tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post6586656450379943500..comments2024-03-28T08:55:00.522-04:00Comments on The Misadventures of Widowhood: Snow, Golf and Growing up Near the KlanMisadventures of Widowhoodhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-62676579540305800662018-02-14T10:02:50.163-05:002018-02-14T10:02:50.163-05:00I look forward to you writing about your grandmoth...I look forward to you writing about your grandmother and her Klan experiences. I knew the Klan also focused on immigrate and Catholics, since my grandparents fell into both categories. Even up here in the north the cemeteries were separated in the '40s when my grandfather died. Times are changing and it's good to stop and look back from time to time so we can acknowledge how far we'veMisadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-39096902119336330212018-02-14T09:46:24.750-05:002018-02-14T09:46:24.750-05:00You've brought back a lot of good golf memorie...You've brought back a lot of good golf memories: not because I played, but because I caddied for my mother. She and her friends played a good bit when I was in high school, and I remember them enjoying it for the exercise and gossip as much as anything. She was quite a Tiger Woods fan, though, and loved to watch golf on tv. It's never been my thing as a game, but it was fun to watch with shoreacreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16284698314697628805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-39296913424678687292018-02-12T11:52:41.492-05:002018-02-12T11:52:41.492-05:00I think you've traveled more than I have. Othe...I think you've traveled more than I have. Other than California I have not been to our West coast states. I have been to Mount Rushmore, though where the faces are. Your observations on the people you've meant are very interesting! Thanks for sharing.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-20923482790187875032018-02-12T10:10:44.244-05:002018-02-12T10:10:44.244-05:00Jean :
we have traveled extensively within US tho...Jean :<br /><br />we have traveled extensively within US though not so much in midwest traveled lot in west coast & east coast, though we still have to visit national park in south or north Dakota ne which president's faces carved on the mountain park still have to visit that one. I have actually felt people in south are nicer & have time, they r in less of hurry unlike in north Ashahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02218615086046024182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-89768946712059115842018-02-11T23:24:37.093-05:002018-02-11T23:24:37.093-05:00Gosh, it's been a long time ago that I wrote a...Gosh, it's been a long time ago that I wrote about that movie. I try to watch it once or twice a year because it's got a great message.<br /><br />I'm really glad your experience is what it is living as an immigrant. I do think living on the East Coast is historically more accepting of other nationalities than other places. I wonder if you've traveled much across the Heartland butMisadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-40521098351701643732018-02-11T20:37:29.521-05:002018-02-11T20:37:29.521-05:00Jean:
you know in my past 25 years of living in t...Jean:<br /><br />you know in my past 25 years of living in this country as an immigrant,I never seen any kind of discrimination against me. being woman & in highly technical field I never saw any racism or sexism against me. I am thankful to all civil rights movement which has made this country such a great place to live, where your success depends on how hard you work & hopefully if Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-34199450121470403562018-02-11T17:23:44.409-05:002018-02-11T17:23:44.409-05:00My dad's experiences weren't too far off f...My dad's experiences weren't too far off from your dad'---the late 1900s through the '30s. The setbacks are disheartening but hopefully temporary, same with the woman's movement.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-18397044759961145212018-02-11T14:36:00.081-05:002018-02-11T14:36:00.081-05:00BEAUTIFUL! (I hate golf too.) My father talked a...BEAUTIFUL! (I hate golf too.) My father talked about the Klan and prejudice in his rural hometown on the farm and small towns of southern Indiana in the 20s and 30s. It's appalling. We have come far....and that's why any setback feels like a failure and any politician who speaks in any way against moving forward rather than back is so abhorrent. Your last paragraph brought tears todonnajurenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10799559087972759233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-72839170823453517802018-02-08T15:36:15.182-05:002018-02-08T15:36:15.182-05:00Your father had more formal education than mine. I...Your father had more formal education than mine. I can't remember when he had to quit but I'm thinking it was in the 5th grade. Not that unusual back in those days. Parents teach by example and not always specific conversations but my dad did both. You and I were both lucky that we learned to judge by character and actions.<br /><br />Don't get me started on how much I hate sports. MyMisadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-6202164434071565952018-02-08T12:27:38.892-05:002018-02-08T12:27:38.892-05:00I absolutely loved hearing about the kind of man y...I absolutely loved hearing about the kind of man your father was. Mine was very good-hearted, but only finished the eighth grade, and was raised by parents who were less open minded, but probably typical of their generation. I know I was brought up to judge people on an individual basis rather than anything as shallow as skin color or ethnicity, but I don't remember specific conversations. LS Nelsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16888269999839452459noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-87401210736792620792018-02-07T20:16:26.091-05:002018-02-07T20:16:26.091-05:00The rules of golf are easy to learn but that's...The rules of golf are easy to learn but that's where the 'easy' part ends. It truly is a game of self improvement in your stance, swing, choice of clubs, patience and concentration.<br /><br />I miss my dad a lot, too. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-41521760758753691362018-02-07T19:55:44.873-05:002018-02-07T19:55:44.873-05:00I have never understood golf and I have never play...I have never understood golf and I have never played ... for the same reason! Not that I could hit the ball that far ... but I certainly couldn't see it! Standing around in the hot sun ... ugh! I'd rather take a walk.<br /><br />Our Dads must be of the same generation! Love and miss mine a lot!