tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post4963681288186059749..comments2024-03-28T08:55:00.522-04:00Comments on The Misadventures of Widowhood: Judging People by their AppearanceMisadventures of Widowhoodhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comBlogger31125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-87718729102512793092016-12-10T13:51:54.766-05:002016-12-10T13:51:54.766-05:00Now, the big question is, "Did you have a boa...Now, the big question is, "Did you have a boat there?" LOL Seriously, do you do all your work at the same marina? You have such an interesting and unique (to land dwellers) profession but the details of how exact a boat restorationist works is a mystery to me.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-66214579351652733412016-12-10T10:49:17.928-05:002016-12-10T10:49:17.928-05:00"All cover and no content" is a great pa..."All cover and no content" is a great parallel to our "all hat and no cattle."<br /><br />I once got to hear myself being judged, in person. I was over at the marina, and it was the end of a long day with an orbital sander. I was in shorts, tee, boat shoes, and a whole lot of dust.<br /><br />As I was walking down the dock, I passed a little girl, maybe ten, and her mother. shoreacreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16284698314697628805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-73749084558864318612016-12-08T20:07:28.753-05:002016-12-08T20:07:28.753-05:00We've all made those kinds of mistakes...and t...We've all made those kinds of mistakes...and the ones in reverse when we think someone has money and class but it turns out it's all cover and no content.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-60571613727569407582016-12-08T17:39:51.240-05:002016-12-08T17:39:51.240-05:00I guess I judge people by what they wear. It seem...I guess I judge people by what they wear. It seems right now, my high school friends are all into wearing sweatshirts with be-jeweled butterflies on them or sparkling christmas trees. Most of them overweight, really don't look good in them. I did a really bad job of judging a person by his appearance back in the day. A disheveled man got out of a really old Volkswagon Beetle. His hair Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03399435237919718544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-3782687874911960332016-12-08T09:20:00.731-05:002016-12-08T09:20:00.731-05:00Sharon Stone looked great in that t-shirt dress!
...Sharon Stone looked great in that t-shirt dress!<br /><br />There was a time in my life when I was super slender and I couldn't stay out of the clothing stores and the gyms. It's the one thing in my life if I could do over, I would.I would have never stopped going to the gym to keep my weigh in check. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-54434065709572597232016-12-08T03:49:03.630-05:002016-12-08T03:49:03.630-05:00When I was young, slender and pretty, I was confid...When I was young, slender and pretty, I was confident in myself to go anywhere, regardless of how shabbily I was dressed, and that confidence meant I wasn't judged badly (at least I think so!). <br /><br />Now I'm old, dumpy and - continuing my personal style - dressed like a bag lady usually (well, I'm at home alone, so who cares?!). If I sometimes make an effort, its because it Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-16177326253846680082016-12-07T23:25:18.807-05:002016-12-07T23:25:18.807-05:00I loved our trip to Maine, saw so many plaid shirt...I loved our trip to Maine, saw so many plaid shirts it wasn't funny and, of course, we had to go to the L.L.Bean store. <br /><br />We've gotten some great consumable gifts at the senior hall including home made breads and dry soup mixes, soaps, hand creams, etc.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-15022960563584394602016-12-07T23:15:53.558-05:002016-12-07T23:15:53.558-05:00No I don't think they did but I do usually try...No I don't think they did but I do usually try to dress up more for the parties...basically twice a year. I felt out of place because some of them had some lovely beaded dresses to die for.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-80618393345786411332016-12-07T22:19:10.515-05:002016-12-07T22:19:10.515-05:00LOL, Your outfit would have been perfect for a red...LOL, Your outfit would have been perfect for a red-hat event in Maine, where "dressing up" means wearing cords instead of jeans and maybe a cashmere sweater. When I first went to teach in Gettysburg, PA (on the Mason-Dixon line) after almost a decade living in Maine, I was almost always not appropriately dressed. It was especially a shock to learn that the only two kinds of shoes I Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-15004237353574365342016-12-07T21:15:22.935-05:002016-12-07T21:15:22.935-05:00The place the Red Hat Society held the luncheon so...The place the Red Hat Society held the luncheon sounds utterly charming. I would certainly be entertained by all the glittery outfits, but relieved I could sneak by with something more 'classic'. Do you think anybody really held your simple outfit against you? <br /><br />Lately I've been brazenly enjoying wearing bulky tops to cover my bulkier butt. LLBean marries Talbots - that'GowitheFlohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01842273685414939160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-11634657798864611502016-12-07T20:16:31.021-05:002016-12-07T20:16:31.021-05:00NOTE: I'm using a little laptop I hate right n...NOTE: I'm using a little laptop I hate right now because my desktop got a malware my anti-virus control couldn't disinfect among other things, so it's in the shop. If I don't post on Saturday you'll know it's not back yet. Got it from clicking on what looked like a fake news...be careful out there!Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-87558225004007230302016-12-07T20:12:49.363-05:002016-12-07T20:12:49.363-05:00I envy people who never change size. I bounce betw...I envy people who never change size. I bounce between 2-3 sizes and have all my life.<br /><br />I have only one thing that is Christmasy and it's mostly black with a yoke of poinsettia at the top. Every year I tell myself I need to buy an "ugly sweater" because so many people wear the around here but I can't seem to get them to the cash register. <br /><br />I love what you Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-21414521983496225922016-12-07T20:05:27.716-05:002016-12-07T20:05:27.716-05:00DDD thanks for the comment. I think this is your f...DDD thanks for the comment. I think this is your first? Welcome!<br /><br />You would fit right in at the senior hall. Lots of retired professional women there who have quality clothing that was made in the last century. Nothing wrong with that! But then there are a very few ladies who are clothing horses who have lots of new stuff. I have decided I need to keep a list of where I wear what so I Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-74418144965907241202016-12-07T20:00:27.253-05:002016-12-07T20:00:27.253-05:00I wish I could wear yoga pants and hoodies. Sounds...I wish I could wear yoga pants and hoodies. Sounds like comfortable wear and a classier version of my favorite comfort clothing of sweats.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-77266931056141841052016-12-07T18:56:51.311-05:002016-12-07T18:56:51.311-05:00At some point in my past career I was one of the c...At some point in my past career I was one of the cultural diversity trainers for the employees and we spent a lot of class time reminding people that it is human to judge others. As you have mentioned, it is for a variety of reasons, some that no longer exist in our society. Again, as you mentioned in the comment above, it only becomes a problem when we act upon our pre-judgments and Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-43657585902236079912016-12-07T18:24:25.422-05:002016-12-07T18:24:25.422-05:00Yes, most people judge by what people wear.
