tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post7448601752180441069..comments2024-03-27T22:13:53.704-04:00Comments on The Misadventures of Widowhood: Kindle, Books and Stupid DoctorsMisadventures of Widowhoodhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-31907491889942509972016-03-27T12:51:43.592-04:002016-03-27T12:51:43.592-04:00Asha, I wanted to add that something very good cam...Asha, I wanted to add that something very good came out of your stroke. Your son found his life's goal and he's going to make a very compassionate doctor when he finishes his schooling. Think of how many lives he will touch.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-40357253470929825592016-03-27T11:44:17.893-04:002016-03-27T11:44:17.893-04:00Thank you. Happy Easter to you, too.
Doctors who...Thank you. Happy Easter to you, too. <br /><br />Doctors who specialize in ICU and ER should take a course on how to talk to families.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-44082941130486821962016-03-27T11:15:21.964-04:002016-03-27T11:15:21.964-04:00Some doctors shouldn't be doctors. I don'...Some doctors shouldn't be doctors. I don't know what they should be, but they should never interact with the public. I can see why you were so angry.<br /><br />Happy Easter to you and scritches to Levi. ☺Sandeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06785788498697004273noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-42717300158199897402016-03-25T13:19:04.985-04:002016-03-25T13:19:04.985-04:00I would not characterize myself as an honorary mot...I would not characterize myself as an honorary mother to Tim. He has plenty of stepmothers, a mother and in-law mothers in his life. He does think of Don as a father figure to him, though. And he's a great friend and is truly the person I'd pick if we could pick a son our of a catalog.<br /><br />Audible books are great for long drives. The ending of my Kindle saga might not be over yet. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-16035853079206742482016-03-25T12:28:55.181-04:002016-03-25T12:28:55.181-04:00My goodness. So many replies. It took a long tim...My goodness. So many replies. It took a long time scrolling down to the bottom! I love all the comments, and Tim is blessed to have you as his honorary mother. I cannot for the life of me understand why people take a doctor's word as gospel, before they have educated themselves. The patient, his/her advocate and the doctor are in partnership. All for one and one for all - no egos allowed. GowitheFlohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01842273685414939160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-3269743617823587442016-03-24T21:41:42.634-04:002016-03-24T21:41:42.634-04:00That's a thought that will keep me up at night...That's a thought that will keep me up at night. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-53684735959074091302016-03-24T21:40:30.950-04:002016-03-24T21:40:30.950-04:00I hope I could do that for him. He's got the b...I hope I could do that for him. He's got the biggest heart of anyone I know and will help his aunt a great deal. When Don was in rehab he'd come down 3-4 times a week to cheer him on. Tim has a crazy sense of humor that makes everyone feel better when he walks into a room.<br />Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-81628709750186751522016-03-24T20:51:04.013-04:002016-03-24T20:51:04.013-04:00Right now, I bet Tim is feeling very blessed to ha...Right now, I bet Tim is feeling very blessed to have you as an honorary mother. What a difference it makes in these difficult medical situations to talk with someone who truly understands and who can provide a more hopeful perspective than some bone-headed doctor. -JeanAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-54160000969244734312016-03-24T20:40:33.608-04:002016-03-24T20:40:33.608-04:00Ah! its just not the 'locals' that are imp...Ah! its just not the 'locals' that are impacted by Prez T (horrible thought!!) but the Whole of the Free World. ~ LibbyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-38238478633872364632016-03-24T20:30:31.887-04:002016-03-24T20:30:31.887-04:00Ya, it's a balancing act, I suppose, between g...Ya, it's a balancing act, I suppose, between giving false hope and too much. I'm glad I don't have to be the one to decide in situations like we've all been in. I know enough, now, not to let a doctor talk in front of patient's hearing but the down size is there's only the dog health left who'd put me in that situation. <br /><br />Easy for you to say about Trump. You Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-10258054609152343612016-03-24T20:00:52.907-04:002016-03-24T20:00:52.907-04:00With such rapid advances in knowledge, I think its...With such rapid advances in knowledge, I think its best for everyone to keep an open mind. Re doctors, the doctor (an old timer) told my husband at a repeat visit that he was surprised he was still around. I found that most insensitive. Now think sometimes, it may be better than giving false hope? I don't know. BUT do not like any patient being talked over at any time - those conversations Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-78332617070955196722016-03-24T16:16:14.688-04:002016-03-24T16:16:14.688-04:00I hear ya! I just wish I was younger while these c...I hear ya! I just wish I was younger while these changes are going on. In time I think they will actually help the healthcare system be more efficient but maybe I'm fooling myself. LOLMisadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-16590792406816780992016-03-24T14:41:12.928-04:002016-03-24T14:41:12.928-04:00Oh, I didn't interpret your post as anti docto...Oh, I didn't interpret your post as anti doctor. I just get a little sensitive but that perspective from some people. I have run into docs that I don't like too and I have had mistakes made with my own health care. I firmly believe in finding someone who is a "good fit" and then having an advocate to help troubleshoot the system. Not always easy. We have seen the medical donnajurenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10799559087972759233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-34092529545309056052016-03-24T10:56:05.578-04:002016-03-24T10:56:05.578-04:00Chart your sleepless nights sometime and see how t...Chart your sleepless nights sometime and see how they line up with the moon phases. <br /><br />I didn't know your husband is a doctor! If you read my reply to Paul's comment you'll know I'm not down on all doctors. The one who gave Don a chance at rehab is a saint in my eyes. We definitely ran into more caring doctors over the years than those who need to tune up their bedside Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-64170236982430175802016-03-24T10:24:44.583-04:002016-03-24T10:24:44.583-04:001. So that's why I can't sleep!!!