<br /><br />The Awkward Widowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03729456066739275695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-59679638934072215222018-02-07T16:59:00.605-05:002018-02-07T16:59:00.605-05:00I think Putt Putt golf and miniature golf are the ...I think Putt Putt golf and miniature golf are the same thing, aren't they? Either way, I did enjoy playing it and would to it again without the neon colors that gave several of us headaches. But even that cost $10! I was shocked at that price The last time I played it was $3.00 LOL for 18 holes.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-45634348599788397592018-02-07T16:44:00.409-05:002018-02-07T16:44:00.409-05:00I do love golf. As the kids got older, I played 2...I do love golf. As the kids got older, I played 2/3 times a week. My husband played every single day and also taught it to our high school golf team. I just glanced over at the only trophy I've won in my life. Woman's Club Championship--1984. I couldn't afford to play now, but I'm still pretty good at Putt Putt golf.Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03399435237919718544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-9912579418922066022018-02-07T14:44:02.168-05:002018-02-07T14:44:02.168-05:00I do think most younger people today are more open...I do think most younger people today are more open-hearted than in my generation. They've gone to school with mixed races, socialize together and mixed marriages are more accepted. The racists that came out of the closet recently thought they'd have the majority of their own race behind them and that has not been the case.<br /><br />Did you hear about the newest release from Monopoly? Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-76768467364724913012018-02-07T14:18:18.577-05:002018-02-07T14:18:18.577-05:00Totally agree with your Dad. I never understood ho...Totally agree with your Dad. I never understood how cheaters actually thought they "won" anything. <br />Did not know that about deceased KKK members. I had thought we were making progress but our new politics has made it OK to be open about racism. My biggest hope lies in the youngsters of today. Most seem open hearted.Arkansas Pattihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14156004753267665579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-37762481934750758872018-02-07T12:17:49.443-05:002018-02-07T12:17:49.443-05:00P.S. Do you still blog as The Widow Badass? If so,...P.S. Do you still blog as The Widow Badass? If so, the link between your posting name and your blog is broken.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-31768331257954493612018-02-07T10:37:02.612-05:002018-02-07T10:37:02.612-05:00Comparing notes on our lives is what makes the blo...Comparing notes on our lives is what makes the blog community so much fun. If I could I'd clone our fathers and distribute them around the world. Great role models!<br /><br />So if you took golf to play with your dad but you met husband in the class, it's almost as if your dad was match making. How cool is that...well, assuming you kept that husband around. LOLMisadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-35697043320411660142018-02-07T10:31:53.024-05:002018-02-07T10:31:53.024-05:00Racism IS still alive and well but I actually see ...Racism IS still alive and well but I actually see the turmoil we're in now, with it out of the closet, as a positive in the long game. It's getting harder and harder for the hard-core racists to find a place where they aren't getting push-back. Racism isn't the norm anymore nor is it still built into our institutions like it was in in our lifetime. People of all colors are Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-60268035505574655112018-02-07T10:17:18.591-05:002018-02-07T10:17:18.591-05:00My dad was the most fair-minded and ethical man I&...My dad was the most fair-minded and ethical man I'd ever known. It is hard to understand how your father, having experienced the same kinds of discrimination that my dad and blacks experienced could end up just as bad. BUT to change when his grand-kids came along shows some sole-searching and strength of character. A wonderful example of what we can achieve when love overpowers hate.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-42059495122243224262018-02-07T10:10:29.862-05:002018-02-07T10:10:29.862-05:00So, so many similarities between our fathers. It ...So, so many similarities between our fathers. It is astonishing. (Sidenote: I took a golf class to learn the game in order to hopefully play with my dad. I met my husband in it instead.)Nancehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17627214346956206283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-57771805516185471462018-02-07T10:05:53.392-05:002018-02-07T10:05:53.392-05:00I have to admit to watching my share of golf games...I have to admit to watching my share of golf games on TV---the only sport that I'm actually interested in enough to do that with. <br /><br />Good observation about reading, Libby. I know people who think reading after they've left high school is crazy! I guess we all need a hobby. My book reading time was cut down by the internet, too, but we're still reading while web-surfing...justMisadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-14932986667911063962018-02-07T09:52:59.788-05:002018-02-07T09:52:59.788-05:00It's sad that we've had a resurgence of th...It's sad that we've had a resurgence of the push against immigrants. I'll never understand it either. We are a nation of immigrants. During the Salad Bowl era we took in people from all over the world and a generation later we'd managed to melt together into an interesting tapestry the enriches us all. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-40344079545600042352018-02-07T09:42:29.137-05:002018-02-07T09:42:29.137-05:00My dad worked in a factory and he never said it bu...My dad worked in a factory and he never said it but I think the quiet of the golf course had a big appeal, too. But of course he already loved the sport by the time he was an adult. I may not like playing golf but I sure like golf movies. The Legend of Baggier Vance is one of my all-time favorites. So much good advice about golf in that movie applies to living a good life as well.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-32853508229095689352018-02-07T09:25:11.677-05:002018-02-07T09:25:11.677-05:00I hope you're right, but it sure seems at time...I hope you're right, but it sure seems at times that racism is alive and well and has been let out of the closet.Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08987527540895782339noreply@blogger.com