tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post8061255348401833965..comments2024-03-27T22:13:53.704-04:00Comments on The Misadventures of Widowhood: Three Movies, One WeekMisadventures of Widowhoodhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-17996209910477227492017-10-25T18:47:01.956-04:002017-10-25T18:47:01.956-04:00I know what you mean. There is a difference betwee...I know what you mean. There is a difference between mink handcuffs and real ones. But from a woman's point of view, why invite escalation to happen if the mink cuffs get boring, so to speak?Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-28112124053196865212017-10-25T18:33:32.024-04:002017-10-25T18:33:32.024-04:00Yes, I definitely DONT understand the attraction t...Yes, I definitely DONT understand the attraction to that form of sexual "expression" but as with anything i think there is a continuum... of relatively harmless playfulness with a nod to S&M (blindfolds, anyone?) but to actually inflict real pain or to enjoy it? Nope.donnajurenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10799559087972759233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-34015990333427917262017-10-25T18:12:27.276-04:002017-10-25T18:12:27.276-04:00That young girls could be led to beleive that S&am...That young girls could be led to beleive that S&M is normal is what bothers me the most about the 'Shades' books. You're more open-minded than me because I don't accept that S&M is okay between consenting adults. A person who wants to inflict or get pain mixed up with sex needs help from a mental health professional. They's got soul sucking ghosts in their closet. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-54959225582938155592017-10-25T17:25:32.990-04:002017-10-25T17:25:32.990-04:00I read 50 Shades and HATED IT! The writing was at...I read 50 Shades and HATED IT! The writing was atrocious and the story was stunning in awfulness of having a virgin introduced to sex through S&M. I thought of all the young girls who might be drawn to this book/movie and how they might be influenced by the message. I'm pretty much OK with whatever sexually experienced consenting adults want to do together, including S&M, but NOT donnajurenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10799559087972759233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-51140926565994640922017-10-12T11:56:12.933-04:002017-10-12T11:56:12.933-04:00Going to the movies and lunch is an opportunity fo...Going to the movies and lunch is an opportunity for a social event for me. When my husband was alive, we didn't have the time or desire to go either.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-64127256410048983192017-10-12T11:34:00.601-04:002017-10-12T11:34:00.601-04:00No interest in 50 Shades, either. Will probably w...No interest in 50 Shades, either. Will probably wait for the Victoria one for when it's on Netflix. Generally the only movies we'll spend money on are the big Sci Fi ones that deserve the mega screen experience. Some Oscar-nominated flicks, too. That's about it...Silver in AZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12501467853392916885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-55414776242146088862017-10-12T09:28:49.455-04:002017-10-12T09:28:49.455-04:00That line in your second paragraph is a paraphrase...That line in your second paragraph is a paraphrase from Hillary's book and she says it's inherent in her faith, which I take is like a mission statement. Nice words to strive for but I sure don't do it either.<br /><br />I rarely went to the theater to see movies when my husband's was living. I can probably count the times on my fingers. I found wonder how I had the energy to workMisadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-20788736427608691402017-10-12T06:09:42.448-04:002017-10-12T06:09:42.448-04:00I agree with the comments above - I'd never wa...I agree with the comments above - I'd never watch 40 (although I might rifle through the pages, if I saw the book in the library). I'm not a movie goer, so will wait for Victoria to arrive on my TV.<br /><br />Re "greater purpose", wish I knew it too. I think its on the lines of "do all the good you can, to all the people you can, etc". But can't say I do that too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-71304633573087971532017-10-11T21:33:00.540-04:002017-10-11T21:33:00.540-04:00I don't get why any woman (or man) would trust...I don't get why any woman (or man) would trust someone who wants to handcuff them or tie them up. Crazy, crazy!<br /><br />I really like Jack Black and usually like the movies he's in. They are light, silly and fun.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-84842087331968206632017-10-11T21:14:02.145-04:002017-10-11T21:14:02.145-04:00I haven't seen any of these movies, Shallow Ha...I haven't seen any of these movies, Shallow Hal sounds like one to see and Fifty Shades would not be for me, I happen to agree with your review of the subject matter, no woman should be put into that situation regardless of "safe words"Jimmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00079471254681821763noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-53935866567754574372017-10-11T18:07:27.979-04:002017-10-11T18:07:27.979-04:00Wow, going after marries men, then bragging about ...Wow, going after marries men, then bragging about it is pretty low on the totem pole of behavior.<br /><br />I'm glad I saw "Fifty Shades" because it confirmed my ability to evaluate movie hype and plot lines, and I seriously wanted to understand how they presented S&M so that it made it acceptable to so many women. I will say the framing of shots and camera work was very Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-30205734671063811042017-10-11T17:41:04.730-04:002017-10-11T17:41:04.730-04:00Yes, he did answer it but I didn't like the an...Yes, he did answer it but I didn't like the answer. LOL I was over service when I was in caregiver mode for a total of 17 years between my dad and my husband. I don't have the desire or energy to be of service to anyone buy myself now.