tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post8819631895534631198..comments2024-03-28T20:40:18.960-04:00Comments on The Misadventures of Widowhood: The Whiny WidowMisadventures of Widowhoodhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-25007220786240856512015-05-16T23:28:20.534-04:002015-05-16T23:28:20.534-04:00Thanks for the comment. And Welcome to my blog alt...Thanks for the comment. And Welcome to my blog although, I wish you didn't have a need to go looking for blogs written by widows. Sorry for you lost your husband.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-75756933069640189962015-05-16T22:17:06.544-04:002015-05-16T22:17:06.544-04:00Bless all of you. You have this seven month widow ...Bless all of you. You have this seven month widow laughing and laughing. I will take all of you for friends. Thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-73708244124589627772015-05-13T23:07:06.622-04:002015-05-13T23:07:06.622-04:00I did a little bit of meditation in a yoga class I...I did a little bit of meditation in a yoga class I took last year. It really is relaxing. <br /><br />I was half joking about being whiny and I'm glad you saw that. Losing friends when a spouse dies or when you are sidetracked with caregiving is so common and that's one of the reasons I write about it as often as I do.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-5140474459327686352015-05-13T19:05:17.016-04:002015-05-13T19:05:17.016-04:00Seriously, a meditation class would be great, espe...Seriously, a meditation class would be great, especially if someone rubbed your feet while you were meditating. <br /><br />My husband and I are best friends. We enjoy many of the same things, but have enough of our own things to give each other a break. I'd want him to be my friend even if we weren't married, but... And it's a big but. We have lost some of our best friends along the Bella Rumhttp://bellarum.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-77943919008478650512015-05-13T09:17:58.155-04:002015-05-13T09:17:58.155-04:00I only whine when I write about myself and my inne...I only whine when I write about myself and my inner thoughts. <br /><br />You are in a good place, it sounds like. <br />Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-58582920476925271052015-05-13T06:29:52.755-04:002015-05-13T06:29:52.755-04:00Camaraderie isn't in a whiner's toolbox. ...Camaraderie isn't in a whiner's toolbox. Unless it's with fellow whiners. Life is too short to join a pity party. <br /><br />My Friendship Coach has taught me to be an awesome friend to myself. So, maybe the law of attraction will work now. Thing is, I'm too content to care. LOLGowitheFlohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01842273685414939160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-75252970717538474832015-05-11T17:43:40.129-04:002015-05-11T17:43:40.129-04:00It is, isn't it. But I also think we can just ...It is, isn't it. But I also think we can just hang out together if you pick the right activities. My Movie and Lunch Club is that way. Finding the right fit for what we want out of friendships is the hard part, at least to me. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-80744372752029476352015-05-11T14:55:19.489-04:002015-05-11T14:55:19.489-04:00It occurs to me that social life for women is too ...It occurs to me that social life for women is too often work. Why can't we just hang out together?Hattiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13297404386730167834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-6115753948576001852015-05-10T23:15:56.093-04:002015-05-10T23:15:56.093-04:00I know you're right. Back before I met my husb...I know you're right. Back before I met my husband I was in serious man shopping mode and wasn't connecting. So I wrote a letter to Ann Landers---hey, I was young and desperate, LOL---and she basically told me the same thing. She recommended getting out and about as much as possible doing things I enjoyed doing and it would happen when I wasn't looking.<br /><br />I'm glad you'Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-61163366778601464422015-05-10T22:45:59.221-04:002015-05-10T22:45:59.221-04:00I've come to the conclusion that looking for f...I've come to the conclusion that looking for friendship is like looking for happiness; you find it when you are focused on other things and not really looking. When I first moved to Pennsylvania (in my early forties), I made a concerted effort to develop some close friendships there and none of them worked out (my 'targets' were too busy with their spouses and children to have time Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-88498048081109094372015-05-10T12:11:24.112-04:002015-05-10T12:11:24.112-04:00Me too regarding friendly acquaintances and I used...Me too regarding friendly acquaintances and I used to think I could turn a few of them into good friends. But I've since come to realize that both parties have to be in at a place in their lives where they are activity looking to add new friends for that to happen. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-51387941147697478882015-05-10T11:55:02.065-04:002015-05-10T11:55:02.065-04:00I have a lot of acquaintances but very few friends...I have a lot of acquaintances but very few friends. I have some very long distance friends that I love with all my heart. They are spread all over this country, and a few out of country. Love them to pieces. Here I have one really great friend and we enjoy our time together even though it's limited. <br /><br />Have a fabulous day. ☺Sandeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06785788498697004273noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-86571581345946509092015-05-10T11:32:20.861-04:002015-05-10T11:32:20.861-04:00I've never heard that paraphrase of Aristotle&...I've never heard that paraphrase of Aristotle's. Thanks for sharing. Losing the first two kinds of friendships after a stroke is SO common place for the survivors and their caregivers.My husband was very hurt when he was abandon by one couple in particular who he thought were better friends than they turned out to be. In hindsight I could see that Don was always the giver in the Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-73560133737714229572015-05-10T10:27:41.267-04:002015-05-10T10:27:41.267-04:00Another blog writer who comments here on occasion ...Another blog writer who comments here on occasion (Step into the Future) pointed out once that we can have friends the serve different roles in our lives. In context we were discussing how widows and divorcees make the mistake of looking for a new friend to fill the void and that won't work because friends are very different than spouses. She made a believer out of me.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-16030785382336766872015-05-10T10:08:55.942-04:002015-05-10T10:08:55.942-04:00Aristotle believes that there are three different ...Aristotle believes that there are three different kinds of friendship; that of utility, friendship of pleasure, and virtuous friendship. I lost all of the first two after my stroke. I've managed to recreate lots of the third after moving to MI.<br />http://cantory.blogspot.com/2007/12/aristotle-and-his-view-of-friendship.htmloc2deanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08250175616870469881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-6337613735992420562015-05-10T09:52:06.209-04:002015-05-10T09:52:06.209-04:00Friends are what you make it. I have wonderful nei...Friends are what you make it. I have wonderful neighbours that are there when I need assistance and I call them friends but others wouldn't call them friends. I have a wonderful friend in Florida, a woman that I just love her so much and friends that I just enjoy to be with. It's amazing when you think about it.<br />Have a wonderful Mother's day. See ya.<br /><br />Cruisin PaulCruisin Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13137904435537645207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-36455940397998157762015-05-10T09:06:32.690-04:002015-05-10T09:06:32.690-04:00I know exactly what you mean! Working people don&#...I know exactly what you mean! Working people don't have time to nurture friendships like we might have done in times past. And some of us in our age bracket don't want to make new friends because we subconsciously fear they could die on us. <br /><br />I had wanted to add something in this post about the different ways we define the word 'friend'----where that line between 'Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-35882744626278523182015-05-10T08:43:41.311-04:002015-05-10T08:43:41.311-04:00My daughter Karen and I were just talking about th...My daughter Karen and I were just talking about this yesterday. We have friends, but we don't have FRIENDS!!! Hers are all too busy and mine are dying off! Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03399435237919718544noreply@blogger.com