tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post2737045902917038849..comments2024-03-29T08:54:05.713-04:00Comments on The Misadventures of Widowhood: Lost in Time, Memories and Other ThingsMisadventures of Widowhoodhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-54636695835154099332015-02-05T13:12:27.641-05:002015-02-05T13:12:27.641-05:00I'm Exhibit A in how things change in the blin...I'm Exhibit A in how things change in the blink of an eye. If you ever want to know what that was like for me, look in my right hand column for a link to "How Don's Stroke Changed my Life." Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-84053347554869774472015-02-05T11:40:31.363-05:002015-02-05T11:40:31.363-05:00We have actually thought of that! But the way our...We have actually thought of that! But the way our city lot, although large and on a wooded ravine, is situated, it would put is right next to the "old" house and I'd be too sad to be in proximity to "strangers" living in our house. Best to make a clean break. Boy, I never thought I'd be wrestling with these decisions. I'm 64 and in pretty good condition, but I&donnajurenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10799559087972759233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-85540406876883185722015-02-04T23:04:16.759-05:002015-02-04T23:04:16.759-05:00I want to downsize while I can still make all my o...I want to downsize while I can still make all my own decisions and not have to dependent on someone. I've seen that too many times where kids think they know better on what an old person values. <br /><br />You are still young, so enjoy your property and house. Maybe someday you could just build something smaller on your property and just move next door. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-76339310454187802042015-02-04T22:01:21.411-05:002015-02-04T22:01:21.411-05:00The whole topic of moving is starting to be one I ...The whole topic of moving is starting to be one I want to avoid. My husband and I talk about downsizing all the time, but we both love our big old home and large wooded property of 33 years and now we are welcoming grandkids into it. We can still manage, but we see the day not that far off when we can't or won't want the hassle of the upkeep. So many memories here -- nearly an entire donnajurenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10799559087972759233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-84817928189230985352015-01-23T08:01:46.122-05:002015-01-23T08:01:46.122-05:00I never thought of it that way - that our painful ...I never thought of it that way - that our painful memories can turn into our comforting ones. I see that I shifted my focus over time and reinterpreted my history from big take-aways to big gifts and big opportunity now. Pain and bitterness do shrink in a brighter light of gratitude. GowitheFlohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01842273685414939160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-41187194459001431752015-01-22T20:09:53.958-05:002015-01-22T20:09:53.958-05:00I think I got the fungi from the pedicurist. I nev...I think I got the fungi from the pedicurist. I never had it before going to one... even though my husband had it for years. I got it about two years after he died and I hadn't been to a single place where I could have picked it up...public showers or swimming pools, hospitals, etc. Maybe you can talk H into exchanging the pedicure service on each other. <br /><br />The right place will be theMisadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-3961951753936356482015-01-22T20:00:46.949-05:002015-01-22T20:00:46.949-05:00There are so many mixed feelings about moving. I t...There are so many mixed feelings about moving. I think I'm ready if I could only find the right place.<br /><br />You won shortbread! H loves shortbread. <br /><br />Dad had toe fungus. Your doc is right. It never goes away, but you can keep it in control. I'm getting to the point where I will have to go to a pedicurist. Soon. I still manage, but it is not easy. <br /><br />Bella Rumhttp://culdesacchronicles.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-75546583718564197992015-01-22T19:11:20.914-05:002015-01-22T19:11:20.914-05:00You'd better believe I will and with glee. She...You'd better believe I will and with glee. She really annoyed me to the point of considering to change shops with her attitude. I don't like to be told what to do like I'm too old to make my own decisions. I would have gone earlier if not for her telling me to do it. (Yes, I can be stubborn.) My doctor told me over the counter Lamisil will work, too. The box will say not for toenailsMisadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-49770226268972270032015-01-22T19:00:54.566-05:002015-01-22T19:00:54.566-05:00I knew you'd understand the thrill of getting ...I knew you'd understand the thrill of getting on ancestry.com com. Do you watch the Monday night genealogy show on PBS? <br /><br />I never tried to put my foot behind my head but in those days, I'll bet I could have. LOL<br /><br />I know I can still drive to my memory holding places but I'd have to drive past 100,000 people and I doubt I'd do it more than a couple of times a Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-81028199338156142832015-01-22T17:27:30.610-05:002015-01-22T17:27:30.610-05:00BTW--my doc told me Vicks is the best toe fungus k...BTW--my doc told me Vicks is the best toe fungus killer. Rub it into your toenails, under the edges and down into the cuticle, put on white sox to sleep in. It takes about 8 months, but it does work. I hope you tell your pedicurist what the doc said!!! :-)Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03399435237919718544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-49384393062473416272015-01-22T17:24:33.096-05:002015-01-22T17:24:33.096-05:00I too am obsessed with genealogy and lose myself w...I too am obsessed with genealogy and lose myself when I'm on ancestry.com. I too used to bit my toenails AND could put my feet behind my neck!! (one at a time, not both at the same time.) BTW--if you move a bit further away, you can STILL drive to the memory holding places. I have to drive 20 miles to get to mine, but I get there, at least once a month.Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03399435237919718544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-3784315576103422132015-01-22T11:53:01.600-05:002015-01-22T11:53:01.600-05:00You know what, I'll bet every young person can...You know what, I'll bet every young person can do the toe-in-the-mouth thing. LOL<br /><br />Those warm, fuzzy hugs you get from your house and me from mine come from the same memories that in the first year of widowhood are so hard bear. I'm so glad I was told not to make any life changing decisions in my first year of widowhood because back then I wanted to get out of here when my year&Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-4167451011624386692015-01-22T11:42:02.475-05:002015-01-22T11:42:02.475-05:00You pinned the tail on the donkey. I am NOT ready...You pinned the tail on the donkey. I am NOT ready to leave those warm, fuzzy thoughts that pop into my head behind. It's like a virtual hugfest here, and if a real hugfest showed up, then maybe, MABE, I could relocate to make new memories. Here, and now, I spread my arms wide and scoop up precious memories along with making new ones.<br /><br />BTW, maybe you were an acrobat in a former GowitheFlohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01842273685414939160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-28880656004485942832015-01-22T09:44:49.432-05:002015-01-22T09:44:49.432-05:00Your decision about Maui is so much harder than mi...Your decision about Maui is so much harder than mine---it's so beautiful there. But you and I have both come up with the decision to move for the same reason---to be closer to family.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-44086867630680476702015-01-22T01:44:29.754-05:002015-01-22T01:44:29.754-05:00You will know if/when you want to move. At least ...You will know if/when you want to move. At least it worked for me. I know I will sell Maui ... just don't know when yet.<br /><br />Toenails and feet are weird and crazy things. I'm doing a few old wives remedies to keep the inevitable at bay ...The Awkward Widowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03729456066739275695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-9488322858469805732015-01-21T23:07:24.303-05:002015-01-21T23:07:24.303-05:00I'm glad you shared that and that someone else...I'm glad you shared that and that someone else knows what I'm talking about. The connection between places and memories is strong. I hope you're right that recognizing this is an important step in...maybe, letting go.<br /><br />The toenail thing is crazy isn't it. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-82231999893827167962015-01-21T22:44:56.528-05:002015-01-21T22:44:56.528-05:00Now that we have been retired a couple of years, m...Now that we have been retired a couple of years, my husband and I have been thinking about our next move. He is ready and has been ready. I have been reluctant for a variety of reasons but it only occurred to me the other week that one of the reasons is that my mother spent her last five years here. I have wonderful memories of her here. I walk into shops and think about being there with her,Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-42123203871794187342015-01-21T22:09:52.404-05:002015-01-21T22:09:52.404-05:00Tomorrow is a stay-at-home day and I'll be on ...Tomorrow is a stay-at-home day and I'll be on snow duty.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-90759028279189033202015-01-21T21:00:29.642-05:002015-01-21T21:00:29.642-05:00Only you'll know if you really want to move. ...Only you'll know if you really want to move. That cottage does sound mighty nice.<br /><br />I'm glad you got out and about for a bit. It does one good to get out now and then.<br /><br />Have a fabulous day Jean. ☺Sandeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06785788498697004273noreply@blogger.com