2. I r...1. So that's why I can't sleep!!!<br />2. I read that book and liked it even if now I can't remember anything about it. Maybe a re-read one day.<br />3. I'm about to write a blog post on my tech difficulties and days in the Apple store with their tech "Geniuses".<br />4. It's very discouraging when doctors are abrupt and uncaring. Some are. Some aren't. donnajurenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10799559087972759233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-72168073808281990482016-03-24T09:25:47.261-04:002016-03-24T09:25:47.261-04:00The full moon really does keep people awake. More ...The full moon really does keep people awake. More babies are born then and more murders happen then. It makes sense because if a full moon can effect the seas why can't it effect the fluids in our bodies?<br /><br />At least your dad's doctor had the good graces to apologize. If they'd just learn not to talk like that in front of patients it would be wonderful. For one, not being ableMisadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-91397870048925208782016-03-24T04:02:24.183-04:002016-03-24T04:02:24.183-04:00Full moon, huh? I'm going to have to pay atten...Full moon, huh? I'm going to have to pay attention to that. Oops! I just googled it. Full moon was last night, which may explain why I'm wide awake in the middle of the night. <br /><br />Dad had a stroke when he was about eighty. The doctor told us the same thing. My brother tried to tell him that Dad understood us, but just couldn't talk. The doctor had none of it. He said that he Bella Rumhttp://bellarum.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-86625262516375972042016-03-24T00:48:33.126-04:002016-03-24T00:48:33.126-04:00I much prefer reading real books, too. I like to w...I much prefer reading real books, too. I like to write in the margins. But I play a few games on it every night and take it with me to offices. They'd be great for travelers, I think.<br /><br />You mom's neurosurgeon sounds like he was a common sense kind of guy. And your family trusted him enough not to keep looking for other answers that might have require treatments she didn't Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-73780863722252734052016-03-23T20:52:11.423-04:002016-03-23T20:52:11.423-04:00I've tried and tried to get with my Kindle, bu...I've tried and tried to get with my Kindle, but I've abandoned it so totally that I've had to charge the battery just from it sitting around. I have found it useful for a few particular chores, but for just reading, I'll still take a book. <br /><br />When my mom was deep into hospitals, her experience only confirmed a suspicion I'd had since working in the medical field: shoreacreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16284698314697628805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-82682060279034361162016-03-23T17:58:33.643-04:002016-03-23T17:58:33.643-04:00Those right brain strokes can really mess with you...Those right brain strokes can really mess with your emotions, though. I always felt sorry for the caregivers to the right brain survivors that we ran into because some of them had so much trouble understanding and thus dealing with the changing emotions in their spouses. Thankfully, you, Don, me and your husband all were able to accept the new normal and go on to get the most out of life possibleMisadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-11390229456582766052016-03-23T17:37:52.460-04:002016-03-23T17:37:52.460-04:00hey Jean :
not having speech is such a tough for ...hey Jean :<br /><br />not having speech is such a tough for every one involved. you are so much in mercy of every one. unless you are supported by supporting caregiver I shiver to even think where survivor would end up. right after my stroke when I was crying so hard & those indian resident doctors trying to console me saying you don't realize this clot could have gone either side of yourAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-14106157839761418372016-03-23T10:29:20.925-04:002016-03-23T10:29:20.925-04:00I prefer reading a real book over my Kindle. But t...I prefer reading a real book over my Kindle. But the Kindle is good when you need a to take a book with you but you don't want to carry the weight/size of a book in your purse.<br /><br />I've heard that too about neuro doctors and I agree with you. When Don was five years out from his stroke I wrote a letter to the neurologist who gave him a chance at rehab telling him about Don's Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-39691706619493812822016-03-23T09:35:20.548-04:002016-03-23T09:35:20.548-04:00The band of snow that is headed to Michigan is ver...The band of snow that is headed to Michigan is very narrow, they say. One end of town might get nothing and the other end get 12 inches. Looks like spring has to wait another week. I don't mind the snow that melts as it falls. Glad you got your concert in!<br /><br />Fiction books likes this sure can bring history alive. I guessed you'd know about the Channel Islands and I was hoping you&Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-58700493044742193492016-03-23T09:21:21.798-04:002016-03-23T09:21:21.798-04:00I did not know about the island of Guernsey and Je...I did not know about the island of Guernsey and Jersey before reading this book. Great read so far. I love Guernsey and Jersey cows and can't believe I never knew where the breeds (probably) started. I have to research that.<br /><br />You are smart to know as much as you can about your conditions. The days of blind trust is gone. The medical community can't know everything and the Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-14192939708801505792016-03-23T09:17:12.181-04:002016-03-23T09:17:12.181-04:00I was thinking of getting a Kindle but I still lik...I was thinking of getting a Kindle but I still like the feel of a good book. I must be getting older then I thought but many of these electronic gadgets make me feel stupid or maybe I am when it comes to them. Ha,ha,ha.<br /><br />You know Jean, when it comes to these neuro doctors, many of them see so much saddness but at the same time, they still should realize that the family is worried don&#Cruisin Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13137904435537645207noreply@blogger.com