tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post8687586417418996875..comments2024-03-29T08:54:05.713-04:00Comments on The Misadventures of Widowhood: Where Do I Go From Here?Misadventures of Widowhoodhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-75232608003646182712017-05-27T10:54:56.661-04:002017-05-27T10:54:56.661-04:00Mickie, if you see this I apologize that your comm...Mickie, if you see this I apologize that your comment somehow went to my spam folder and I just found it...in MAY!<br />Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-32696685143036059612017-04-26T23:10:14.826-04:002017-04-26T23:10:14.826-04:00Yes, I'm back from my April woes and lows.
T...Yes, I'm back from my April woes and lows. <br /><br />Thanks for translating my "perpetual state of unrest" as " personal growth." I like that and think it rings true.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-62329083614901106462017-04-26T22:15:20.156-04:002017-04-26T22:15:20.156-04:00Jean, I hope things are looking brighter as April ...Jean, I hope things are looking brighter as April transitions into May. I'm the queen of silver linings,so let me offer this as a possibility: maybe being "in a perpetual state of unrest" is a description of personal growth. -JeanAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-26518384408784527282017-04-18T18:01:24.608-04:002017-04-18T18:01:24.608-04:00I tend to forget that people care and that if I tr...I tend to forget that people care and that if I truly needed something, they'd be there in a flash to help. I just don't like asking and being "needy."<br /><br />Thanks for stopping by my blog and for the great comments. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-10928517913001929252017-04-18T12:51:33.607-04:002017-04-18T12:51:33.607-04:00It appears you have many friends who truly care fo...It appears you have many friends who truly care for you, this is a blessing for sure because they will always be here for you when this time of year comes around, I see my Mom go through the exact same thing each year on the anniversary of my Step Dads passing.<br /><br />"I may not know where I’m going but I’m moving forward" I like this statement and in my mind it sums it up, as long Jimmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00079471254681821763noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-26618170259921443532017-04-18T10:38:04.142-04:002017-04-18T10:38:04.142-04:00I too lost my husband, unexpectedly, 5 years ago i...I too lost my husband, unexpectedly, 5 years ago in April. It seems like never ending sadness. I am busy and active but nothing will replace the plans we had for our later years. After 5 years it is still day by day.Mickienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-19987147185759376972017-04-14T21:10:41.898-04:002017-04-14T21:10:41.898-04:00It already is better since I wrote this.
I spill ...It already is better since I wrote this.<br /><br />I spill my guts about almost everything and you blog without writing much about your personal experiences which makes you all the more fascinating. LOL<br />Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-17728115926712897382017-04-14T20:59:45.380-04:002017-04-14T20:59:45.380-04:00OK. I confess. I grinned when I read, "Where ...OK. I confess. I grinned when I read, "Where do I go from here? What widow has not asked that question of herself?" I think that's a question we all ask of ourselves, whatever our circumstances. I don't write about my personal experiences on my blog, and I won't, but believe me -- I know about what it takes to pick up and move on. I hope the rest of the month goes well for shoreacreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16284698314697628805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-76471700808039307752017-04-14T10:49:27.558-04:002017-04-14T10:49:27.558-04:00You would go on, Paul, because you have kids and g...You would go on, Paul, because you have kids and grandkids you'd have to be strong for and who would need you to. That's not to say you wouldn't deal with a lot of pain and heartache but I firmly believe strength comes to us when we need it the most. <br /><br />Enjoy the nice weather and hopefully the golf course.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-5010455699114830282017-04-14T09:19:37.237-04:002017-04-14T09:19:37.237-04:00WOW, this blog as a very heavy one Jean. I have no...WOW, this blog as a very heavy one Jean. I have no idea what it must be like to lose a spouse but just thinking about losing MaryLou would kill me. I don't know if my life could go on if I know it would. Whoosh, I don't know if can write anymore today. I'm just going to have to comprehend about all that you wrote. Until then my friend, have a blessed Good Friday. See ya Jean.<br /><brCruisin Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13137904435537645207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-22109257321853897472017-04-14T07:41:00.380-04:002017-04-14T07:41:00.380-04:00You are sweet to say that, to think that! You are sweet to say that, to think that! Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-14344196399251016452017-04-14T01:32:59.153-04:002017-04-14T01:32:59.153-04:00Insightful, vulnerable, poignant....a beautiful po...Insightful, vulnerable, poignant....a beautiful post. You are moving on in a most gracious, courageous, and loving way. I wonder if you realize what a role model you are for so many others? donnajurenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10799559087972759233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-89405010574737717882017-04-13T15:03:13.012-04:002017-04-13T15:03:13.012-04:00You will. From what you've written about your ...You will. From what you've written about your husband and your relationship, I get the sense that it was very much like mine and Don's. Lots of rich memories to treasure.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-47107751114520409382017-04-13T11:34:50.249-04:002017-04-13T11:34:50.249-04:00I admire you Jean. As we've aged I think about...I admire you Jean. As we've aged I think about this type of thing. I fear it actually. I can only hope that I can deal with this with the same grace and strength. Margaret (Peggy or Peg too)https://www.blogger.com/profile/04247428494327269983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-84192031707566971152017-04-13T11:13:27.213-04:002017-04-13T11:13:27.213-04:00The meme at the top about challenges helping us fi...The meme at the top about challenges helping us find out who we are is so true, isn't it. I'm afraid I do analyze everything, it's who I am but that's doesn't mean it stops me from moving forward. I just like to see where I'm at so I can see how far I've come.<br /><br />Tell me about the new volunteering gig you've got! <br />Whatever it is I hope it's helpingMisadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-89710704955335516352017-04-13T10:46:15.917-04:002017-04-13T10:46:15.917-04:00Jean:
I am so sorry for your loss, thorough your ...Jean:<br /><br />I am so sorry for your loss, thorough your words I have known Don & I miss him too. at the same time I feel change is good for our growth. when we put outside our comfort zone something beautiful does come out of it. I have experienced it in my own life, with our move & now this new volunteering gig I am doing, boy had felt so insecure before attempting, but now feels Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-60116730751322472892017-04-12T22:43:33.903-04:002017-04-12T22:43:33.903-04:00Isn't that a weird feeling! I don't want a...Isn't that a weird feeling! I don't want another man either, but it's a hard realization to know that kind of closeness with a significant other is in the past and never coming back. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-64512262357554126832017-04-12T22:30:13.568-04:002017-04-12T22:30:13.568-04:00I had the reality hit me a couple of weeks ago. I...I had the reality hit me a couple of weeks ago. I will never have a man in my life again. I've had a man in my life up until 5 years ago. I was married young and them divorced, still young--mid 40's and never ever had to worry about a date for Saturday night or a long term relationship, with lots of fun and travel and someone to talk to. I was tall and blonde and pretty well put Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03399435237919718544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-37287422108223130512017-04-12T19:36:13.607-04:002017-04-12T19:36:13.607-04:00Thank you. The same thing happened when I started ...Thank you. The same thing happened when I started and kept a caregiver's blog. Writing about the emotional ups and downs did feel like I was helping others in some small way. And I hope the same thing is true for this one.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-3055760964510995962017-04-12T19:26:54.362-04:002017-04-12T19:26:54.362-04:00Grief is complex. Sorrow around anniversaries is i...Grief is complex. Sorrow around anniversaries is inescapable. You have remained open to the choices that start appearing after that first awful couple of years. I for one am grateful to have this blog to visit - proof that one of your choices has lead to pleasure and comfort for others, even though it emerged from sorrow.Laurenhttp://www.laurensnelson.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-21341704566629651922017-04-12T16:13:32.031-04:002017-04-12T16:13:32.031-04:00I can mix up my work out after my paid training se...I can mix up my work out after my paid training sessions end which should be mid May. Until then, if I don't do the two hours, 3-4 times a week I won't be ready for the next step-up she'll give me. I can see so much improvement that I feel 10 years younger. That's no joke. Getting in and out of the car, picking stuff off the floor, my balance, carrying heavy stuff, putting sheets Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-57950419176663285932017-04-12T16:01:56.488-04:002017-04-12T16:01:56.488-04:00There was a story on the news yesterday about a co...There was a story on the news yesterday about a couple who did the same thing! She's in a nursing home but that didn't stop them from getting married. My own brother went to this (50th) class reunion and reconnected with a classmate and now they are a couple. I still can't even imagine doing that. LOLMisadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-36303322915673446652017-04-12T15:39:03.539-04:002017-04-12T15:39:03.539-04:00Special moments must be so difficult and i do hope...Special moments must be so difficult and i do hope you get past this one without too much pain. I can't begin to know what you are going through. <br />As for rekindling a past romance, I do know of a couple who did just that. They were high school sweethearts but went to different colleges and went different ways. Both had two children, both lost their spouses but after meeting at a class Arkansas Pattihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14156004753267665579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-87614670976575648282017-04-12T14:53:46.440-04:002017-04-12T14:53:46.440-04:00So sorry, Sara Sadness. Ebb and flow. We know yo...So sorry, Sara Sadness. Ebb and flow. We know you will get through it but wish we could help in some way. Sharing your words might be all ...<br /><br />Can you jazz up your workout routine? Mix it up somehow that might make it easier?<br /><br />I wish I could commit to doing something social every day like you do ... but I guess my social these days are the little ones. We are sending MomThe Awkward Widowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03729456066739275695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-70155499511376047062017-04-12T14:41:07.923-04:002017-04-12T14:41:07.923-04:00It will. I'm booked pretty solid next week so ...It will. I'm booked pretty solid next week so I won't have time to think. Plus, writing out my feelings like with this post (and others) is how I process my emotions so I can let them go... until the next Red/Pink Letter Day. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.com