tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post5630810725529872498..comments2024-03-28T08:55:00.522-04:00Comments on The Misadventures of Widowhood: The Dementia Diagnosis Misadventures of Widowhoodhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comBlogger49125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-75562997742907191362022-12-31T11:07:32.354-05:002022-12-31T11:07:32.354-05:00It's a big decision. I hope it works out for y...It's a big decision. I hope it works out for you as good as it for me. I think half the battle on the front is just making up your mind to make the best of it.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-21705265654302969212022-12-31T07:13:57.170-05:002022-12-31T07:13:57.170-05:00Just a follow-up -- we found a place to live yeste...Just a follow-up -- we found a place to live yesterday. I'll be putting money down on it today--it's a Continuing Care Complex (hooray!) I am blessed. It is a new place and they're currently building their memory care building. Until it's finished, my husband will get to live with me in our one bedroom apartment. Blessings to you for writing here. I've followed with great Tehachaphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12973382680508334105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-37678932982163625622022-12-09T20:28:42.019-05:002022-12-09T20:28:42.019-05:00It sounds like your dad had Early Onset Alzheimer&...It sounds like your dad had Early Onset Alzheimer's which is SO destructive to the family as well as the person with this awful disease. As a nation we need to do better with treatments and I do believe we are on the brink of new discoveries with gene research going on.<br /><br />As for your mom. I'm so sorry you are going through this with your mom. I don't recall getting an e-mail Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-13178824803657401652022-12-09T14:17:06.931-05:002022-12-09T14:17:06.931-05:00Jean :
I have seen my dad developing alzeimer at ...Jean : <br />I have seen my dad developing alzeimer at very yung age & have seen him struggle through it, it was so hard to see him struggle through it & it was so hard to see dad in that condition & unable to help being myself as young college student so saw toll it took on mom who took care of him till end. I used to think I wouldn't mind assisted suicide if someone os sufferingAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-22298003193366358492022-12-08T15:46:29.347-05:002022-12-08T15:46:29.347-05:00From other posts I knew you thought on the topic b...From other posts I knew you thought on the topic but I never thought about how much physical room it would to actually do it. I've seen a movie of a person going to Switzerland, to a special place where the rich people go to get euthanized, so that's my only visualization to go by.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-50028472461100479182022-12-08T15:41:57.515-05:002022-12-08T15:41:57.515-05:00B,J. From the Awkward Widow Blog wrote the followi...B,J. From the Awkward Widow Blog wrote the following words but she also including her email address and to save her from getting a ton of spam and because I don't print other people's contact information I'm quoting her here instead of publishing of her common:<br /><br />"I live in Oregon and support Death with Dignity. Although I don't have room in this tiny home filled Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-64054232193148816212022-12-08T13:17:09.529-05:002022-12-08T13:17:09.529-05:00I suppose there is a correlation between how we ha...I suppose there is a correlation between how we handle a dementia diagnosis and the way we've handled all difficult decisions in our lives. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-65150653228093113652022-12-08T13:02:14.470-05:002022-12-08T13:02:14.470-05:00I find this post sobering, but truthful in a way t...I find this post sobering, but truthful in a way that needs to be said. I know that the fear of dementia hangs over all of us, but the ways in which each would handle the diagnosis vary. There are no easy answers to complex difficult questions. Ally Beanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17017098395188176477noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-52541956010410266912022-12-08T09:49:45.973-05:002022-12-08T09:49:45.973-05:00That was a blessing, wasn't it. Some Alzheimer...That was a blessing, wasn't it. Some Alzheimer's patients get mean and hard to handle. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-16632338475273123212022-12-08T09:01:10.194-05:002022-12-08T09:01:10.194-05:00After my Dad's Alzheimer's had progressed ...After my Dad's Alzheimer's had progressed to when he needed care, we were lucky that he was calm with it. He was a quiet patient who would smile and not give anyone trouble. It was sad for us to see but he wasn't upset or in pain. Ellen D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/03776803182673252265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-90243578113681798352022-12-07T21:12:20.640-05:002022-12-07T21:12:20.640-05:00If we only had a crystal-ball. Best to just keep l...If we only had a crystal-ball. Best to just keep living in the moment as much as possible and take what comes. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-40081849214154271832022-12-07T21:09:52.990-05:002022-12-07T21:09:52.990-05:00I'm more scared of a stroke too. I've seen...I'm more scared of a stroke too. I've seen up close how hard that would be for the stroke survivor and without a strong support system like my husband had in me, it would be awful! At least with dementia you wouldn't necessarily know if caregivers weren't treating you with respect or were taking advantage of you.