tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post3073666537662181382..comments2024-03-28T08:55:00.522-04:00Comments on The Misadventures of Widowhood: The Widow's DanceMisadventures of Widowhoodhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-31388518964783995612013-09-07T21:21:40.747-04:002013-09-07T21:21:40.747-04:00Wow, that WOULD be an absurd thing to have to prov...Wow, that WOULD be an absurd thing to have to prove! I see the lawyer tomorrow and hope he/she has an easier fix.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-25354172239135597002013-09-07T20:28:03.323-04:002013-09-07T20:28:03.323-04:00I once knew a woman who was a Navy officer who got...I once knew a woman who was a Navy officer who got in trouble for not designating a certain portion of her pay to be sent directly to her husband and had to prove she was not married and didn't have a husband! (Just to add to the absurdity of this, the Navy officer was actually a lesbian but couldn't say so without being tossed out of the Navy.) She decided to bury the Navy bureaucracy inAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-2241013904588785952013-09-05T13:53:40.729-04:002013-09-05T13:53:40.729-04:00Sounds like a good plan. Maybe your widow's gr...Sounds like a good plan. Maybe your widow's group there can do some get-togethers and invite me. LOLMisadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-2868615399158569472013-09-05T03:00:26.605-04:002013-09-05T03:00:26.605-04:00Last year, Ralph and I decided to stay in Maui for...Last year, Ralph and I decided to stay in Maui for Thanksgiving. But caved in and returned to Portland for Christmas (four weeks). This year I'm staying on Maui for all the holidays. Sniff sniff. Wish me luck! It's going to be hard ... apparently for many years ....<br />The Awkward Widowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03729456066739275695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-82152005752154582342013-09-02T20:23:26.286-04:002013-09-02T20:23:26.286-04:00Thanks for sharing that. Getting used to the new n...Thanks for sharing that. Getting used to the new normal is progress. I know I, too, have made progress in that department but with holidays I still have a way to go and it won't happen without a plan. Welcome home!Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-39072076810297611582013-09-02T19:37:29.619-04:002013-09-02T19:37:29.619-04:00re: the doing things differently. I just disembark...re: the doing things differently. I just disembarked from a plane at my home airport this weekend. The first time I flew, last summer, I nearly sobbed, because my husband and kids were always waiting for me. The second time, last fall, I felt that, but I proceeded to the long-term parking garage. This time, the third time, I got off the plane and headed for the long-term parking. It was only whenFichereaderhttp://somenewnormal.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-35838556282073140852013-09-02T09:30:31.841-04:002013-09-02T09:30:31.841-04:00Every time I run into one of these classic legal &...Every time I run into one of these classic legal 'widow problems' I might get frustrated but I realize the rules are to protect us as much as frustrate us. The hoops I have to jump through to draw money out of what used to be my husband's IRA is unreal BUT would we really want it to be so easy anyone could step in and take what rightfully belongs to the widow? Next month I hope to setMisadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-82740251373096471412013-09-02T05:31:41.795-04:002013-09-02T05:31:41.795-04:00That's a puzzle. I actually realized I was til...That's a puzzle. I actually realized I was tilting my head and looking toward the ceiling after I read it. When we moved back home, I recall trying to get my driver's license. My husband had no problem, but I had to prove what my name used to be and if it had changed and when it had changed, but they had a list of acceptable documents to do that. I'm amazed that they require you to doBella Rumhttp://culdesacchronicles.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-13439652548250094482013-09-02T00:04:49.366-04:002013-09-02T00:04:49.366-04:00I thought about sending in a copy of the obituary ...I thought about sending in a copy of the obituary but I decided to wait until next week when I can get a free 15 minute appointment with a lawyer at the senior center. He should know what it will take to please the powers that be.<br /><br />I knew you'd pick up on the hermit comment. LOL Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-81247489621052927752013-09-01T22:27:14.102-04:002013-09-01T22:27:14.102-04:00That sort of red tape would bring out my "YOU...That sort of red tape would bring out my "YOU IDIOT" reaction and I'd send an original copy of the obituary, a picture of the two of you taken on Christmas 2010, and a note saying, "I don't how else to prove we were still married at the time of his death. I didn't know I should take pictures of me weeping over his casket. if these items don't prove we were marriedJudyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03399435237919718544noreply@blogger.com