tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post4419873068794765393..comments2024-03-27T22:13:53.704-04:00Comments on The Misadventures of Widowhood: Accomplished Women and Dementia SupportMisadventures of Widowhoodhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comBlogger33125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-5955380456691264422023-03-13T11:06:09.744-04:002023-03-13T11:06:09.744-04:00I know you're right about interacting with peo...I know you're right about interacting with people being more important at this stage of my life. Everyday (but on Sunday) I choose that over staying in my apartment BUT I don't feel any deep ties to anyone here. It's just the stage of life I'm in and I'm built regarding having something to show for your time.<br /><br />It's really sad what is happening to your husband. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-80113265609480246992023-03-13T01:07:41.288-04:002023-03-13T01:07:41.288-04:00I think it's a good thing that Life is so Full...I think it's a good thing that Life is so Full for you that there isn't the time to pursue Art, even tho' it's a Passion, I too often Lost track of all Time and would sequester myself for ridiculous amounts of time Creating stuff. I think that the interactions with people you enjoy is probably more important in the grand scheme of things, we only have so much time here, what we Bohemianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03743017084098726581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-41620947200093616282023-03-12T21:15:59.691-04:002023-03-12T21:15:59.691-04:00I don't know the answers to the questions you ...I don't know the answers to the questions you ask. I honestly can't say I've led a fulfilling life because I did want more for myself. It's been a good life but I would have like to have more.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-34857584594067448392023-03-12T20:54:43.382-04:002023-03-12T20:54:43.382-04:00Hey, we don’t have to compare ourselves all the ti...Hey, we don’t have to compare ourselves all the time, do we?? You led a fulfilling, wonderful life journey, isn’t that the best thing ever accomplished?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-89440423495813583432023-03-12T12:32:27.109-04:002023-03-12T12:32:27.109-04:00I Love your blog as well. That we could live on th...I Love your blog as well. That we could live on the opposite side of the world and still have so many of the same internal thoughts fascinates me. As for fearing Alzheimer's and Dementia I often think about all the time I waste worrying about that coming in my future. It comes with our age, to worry I think... except for the women in that documentary. She wanted hers document to leave a Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-86192565739612912812023-03-12T11:11:57.498-04:002023-03-12T11:11:57.498-04:00Your final paragraph applies to me too, word for w...Your final paragraph applies to me too, word for word. Why do we get so worked up about topics that are not relevant yet? I am terrified of having Alzheimers and I often think that my isolated existence is inexorably leading me towards that dreadful fate. I am alone, my kids don't much care and I would have no one to look after me.<br />But I think you are ok in that respect, you have Frikohttps://frikosmusings.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-42337758740940134142023-03-12T09:59:47.013-04:002023-03-12T09:59:47.013-04:00Isn't it. I'm sure they don't realize ...Isn't it. I'm sure they don't realize how much it it hurting themselves and others when they make that decision. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-86338056724259314112023-03-12T03:16:44.398-04:002023-03-12T03:16:44.398-04:00That's so sad when people try to hide things a...That's so sad when people try to hide things and avoid their former friends. It causes so much hurt. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-9578296737012727942023-03-11T16:10:02.972-05:002023-03-11T16:10:02.972-05:00Oh my gosh it is never a waste of time trying to f...Oh my gosh it is never a waste of time trying to find yourself. I have seeing people in their 80s who have no idea who they are. Now that is what I consider a waste of a life. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-13118092240840875012023-03-11T15:52:52.114-05:002023-03-11T15:52:52.114-05:00Thank you, Jean Thank you, Jean The Widow Badasshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08671005744535263644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-85579235365954093472023-03-11T15:21:16.463-05:002023-03-11T15:21:16.463-05:00I think a lot of people actually form friendships ...I think a lot of people actually form friendships going to these support groups. Now, it's kind of a small group of about 12 but before covid they said they could fill up the whole room up, then they went to Zoom meetings and are now trying to build the in person meetings back up. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-15373262191045251552023-03-11T13:54:35.397-05:002023-03-11T13:54:35.397-05:00The dementia support group sounds amazing as demen...The dementia support group sounds amazing as dementia is such a horrible condition my Nan lost so many so called friends when she was stuck with itJo-Anne's Ramblingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11418152399382818709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-75430818383416489182023-03-11T12:57:41.079-05:002023-03-11T12:57:41.079-05:00I love noon to three for any project or appointmen...I love noon to three for any project or appointment. It's my most productive part of the day. <br /><br />After my husband's stroke he lost what he thought were good friends---neighbors he spent a lot of time with. It took me a long time to forgive them for disappearing but I came to understand when it came out that the guy had breast cancer that he didn't want anyone to know about soMisadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-14407973444939795122023-03-11T12:47:13.366-05:002023-03-11T12:47:13.366-05:00Denial is such a powerful force for some but it...Denial is such a powerful force for some but it's a real hardship on those they drag into their secret. So sorry you had to go though that with your husband. You sure deserve the life you have now.