I hav...Yes, most people judge by what people wear. <br />I have different problems. <br />I remain the same size for more than 20 years(blessing or curse). I don't like shopping and just wear my old clothes. My friend Betty told me to buy new clothes, Betty said who doesn't like clothes shopping? My ex-friend Bill asked me if I shop at second hand store...I told him it's just my own very DDDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09039721435518231693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-44560548424042839932016-12-07T16:22:40.543-05:002016-12-07T16:22:40.543-05:00I used to work at a social service agency. The &#...I used to work at a social service agency. The 'dress code' there was decidedly casual, but I always tried to wear "nice" clothes and felt professional, but casual. Since I retired 6 years ago, I notice I mostly wear yoga pants or tights with long tops that cover my gut and my butt. Very, very casual. The two days a week I watch my almost 2 y/o granddaughter. I have on yogadonnajurenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10799559087972759233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-54860642731224489242016-12-07T16:18:40.871-05:002016-12-07T16:18:40.871-05:00I would not believe someone who says they never ju...I would not believe someone who says they never judge others by what someone wears. Biker guys with lots of tattoos would get treated differently than a guy in an expensive suit would not earn the same trust level, I'm sure, on first glance. We can judge but try not to let that judgement influence how we treat that person though and that would be honest. And we a often the one who judges Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-78063331501743804522016-12-07T16:10:41.945-05:002016-12-07T16:10:41.945-05:00I used to buy matching lingerie...lots of fun back...I used to buy matching lingerie...lots of fun back in the day. When you find your new grandma uniform I hope you'll blog about it. If I ever win the lotto I'm going to clear out my closet and start over.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-30019670167084622162016-12-07T16:07:25.804-05:002016-12-07T16:07:25.804-05:00That's me in a nutshell...don't want to sp...That's me in a nutshell...don't want to spend money on my fat size. :)Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-3236920030352371302016-12-07T16:06:04.496-05:002016-12-07T16:06:04.496-05:00Ohmygod, I've never looked closely at medical ...Ohmygod, I've never looked closely at medical scrubs. It would more then irritate me to see dirty ones on someone. That's funny what your daughter says but I understand it. There is a difference in dressing standards in different parts of my city.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-32193450377048312052016-12-07T16:02:34.994-05:002016-12-07T16:02:34.994-05:00I'm sorry about your aunt. I'll bet you...I'm sorry about your aunt. I'll bet you're a stress eater like me, plus with our Italian heritage we're also used to celebrating with food so it easy for our weight to yo-ya. Whatever you decide to do for your cruise, sounds like you really need to go and maybe forget some of the stuff going on back home.<br /><br />We're getting that same storm. Glad the Camero is in storage Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-41696702376710058842016-12-07T13:57:20.631-05:002016-12-07T13:57:20.631-05:00This topic is so timely to me. I had this conversa...This topic is so timely to me. I had this conversation with someone recently. She said she never judges by what people wear. I said I couldn't lie, I sometimes do. I know I shouldn't but there have been times when I walked into a room and made an assumption. I wasn't going to lie for petes sake. She insisted she never did. <br />When I was young I worked one Xmas at a jewerly store Margaret (Peggy or Peg too)https://www.blogger.com/profile/04247428494327269983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-27530907286891773442016-12-07T13:20:38.433-05:002016-12-07T13:20:38.433-05:00In addition to losing weight, I'm looking for ...In addition to losing weight, I'm looking for my new Grandma uniform (instead of leggings and long baggy tops). Because people DO judge the cover. It's gotta be washable and mostly cotton. 2-3 standard colors with WOW accents once in a while. And go with black shoes/purses. AND I'm going to get matching lingerie! I think if I feel good on the inside, it will project onto the The Awkward Widowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03729456066739275695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-56732743731374019562016-12-07T12:38:14.989-05:002016-12-07T12:38:14.989-05:00I've eaten my way out of anything decent looki...I've eaten my way out of anything decent looking in my closet and refuse to spend any money on my fat size. Needless to say, anyone judging me as if I just don't care about how I look - maybe I don't think it's any of their problem.Sharonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02743921972328074980noreply@blogger.com