<br /><br />I agree with what you're saying in the second paragraph. A lot of men in the older generations probably don't/didn't think what theyMisadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-82360768871257459872017-10-11T17:14:28.205-04:002017-10-11T17:14:28.205-04:00I would NOT spend a penny to read or watch any of ...I would NOT spend a penny to read or watch any of that smut. Yuk. A woman who lives here wrote a book about her time in the Vietnam War ... having affairs with married officers. Will not read that either. Bragging about low morals? I think not.The Awkward Widowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03729456066739275695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-16265694739821805992017-10-11T15:26:57.043-04:002017-10-11T15:26:57.043-04:00He did answer the question, didn’t he? We’re stil...He did answer the question, didn’t he? We’re still here after the deaths of loved one for “service”. I suppose we all provide that service in our own unique ways within our situation which may impose limitations of various kinds. Simply “being” can be a service in some cases. For others maybe simply providing a listening ear will serve as a meaningful service. Am sure there are numerous joaredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09999395062839739698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-29652032134127775242017-10-11T15:15:24.830-04:002017-10-11T15:15:24.830-04:00She sure won't disappoint you. The shear opule...She sure won't disappoint you. The shear opulence of the life style the queen lived in was mind boggling and from what I read, they filmed in the actually places, not on movie sets made to look like royal estates, palaces and rooms.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-77416030348341642022017-10-11T14:31:58.119-04:002017-10-11T14:31:58.119-04:00I think my mom read Peyton Place before I ever did...I think my mom read Peyton Place before I ever did. I saw the movie long before trying the book. That's a funny story about what your mom said about it. Valley of the Dolls was another scandalous book from back in those days. I wouldn't have a "Shades" book or movie in the house either for fear I'd die and people thought I was a fan.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-57011348042189090412017-10-11T14:28:28.087-04:002017-10-11T14:28:28.087-04:00I didn't even know about the Story of O but, t...I didn't even know about the Story of O but, thanks to you and Mr. Google, I do now. I bet that didn't play in my town that, back then, was known as the City of Churches. There was a local protect when 'Shades' was playing but they didn't shut it down...just white noise and more publicity for the movie because the protest made the news.<br /><br />The thing I worry about with Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-73780631170575662722017-10-11T14:11:11.688-04:002017-10-11T14:11:11.688-04:00Judi Dench was perfect in that role. So a great ta...Judi Dench was perfect in that role. So a great talent, that woman.<br /><br />Interesting two comments in a row about the poor writing of "Shades." I could never understand why so many people raved about these books, given the S&M thread that runs throw them. I saw an author interviews and I found her to be disgusting.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-58677344417614023852017-10-11T14:10:29.373-04:002017-10-11T14:10:29.373-04:00Didn't read the book nor see the Shades movie ...Didn't read the book nor see the Shades movie nor have I seen the Shallow Hal. However, Victoria and Abdul is for sure on my list and the nearest theater here is a 3 hour round trip which shows how much I want to see it. Judi Dench is my favorite actress.Arkansas Pattihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14156004753267665579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-87469023451238082952017-10-11T14:07:30.492-04:002017-10-11T14:07:30.492-04:00I think I built Victoria and Abdul up in my head s...I think I built Victoria and Abdul up in my head so much before seeing it that I was slightly disappointed. But we all liked it. I didn't LOVE, LOVE it, if you know what I mean. I was happy the theater was full because that will help Hollywood make more films that appeal to older people if we older people support them in the theaters. <br /><br />Got goes to Amazon now and see if I can read aMisadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-69484881936598352512017-10-11T10:52:31.069-04:002017-10-11T10:52:31.069-04:00I liked the Shallow Hal movie too--cute and funny....I liked the Shallow Hal movie too--cute and funny. I want to see the one about Victoria--I love Judy Dench. The 50 shades of whatever, I wouldn't allow the book or the movie inside my house. LOL Funny to remember, back in the day, when I read Peyton Place and was horrified. and my favorite author for a time was Harold Robbins. I had the book laying on the arm of my couch and my mother Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03399435237919718544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-35153708141577112222017-10-11T10:45:13.302-04:002017-10-11T10:45:13.302-04:00I took issue with the fact that such a big deal wa...I took issue with the fact that such a big deal was made about 50 Shades when the book The Story Of O had already been written, excerpted, and made into a film for more than...20 years? The point of it being Mainstream S&M is the Big Deal, I guess, but perhaps it also means Really Mediocre Writing as well.<br /><br />**To be fair, I only read a couple of excerpts provided with reviews. ThatNancehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17627214346956206283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-14186297106085959902017-10-11T10:22:31.856-04:002017-10-11T10:22:31.856-04:00When I was busy reading everything I could get my ...When I was busy reading everything I could get my hands on, a dear old friend sent me the three books. She told me what she thought of them and I could form my own opinion. I shared her opinion of disgust. The books sounded like lies she was telling her sorority sisters, trying to convince them of her experiences. Bad writing, I never felt like I was there. A waste of my time ... It's amazingSharonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02743921972328074980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-79383857185649164892017-10-11T10:05:30.454-04:002017-10-11T10:05:30.454-04:00I'm against censorship but there is a huge dif...I'm against censorship but there is a huge difference in marketing aka mainstreaming S&M the way that show did. Never should have happened! "Really!" indeed. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-61713079910721234752017-10-11T10:03:18.109-04:002017-10-11T10:03:18.109-04:00This was so very interesting Jean. I did not care ...This was so very interesting Jean. I did not care for Shallow Hal because I didn't see it the same way as you. I may need to revisit that and see it through your eyes. I would never ever watch 50 shades or read the poorly written book. I read a page because a friend had made such fun of it due to the poor writing. That was enough. There is good eroticia out there in print if I want to read Margaret (Peggy or Peg too)https://www.blogger.com/profile/04247428494327269983noreply@blogger.com