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-81206439077844458412023-03-11T11:52:25.776-05:002023-03-11T11:52:25.776-05:00You touched on a lot of different issues in this p...You touched on a lot of different issues in this post. Interesting! I can relate to not painting at night, and worrying that the entire day will disappear if you start a piece in the morning. I tend to paint between noon and 3 pm. I only have enough concentration for about 2-3 hours at a time, and I stop when I feel myself getting sloppy. It's far more intense than people realize.<br />LS Nelsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16888269999839452459noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-19827160877138696462023-03-11T11:21:15.193-05:002023-03-11T11:21:15.193-05:00Very happy you're healing!Very happy you're healing!Pamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04495841077527091378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-13299288774360454432023-03-11T10:36:42.274-05:002023-03-11T10:36:42.274-05:00Thank you for the correction! It made me laugh out...Thank you for the correction! It made me laugh out loud. See, this is why I still like to write....because no matter how hard I try I can't do it without making mistakes. <br /><br />I've been seeing the Sketchbook Revival things on Facebook. Some amazing work being produced! I can't wait until DST either. I was looking at my deck yesterday and thought about how last summer I did a Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-676671927476363932023-03-11T10:22:52.388-05:002023-03-11T10:22:52.388-05:00I worked alone a good deal of my life and always r...I worked alone a good deal of my life and always required a lot of alone time to do my thing---like you with writing and photography. I gave up photography when my husband took it up and now my hand shakes too much to do it again or I would, in place of painting. Socializing is like a new hobby with me...figuring out how it works, how people interact. At this point in my life I like it but that Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-89287063720621510672023-03-11T10:18:43.542-05:002023-03-11T10:18:43.542-05:00That whole keeping it a secret thing is hard, so h...That whole keeping it a secret thing is hard, so hard. My late husband wouldn't let me tell anybody about his mental illness and later, his cancer diagnosis. And my late uncle wouldn't discuss/accept his Parkinson's - we had to look away and pretend he wasn't struggling to eat his soup. There's a lesson there for sure and I will never do this to anyone should I come down with The Widow Badasshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08671005744535263644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-63271842829164875432023-03-11T10:11:19.895-05:002023-03-11T10:11:19.895-05:00You're not immoral or not immortal? I suppose ...You're not immoral or not immortal? I suppose one is good and the other, well -- it's just the way we all are! As Ellen wrote above, I'm a little sad you didn't include a bio either. You've lived an amazing life. You don't have to be CEO of a bank or have traveled the world on the back of whatever native animal one travels on to have an amazing life. As for posting -- do Jeaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17482528482559445943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-48583793859728024822023-03-11T10:10:31.427-05:002023-03-11T10:10:31.427-05:00Who knows? Maybe you've just come to one of th...Who knows? Maybe you've just come to one of those life changes that are inevitable. Perhaps you're not painting because you don't want to paint; perhaps that's part of the 'sorting' that takes place for all of us. The socializing you do sounds like torture to me, but I'm still in a place where solitude for writing and roaming with my camera is what I want. In the shoreacreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16284698314697628805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-32481739335912205262023-03-11T10:07:21.049-05:002023-03-11T10:07:21.049-05:00Read my reply to Nance up above. I am proud of mys...Read my reply to Nance up above. I am proud of myself but I'm also sorry I wasted so much time in my life trying to find myself.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-18525513174634873132023-03-11T10:04:14.883-05:002023-03-11T10:04:14.883-05:00It's a rude awakening isn't it to find out...It's a rude awakening isn't it to find out that we have expiration dates whether we know them or now.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-6054047556276433612023-03-11T10:00:30.000-05:002023-03-11T10:00:30.000-05:00The lady who taught us all how to play Mahjong was...The lady who taught us all how to play Mahjong was a Major in the Air Force, head of a bunch of nurses during Vietnam. Another woman I know well won the National Teacher of the Year Award. PHD's here are the norm, Lots of college professors and women who were married to civic leaders and who ran all kinds of do-good organizations around town. We have several missionaries as well and three Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-51604473089362781592023-03-11T09:43:15.426-05:002023-03-11T09:43:15.426-05:00Love what you wrote! When it's all said and do...Love what you wrote! When it's all said and done, I too, wouldn't change places with anyone else. And I'm glad to find someone else who really connected with the Grey clip. I love doing the pose in the elevator.<br /><br />My Mohl surgery site FINAL closed up and I know longer have to dress it daily. The area is still unsightly and I'll have a scar but I can live with that. My Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.com