but lately it seems to involve people in line not queueing up fairly and I can't break into the line because people keep joining the line willy nilly. My mom claims to have had the same dream for years, so maybe it's created by a message from the bladder to the brain. Ha! <br /><br />I do have one old boyfriend/fiance that I have dreams about Hope Springshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16711100897900771363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-60474317775959062962019-10-25T14:40:06.001-04:002019-10-25T14:40:06.001-04:00I/we haven't added any collectibles to the hou...I/we haven't added any collectibles to the house in twenty years and I downsized a LOT after my husband died. I don't have have clutter because we have a big house, but before my husband's stroke when we were buying I used to try live by the one in/one out rule. I agree, it's really hard to stick to that!Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-10549197519171537042019-10-25T11:18:01.546-04:002019-10-25T11:18:01.546-04:00There is, I am sure, a happy medium between clutte...There is, I am sure, a happy medium between cluttered and minimalist - but I have yet to find it! My partner and I brought in a rule that you mustn't bring anything new into the house until you had gotten rid of an object for it to replace. That lasted about two minutes. It's not that we're drowning in "stuff" but we should definitely clear out a few cupboards! Around My Kitchen Tablehttp://www.aroundmykitchentable.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-38515291138707822492019-10-24T11:04:48.469-04:002019-10-24T11:04:48.469-04:00It's probably a good thing you can't remem...It's probably a good thing you can't remember the ones that wake up you up in a sweat. That's my story and I'm sticking to it. LOL Thanks for checking in here, Paul.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-80739517915570144882019-10-24T10:51:04.807-04:002019-10-24T10:51:04.807-04:00I used to have no problems with dreams but now eve...I used to have no problems with dreams but now every night all my dreams are different. Many of my dreams are wonderful but once in awhile I have one that wakes me up sweating. The problem is I can't seem to remember what it's about. Oh well. At least I can sleep longer then I use to. Enjoy life Jean.<br /><br />Cruisin PaulCruisin Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13137904435537645207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-6459068720980644752019-10-24T09:10:00.318-04:002019-10-24T09:10:00.318-04:00Reading your blog, I know you feel the same kind o...Reading your blog, I know you feel the same kind of attachment to things that I do. I love how everything you show has a story to tell.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-65353567967088323802019-10-24T08:57:45.213-04:002019-10-24T08:57:45.213-04:00I don't see how minimalists do it. A dear frie...I don't see how minimalists do it. A dear friend and also a fave cousin are both minimalists and yet their homes are warm and with personality. I admire that. But I can't "BE" that. When I think about downsizing or even doing my ongoing basement treks to get rid of stuff, I find it so hard. Oh, some things are easy but others come with those memories you speak of and they'reJeaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17482528482559445943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-59913187665919140212019-10-24T08:10:23.579-04:002019-10-24T08:10:23.579-04:00It's kind of fun sometimes to try to figure ou...It's kind of fun sometimes to try to figure out where are dreams come from, isn't it. I've only moved once in my entire life and did a major downsizing then and another major downsizing after my husband died. This one is harder. If I had my life to do over, I'd go to more museums and buy less. LOLMisadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-66954557414637449732019-10-24T01:38:19.132-04:002019-10-24T01:38:19.132-04:00I dream a lot too. Sometimes I wonder how in the ...I dream a lot too. Sometimes I wonder how in the heck my brain came up with the theme and other times I know what triggered it. With all your downsizing, I imagine there are so many memories daily and, like you said about the two books, some are really hard to part with. I've moved many times and each required a small downsizing and some were really hard. I think you're doing great. Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16894294588507668479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-91426190941066217372019-10-23T21:58:16.830-04:002019-10-23T21:58:16.830-04:00LOL I have that happen all the time on Facebook. LOL I have that happen all the time on Facebook. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-66338940564096451302019-10-23T21:47:43.803-04:002019-10-23T21:47:43.803-04:00Sorry. Those comments were both me. Somehow the ...Sorry. Those comments were both me. Somehow the first one got sent before I finished what I wanted to say!<br />Regards,<br />LezeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-38212481915183336802019-10-23T18:43:35.932-04:002019-10-23T18:43:35.932-04:00Wonder if it's the same house the Lean (above)...Wonder if it's the same house the Lean (above)wrote about I would like to believe that a library where books are valued would have vetted those mutilated books before the exhibit was allowed. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-67312310630185967032019-10-23T17:20:21.981-04:002019-10-23T17:20:21.981-04:00I hope so too. I once saw a purse made out of an o...I hope so too. I once saw a purse made out of an old book and the book was worth far more than the purse the gal was trying to sell. She had a whole booth of old book/purses. I would hope crafters will get smart and start looking up the books they carve up before doing so, but I won't hold my breath. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-78627663464025229782019-10-23T17:15:18.110-04:002019-10-23T17:15:18.110-04:00One of the things that makes it hard to downsize i...One of the things that makes it hard to downsize is I won't have the money after the move to buy more stuff, if feel like my unit is too bland. <br /><br />I get some happy dreams but not it the last month or two.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-24339561580561501042019-10-23T17:12:56.173-04:002019-10-23T17:12:56.173-04:00We were visiting a stately home in England months ...We were visiting a stately home in England months ago and there was an exhibition in the rooms. It used books as “art” but did not keep the books intact. They were either cut or mutilated. I hope that none of them were valuable but we peered at them and thought that some of the pages had interesting etchings and pictures. It was a bit obscene.<br />And it seemed an odd display in an old home Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-81713859580661743592019-10-23T17:08:11.705-04:002019-10-23T17:08:11.705-04:00We were visiting a stately home in England months ...We were visiting a stately home in England months ago and there was an art exhibition in the rooms that were books. The problem was that the books were used to create “art” by cutting the books. I hope that there were no valuable books used in the exhibitLeahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18075056699189094914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-80415673250202519342019-10-23T16:20:59.524-04:002019-10-23T16:20:59.524-04:00WOW! I don't know whether you are lucky or no...WOW! I don't know whether you are lucky or not to have dreams. I don't remember most of my dreams but seem to be equal sad/scary/bothersome and happy.<br /><br />You are right about only wanting to move this one last time! It's just too much work!The Awkward Widowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03729456066739275695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-90733111388417524372019-10-23T14:41:38.694-04:002019-10-23T14:41:38.694-04:00I'm not sure if it's the searching dreams ...I'm not sure if it's the searching dreams or the fact that I don't get enough deep sleep that leaves me worn out in the mornings but getting enough sleep is a major issue in my life. I get some really strange dreams!Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-10480329547034072322019-10-23T14:03:46.712-04:002019-10-23T14:03:46.712-04:00I hope you do have dreams also when you get to int...I hope you do have dreams also when you get to interact with Don. I treasure those that I have when a loved one visits. I have lost dreams also but it is always my old VW bug that I haven't seen in 16 years. Those searching ones leave you tired in the morning. Arkansas Pattihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14156004753267665579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-33276434684001341852019-10-23T10:49:48.830-04:002019-10-23T10:49:48.830-04:00I never imagined that I would be downsizing to som...I never imagined that I would be downsizing to something as small as I'm moving to. I always figured at least I'd have a well organized garage. But life changes. I could not live in a minimalist house and go to the neighbor's to borrow stuff a minimalist refuses to own---like vacuums. I could not live without interesting (to me) things on the walls and bookshelves.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-59601957949503433642019-10-23T10:44:45.568-04:002019-10-23T10:44:45.568-04:00I didn't find my soulmate until I was 27. If y...I didn't find my soulmate until I was 27. If you keep busy doing things you enjoy, you'll find yours. <br /><br />You are right about not always knowing if a dream is good or not. I used to keep a dream diary and I still have a ton of them that I remember when I wake up.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-56337724594076450012019-10-23T10:39:16.915-04:002019-10-23T10:39:16.915-04:00I'm worried without the memory queues I won...I'm worried without the memory queues I won't have the memories, thus I continue to write about my downsizing and trust me, I'm only sharing a fraction of my downsizing stories.<br /><br />Your apple theory is a good one. I'm kind of thinking the apples represent the things I need to take with me that are necessary and not get so lost in the soul-feeding stuff. In my daytime life Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-61215425640497229632019-10-23T10:27:44.656-04:002019-10-23T10:27:44.656-04:00People ask that "do you feel lighter letting ...People ask that "do you feel lighter letting it go" question all the time and I can only say I will feel more "portable" which will be good. I feel good that I'm not leaving this job to my nieces to do. Although the job won't be the same level of difficulty for them without the emotions involved...just difficult in terms of the time they'd take away from their Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-60273965712921167942019-10-23T10:12:45.367-04:002019-10-23T10:12:45.367-04:00In theory I like the concept of minimalism, but in...In theory I like the concept of minimalism, but in practice I'm too emotionally invested in our stuff to want to get rid of most of it. Some of it, yes-- & am doing that. But we're still happy in the house and I don't want to live in an empty one. Now if I was in an apartment it'd be a whole different storyAlly Beanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17017098395188176477noreply@blogger.com