tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post646183972820257585..comments2024-03-28T20:40:18.960-04:00Comments on The Misadventures of Widowhood: A Hike in the WoodsMisadventures of Widowhoodhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-79272275706775336912016-09-14T08:25:22.570-04:002016-09-14T08:25:22.570-04:00I wish I'd asked about the men's bathroom ...I wish I'd asked about the men's bathroom sign. If it was He-Pees it doesn't have quite the same ring to it, doesn't it. LOLMisadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-75372524235429401922016-09-14T06:27:34.482-04:002016-09-14T06:27:34.482-04:00That bathroom sign is a hoot. I would not like get...That bathroom sign is a hoot. I would not like getting lost in the woods, but you survived so it's an adventure. I'm not crazy about the religion topic either. If someone starts talking about it when I first meet them, I figure it's pretty important to them, especially when they start exploring my beliefs. Bella Rumhttp://bellarum.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-72536589326692020392016-09-10T18:14:22.381-04:002016-09-10T18:14:22.381-04:00I've been reading your blogs long enough to kn...I've been reading your blogs long enough to know that's exactly what you did in your reply...mixing your issues up with mine. But then maybe I didn't choose the right words when I wrote that paragraph. You won't believe how many times I rewrote it! "icy" was in and out several times. LOL<br /><br />Isn't Brene Brown insightful and she's got a great way of Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-36959423252514188832016-09-10T17:17:19.186-04:002016-09-10T17:17:19.186-04:00Ah! I misinterpreted. Mixing my own issues with y...Ah! I misinterpreted. Mixing my own issues with yours. LOL... I read your 'being a tad icy' to her as defensiveness on your part, caused by her challenging your point of view once you'd opened up. Now I'm thinking she was sensitive to go no further, after picking up on your signal that you had said all you were going to say about the matter. <br /><br />I was just listening to GowitheFlohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01842273685414939160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-73579847014018080102016-09-10T10:36:46.228-04:002016-09-10T10:36:46.228-04:00I disagree with your first paragraph assessment. I...I disagree with your first paragraph assessment. I think she just read my body language and knew that I was not going to talk in depth about the topic of faith. I think that was being empathetic on her part. Besides, acceptance is a two way street. If I want to be accepted, so must I be. She a very nice person---caring about a lot of social injustice issues---and I doubt she'd know how to &Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-73390170460565929252016-09-10T10:05:48.019-04:002016-09-10T10:05:48.019-04:00Hmm, it sounds like you hit a nerve - she's no...Hmm, it sounds like you hit a nerve - she's not ready to be vulnerable talking about the variability of faith. Proud of you for speaking out your non-partisan faith ( or non-faith), though. Too bad she wasn't empathetic to your perspective, which is obviously just as valuable as hers. I hope she didn't outright sneer at you, though your response to her picked up on some version of GowitheFlohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01842273685414939160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-19849661253197953002016-09-09T07:43:01.287-04:002016-09-09T07:43:01.287-04:00Regional differences, I'm guessing, explains t...Regional differences, I'm guessing, explains the topic coming up here and not where you live. Or maybe the topic comes up more than you think, but it doesn't stick in your mind like it does mine because the topic doesn't make you uncomfortable. <br /><br />Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-50800750584287348782016-09-08T23:13:56.785-04:002016-09-08T23:13:56.785-04:00In regards to "her-Pees"--I've been ...In regards to "her-Pees"--I've been in worse and always said to my bursting bladder, "any port in a storm." I find it so strange that every woman you meet asks about your religious preference. I've known people for years and have no idea if they do or do not attend religious functions. What difference does it make?Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03399435237919718544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-33825961802178874632016-09-08T07:42:04.053-04:002016-09-08T07:42:04.053-04:00P.S. but intellectually I'm not sure I can kee...P.S. but intellectually I'm not sure I can keep up. She is one smart woman! Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-30257703687115971132016-09-08T07:41:04.625-04:002016-09-08T07:41:04.625-04:00Her husband was out of state otherwise I think he ...Her husband was out of state otherwise I think he would have gone with her, I think. They are warm and close from my impression. I am guessing you're right about the difference in religious views not being a deal breaker. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-83569173714907231852016-09-08T01:16:32.142-04:002016-09-08T01:16:32.142-04:00Somehow, I'd got the impression that the frien...Somehow, I'd got the impression that the friend was also a widow (more open to new friendships). Its certainly easier for two single people to get together.<br /><br />Be interesting to know how the lady meets up with you again. My guess is that, from the description of your interaction, she's mature enough to not regard this difference in religious views as a deal breaker, and continue Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-17473952890920802982016-09-07T20:11:14.269-04:002016-09-07T20:11:14.269-04:00I had on really good shoes but by the end I was li...I had on really good shoes but by the end I was limping. I spent the evening wrapped in ice and taking Aleve. The terrain was so uneven and that's much harder on my feet than walking on pavement. I can do two miles on pavement. It was fun, though. My friend knew the names of all the plants we were seeing and took lots of photos. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-66281651573104936402016-09-07T19:57:20.190-04:002016-09-07T19:57:20.190-04:00LOL You may not like hiking with your family and f...LOL You may not like hiking with your family and friends but at least you must have heard them talking a time or two. LOLMisadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-74592129574133383772016-09-07T19:52:46.126-04:002016-09-07T19:52:46.126-04:00Oh my, this sounds like something I would enjoy (w...Oh my, this sounds like something I would enjoy (well, without the discussion of religion), but with your feet, I would imagine a long hike wouldn't be your first choice of recreation. I must lack imagination, but I'm still trying to figure out what the male equivalent of "Her-Pees" would be. -JeanAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-6999552892546005222016-09-07T19:38:16.874-04:002016-09-07T19:38:16.874-04:00For some reason this is on Ebay, but I know they s...For some reason this is on Ebay, but I know they sell them at lots of places -- just no real life photo to go with the ads. LOL http://www.ebay.com/itm/like/152200959687?lpid=82&chn=ps&ul_noapp=true<br />donnajurenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10799559087972759233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-72046536671414389052016-09-07T16:17:59.598-04:002016-09-07T16:17:59.598-04:00That's really cool. I don't know why every...That's really cool. I don't know why everyone can't have that kind of respect of our diverse views in this country.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-88724950982880582052016-09-07T14:42:36.987-04:002016-09-07T14:42:36.987-04:00Linda the Tiger. That's fits. LOL Now that I b...Linda the Tiger. That's fits. LOL Now that I broke the ice on admitting I'm not a church goer it will be easier next time. After I read your comment about throwing others for a loop I remembered that a year or so before my husband died I did say to one of my husband's nieces: "we are not Christians" and she flat out thought I was joking. She couldn't wrap her brain Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-24947309239816036852016-09-07T14:29:34.756-04:002016-09-07T14:29:34.756-04:00IF the other person brings it up, I always comment...IF the other person brings it up, I always comment that I am not a church goer or member of any organized religion. One member of our F-Troop has her doctorate in theology, runs a website Sacred Life and her whole other life is religious. But not with me! We enjoy computers, dining, driving (although she gets carsick even when she drives), books, etc. Enjoy what we like together, don't doThe Awkward Widowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03729456066739275695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-71119397420178781452016-09-07T11:48:57.105-04:002016-09-07T11:48:57.105-04:00I am very proud of you for holding your own about ...I am very proud of you for holding your own about religion. See, you can do it. Like Hillary and her scars from battling Republicans I have scars to show for my religion battles. I absolutely refuse to be run in a hole by some pious religious person. I can size them up pretty quickly. Some are innocent in bringing up the subject, mean no harm, & can easily move on to other topics. After all Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11586429675286969340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-58574195666295077542016-09-07T10:49:23.916-04:002016-09-07T10:49:23.916-04:00We've become such a divisive country in recent...We've become such a divisive country in recent years on so many fronts. Not good! <br /><br />I still can't believe the leaves never occurred to me. LOL I'm sure when I was younger and played in the woods all summer I've done that, too. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-10027446651794765252016-09-07T10:45:41.110-04:002016-09-07T10:45:41.110-04:00I was proud of myself. I figured if this friendshi...I was proud of myself. I figured if this friendship has a chance to grow I had to be honest in the 'church' conversation. Ms. Poetry is in my Red Hat Chapter so I will see her again this week when I'll be able to 'read' the winds of change if any. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-27562885054552310582016-09-07T10:07:19.560-04:002016-09-07T10:07:19.560-04:00This was a great adventure and good for you for st...This was a great adventure and good for you for standing your ground. Hope it is just a beginning.Changes in the windhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06942797186537814864noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-13408387593359170392016-09-07T10:02:57.471-04:002016-09-07T10:02:57.471-04:00When my husband and I retired from Fl to NC, one o...When my husband and I retired from Fl to NC, one of the first things we were asked is what church do you go to. Both of us were not church goers and I was raised in a non religious household and none of my friends were either. I don't remember religion being such a big issue as it is today nor such harsh division in beliefs and attitudes. After my husband's death I returned to Fl and Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08987527540895782339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-16712150217824001002016-09-07T08:54:35.928-04:002016-09-07T08:54:35.928-04:00When my husband and I were together I often prefer...When my husband and I were together I often preferred finding a place outside as opposed to searching out a gas station which in some places can be disgusting. I can see how skirts and no undies would work great for that. <br /><br />You're such a great photographer, I will look forward to your 'controlled burn' blog. It's interesting how man has learned to help mother nature Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-82778389883390094722016-09-07T08:47:22.049-04:002016-09-07T08:47:22.049-04:00Love that you got outdoors last weekend. When I tr...Love that you got outdoors last weekend. When I traveled in West Africa, I learned that drip-drying was perfectly acceptable. Since there weren't any public restrooms of any sort, and nothing resembling a "gas station" outside of Monrovia, I followed the practice of many women there: an ankle-length cotton skirt and no undies. Since plenty of people squat on their haunches when shoreacreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16284698314697628805noreply@blogger.com