tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post3570747214310208227..comments2024-03-28T08:55:00.522-04:00Comments on The Misadventures of Widowhood: When a Mother Dies...Misadventures of Widowhoodhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-67143132555126127302016-12-12T22:16:21.439-05:002016-12-12T22:16:21.439-05:00Nothing can make some people's pain go away.Nothing can make some people's pain go away. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-10647264233954361832016-12-12T21:02:22.840-05:002016-12-12T21:02:22.840-05:00She sounds like a lovely woman. Sometimes, pain m...She sounds like a lovely woman. Sometimes, pain meds make the hurting world easier to live in. Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03399435237919718544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-42728113056693946242016-12-11T22:09:30.130-05:002016-12-11T22:09:30.130-05:00Thank you Paul. It's a real blessing that you ...Thank you Paul. It's a real blessing that you can say you still enjoy each day. You and your wife as lucky.<br /><br />I shoveled a lot of snow today, too. I can't believe it's just the beginning of winter and a lot of shoveling.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-49776544882696908872016-12-11T21:55:48.010-05:002016-12-11T21:55:48.010-05:00My condolences for your loss Jean. Unfortunately t...My condolences for your loss Jean. Unfortunately those pills can create a mess in peoples lives. It's her children who are hurting today.<br />My mom died three years ago. Good God it's been that long and I still feel it;s just like yesterday especially since my aunt died a week ago. I realize that we can't live forever but as I have a birthday each year, I think about my past. I Paul Pietrangelohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15997368569947980343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-82334526726690027372016-12-11T12:15:30.126-05:002016-12-11T12:15:30.126-05:00I hope I did, I don't want people to think tha...I hope I did, I don't want people to think that she was ever like the stereotyped, non-productive kind of addict so often shown on TV. She wasn't. <br /><br />I've been reading all the Facebook comments about ML and what stands out the most is how may people remember her for her smile and the fun that would take place when she was in the room.<br /><br /> Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-88618972526220219762016-12-11T12:01:40.858-05:002016-12-11T12:01:40.858-05:00What an honest, respectful, and loving tribute to ...What an honest, respectful, and loving tribute to ML. We too easily write people off when the "addiction" label gets hung on them. Everyone is a full person and who is not defined only by that which challenges us, but also by every every other aspect of who we are.<br />donnajurenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10799559087972759233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-81568456707791675622016-12-10T19:46:58.289-05:002016-12-10T19:46:58.289-05:00I think, hope you are right which is why I wrote t...I think, hope you are right which is why I wrote this.<br /><br />I don't remember what all Betty Ford was addicted to, you very well might be right. She sure opened up a dialogue.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-30175246761747337132016-12-10T13:42:08.046-05:002016-12-10T13:42:08.046-05:00Thank you, the kids are all adults who within the ...Thank you, the kids are all adults who within the last two years became grandparents for the first time. I lost my mother at 41 and it took my three years to make peace with it.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-51274896501775834822016-12-10T13:39:28.175-05:002016-12-10T13:39:28.175-05:00Her youngest daughter lost her father-in-law the d...Her youngest daughter lost her father-in-law the day before and all three kids lost an uncle 2-3 days before their mother died. That's a lot of grief to deal with.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-87067126742686552452016-12-10T13:31:15.824-05:002016-12-10T13:31:15.824-05:00I've been reading your blog---what, a couple o...I've been reading your blog---what, a couple of years now and I didn't picked up on what you've shared here. Thank you for doing that. The multi-dimensionality of of ML is what I hoped would come through, I'm glad you noticed that and can relate.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-57723537509056673982016-12-10T13:25:01.030-05:002016-12-10T13:25:01.030-05:00The best tribute you can give your sister-in-law ...The best tribute you can give your sister-in-law is to tell her story. Only when these kind of stories are out of the shadows can we hope to find solutions. Wasn't Betty Ford also addicted to prescription pain medications? Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11586429675286969340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-88382231264496144082016-12-10T13:23:09.360-05:002016-12-10T13:23:09.360-05:00Unfortunately what happened to you mother is all t...Unfortunately what happened to you mother is all too common, judging by the stories I hear at the senior hall. I'm glad you found her a new doctor.<br /><br />I can't even leave coffee and chocolate alone, I can't imagine how hard it is to shake something truly addictive.