<br /><br />I didn't mean to say commenters needed to keep their Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-16799176286596441212022-12-07T21:03:50.777-05:002022-12-07T21:03:50.777-05:00You've said it better than I could.You've said it better than I could. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-36529712502617781582022-12-07T21:00:18.682-05:002022-12-07T21:00:18.682-05:00I would never do it but if I did I'd want lega...I would never do it but if I did I'd want legal opinions so that your spouse doesn't end up in trouble with the law for helping set it up.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-41814393827431339262022-12-07T20:57:40.662-05:002022-12-07T20:57:40.662-05:00It's a gut wrenching diagnosis isn't it.It's a gut wrenching diagnosis isn't it.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-89104539512115260452022-12-07T20:08:28.227-05:002022-12-07T20:08:28.227-05:00At this point, thinking about what would happen to...At this point, thinking about what would happen to me should dementia set in is -- well, uncomfortable. With no family at all, and finances that are extremely limited, my options would be about zero. Of course, if I really went over the edge and didn't have a clue who I was or where I was, I guess the worrying would be over!shoreacreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16284698314697628805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-85729030563897476612022-12-07T19:35:32.419-05:002022-12-07T19:35:32.419-05:00no i didn't see that but I know someone who di...no i didn't see that but I know someone who did this in a state where it was legal. She made the arrangements when she had some clarity. So that is a head scratcher. In fact I saw another woman on 60 minutes who chose this route. So I am not sure about this either way. Hmm....Margaret (Peggy or Peg too)https://www.blogger.com/profile/04247428494327269983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-43116239815192862352022-12-07T18:56:21.490-05:002022-12-07T18:56:21.490-05:00The fact that once one has a diagnosis of any kind...The fact that once one has a diagnosis of any kind of dementia it rules out assisted suicide is really the crux of the matter. I understand what your neighbor means that she could handle dying of cancer but that she would want to be in control if it's dementia. I feel the same way. I have all the details about going to Switzerland, should I ever need it. And I have a kind of half-baked idea Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-87308937401448109672022-12-07T18:03:42.516-05:002022-12-07T18:03:42.516-05:00A little hard to comment, as I’m extremely in favo...A little hard to comment, as I’m extremely in favor of assisted suicide, but I recognize it’s not for everyone. I also know that Alzheimers is not a legal reason in the states that allow it. You have to be terminal. For some reason, I don’t fear dementia, but I do a stroke. One that would leave me still mentally fit, but trapped in a body no longer working. <br />I’m hoping in time the drugs forMaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08987527540895782339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-52802898636414884942022-12-07T17:35:29.438-05:002022-12-07T17:35:29.438-05:00Honestly, most of the people I have known with dem...Honestly, most of the people I have known with dementia are most upset upon diagnosis (obviously) but once their disease progresses, they get to the point of not being all that unhappy. Some of them get agitated, and that's hard for everyone to deal with, and if they still recognize you, you may take the brunt of their frustration. It's just hard all around. But I find it hard to Hope Springshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16711100897900771363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-35766108472668004302022-12-07T17:11:03.570-05:002022-12-07T17:11:03.570-05:00That's my plan as well.That's my plan as well.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-21294041715901077932022-12-07T17:10:32.371-05:002022-12-07T17:10:32.371-05:00I would agree with that, having seen both.I would agree with that, having seen both.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-45886886300056290022022-12-07T16:03:32.052-05:002022-12-07T16:03:32.052-05:00Mom died of dementia complications and it was a to...Mom died of dementia complications and it was a torment to her. Dad's Body gave out and not his Brain...it was a more peaceful exit from this realm... Bohemian Dawn<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-24606007033261670362022-12-07T15:58:52.182-05:002022-12-07T15:58:52.182-05:00I can't help but believe that we are on the br...I can't help but believe that we are on the brink of a breakthrough regarding dementia. I would tend to hang on till I no longer knew what I was hanging on for. Arkansas Pattihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14156004753267665579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-42507065496080566872022-12-07T14:58:46.437-05:002022-12-07T14:58:46.437-05:00I agree with you completely on that concern, Jean....I agree with you completely on that concern, Jean. Hope Springshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16711100897900771363noreply@blogger.com