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-47005350827199565692016-12-10T12:42:15.874-05:002016-12-10T12:42:15.874-05:00I'm sorry for your loss, as well as your nices...I'm sorry for your loss, as well as your nices and nephews. I hope her children are older, not that losing a parent at any time is easy. I just know losing mine at 13 wasn't easy. I wish you all the best.Margaret (Peggy or Peg too)https://www.blogger.com/profile/04247428494327269983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-84420550116732594132016-12-10T12:35:04.379-05:002016-12-10T12:35:04.379-05:00Sorry for the loss, ML sounds more like a friend t...Sorry for the loss, ML sounds more like a friend than an ex SIL. We all travel different roads, who is to say what other demons she met along the way. I'm sure her children are devastated. <br />Hugs.Sharonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02743921972328074980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-46853880245577328122016-12-10T11:07:50.339-05:002016-12-10T11:07:50.339-05:00What a really real and stirring tribute to ML'...What a really real and stirring tribute to ML's multidimensionality. I am so sorry for your loss. It really does help to emphasize that addicts can be amazing, loving people, just crippled, in a lot of private pain. As for whether to reveal something; the truth really helps people. The timing is something you will sense. One reason I haven't shared with anybody but a select few that GowitheFlohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01842273685414939160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-67572251973673057672016-12-10T11:04:08.352-05:002016-12-10T11:04:08.352-05:00I noticed your reference to the doctor who wrote o...I noticed your reference to the doctor who wrote overlapping prescriptions. While not addicted, my own mother suffered at the hands of a doctor who kept writing prescriptions without any consideration for interactions, and without ever taking her off any of them. A new doctor cleaned things up -- happily, before addiction took hold.<br /><br />Addiction is such a complicated thing, and can shoreacreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16284698314697628805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-9028894406745762832016-12-10T09:20:23.459-05:002016-12-10T09:20:23.459-05:00Addicted nurses are the scariest. I hear tales of ...Addicted nurses are the scariest. I hear tales of them stealing drugs from their patients. But you said what I was trying to convey only you said it better with far fewer words. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-14117282379537937032016-12-10T09:15:55.563-05:002016-12-10T09:15:55.563-05:00Coming from you, that means a lot! Hugs back at yo...Coming from you, that means a lot! Hugs back at you.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-551658464071081152016-12-10T09:14:14.602-05:002016-12-10T09:14:14.602-05:00Thank you. Her kids won't likely see it but I ...Thank you. Her kids won't likely see it but I hope they would think the same. It's hard to sum up a person's life in under 1,000 words but this is the forth time I've done it. It helps me process, I think. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-5064833329709694162016-12-10T03:21:28.756-05:002016-12-10T03:21:28.756-05:00I had a friend, a nurse, who fought addiction and ...I had a friend, a nurse, who fought addiction and eventually died of an overdose, leaving a husband and two young children. It was a sad story. People are complex and their lives and stories are never about just one thing. They often put a lot of good into the world before and in between their bouts with addiction. I'm sorry for your loss and for your nieces and nephew. Bella Rumhttp://bellarum.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-87349865418081371662016-12-10T02:22:09.411-05:002016-12-10T02:22:09.411-05:00Thanks for sharing. Addiction hits every age, eve...Thanks for sharing. Addiction hits every age, every background ... rich or poor. People with horrible childhoods and people with perfect childhoods. It's much harder on the family and friends, in my opinion. And it is easy to get addicted. I have family and friends who are addicts or recovering addicts. It is not easy to stop ...<br /><br />Your sharing WILL help bring attention to thisThe Awkward Widowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03729456066739275695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-32690349964801202332016-12-10T01:40:26.779-05:002016-12-10T01:40:26.779-05:00So sorry for your family's loss. Such a trage...So sorry for your family's loss. Such a tragedy. :(Silver in AZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12501467853392916885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-18352173531990348142016-12-10T01:05:06.549-05:002016-12-10T01:05:06.549-05:00Jean R. - my condolences for your loss.
You'...Jean R. - my condolences for your loss. <br /><br />You've written a wonderful eulogy for ML. I found it very moving, The change from a young lively girl, to an older lady with problems. There but for the grace of God can be any one of us. <br /><br />Please take care of yourself. I hope you have warm, friendly company in the coming days. It seems to hit harder when the weather is cold and Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com