tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post8880296088471191908..comments2024-03-28T20:40:18.960-04:00Comments on The Misadventures of Widowhood: The DilemmaMisadventures of Widowhoodhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comBlogger50125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-34028876006672103972021-03-19T10:55:54.995-04:002021-03-19T10:55:54.995-04:00It's been over two weeks and it still really h...It's been over two weeks and it still really hurts.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-29327791881826148022021-03-19T10:23:38.451-04:002021-03-19T10:23:38.451-04:00Nearly all of the "dog people" I know en...Nearly all of the "dog people" I know end up getting another. But I see what both of my sons have endured with puppies and it reminds me of how much work it all is! I had dogs from age 15 to 60 something and when sweet Toby died of cancer we decided to take a break from the work and worry and expense and responsibility. We don't regret it, but if I was alone with no husband, I&#donnajurenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10799559087972759233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-54743701983325473352021-03-16T18:22:36.080-04:002021-03-16T18:22:36.080-04:00P.S. The system you've mentioned is new to me ...P.S. The system you've mentioned is new to me and sounds really cool. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-25219953825583625942021-03-16T18:19:51.873-04:002021-03-16T18:19:51.873-04:00I have a picket fence that worked just fine for Le...I have a picket fence that worked just fine for Levi and for my poodle before him. The problem I'd have if I tried to get a recuse after I move they wouldn't let me take one because I'll be living in an apartment-like situation---totally dog friendly with great walking trails for dogs but those recuse places say 'no exception' to the required fence rule to adoption. Can't Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-1663761272377249352021-03-16T12:28:09.982-04:002021-03-16T12:28:09.982-04:00I know people say you HAVE to have a fence but I w...I know people say you HAVE to have a fence but I will tell you my 2 year old Cavalier puppy quickly learned his boundaries with the Petsafe electronic fence system. And I have five rescue dogs next door that are a real temptation but he really stays in the circle formed by the system which only cost ~$200. It is not wires in the ground, it is radio waves (?) in the air. The little zaps are Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-58410306049930707722021-03-15T17:20:06.274-04:002021-03-15T17:20:06.274-04:00I was shocked, too, but I shouldn't have been ...I was shocked, too, but I shouldn't have been because I know there is a lot of young dogs kidnapped out of their yards and sold on Craig's List. Even when Levi was a puppy 13 years ago we were warned about the unground puppy napping and selling rings. <br /><br />Pondering for me on any important decision involves a lot of research before I can sort through what's best for me. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-43711450967098108142021-03-15T15:30:59.559-04:002021-03-15T15:30:59.559-04:00I had no idea a puppy could cost that much. I'...I had no idea a puppy could cost that much. I've never had a dog so I'm not sure I have any advice about how to proceed. I know you'll figure out what to do, but maybe not right this minute or month. Give yourself some time to ponderAlly Beanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17017098395188176477noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-7618187110092717622021-03-14T13:49:54.719-04:002021-03-14T13:49:54.719-04:00Ya, I will figure it out. The cost of puppies stil...Ya, I will figure it out. The cost of puppies still boggles my mind. <br /><br />Right now I'm searching getting a pair finches instead of a dog. We had them when I was a kid and they will keep the house from being so quiet and give me something to interact with. They don't live as long as dogs (a plus at my age) and they can sit outside on my deck with me plus be left alone for two days Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-59269668375028318502021-03-14T12:48:21.387-04:002021-03-14T12:48:21.387-04:00I can't have a cat because I'm allergic bu...I can't have a cat because I'm allergic but I have wondered it they cost as much as dogs to care for. I wish I could get a tea cup poodle but I'm wise enough to know I'd probably step on it and injure both of use. Maybe I should research getting a pair of birds after I get settled in. At least they are living things. We had them when I was a kid.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-60803703080624784432021-03-14T12:46:40.936-04:002021-03-14T12:46:40.936-04:00You definitely sound like a dog person so I can se...You definitely sound like a dog person so I can see your dilemma. You will figure it out. Ellen D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/03776803182673252265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-8829222121675742032021-03-14T12:24:29.083-04:002021-03-14T12:24:29.083-04:00I laughed at your comment about two years re: a ne...I laughed at your comment about two years re: a new spouse. Now that I think about it, I've seen plenty of examples of that 'rebound effect,' and as you say, it doesn't always work out well.<br /><br />Reading some of the other comments, I remembered that I'd made arrangements with Dixie's vet for her care in the event of my death. That's one very practical way of shoreacreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16284698314697628805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-54821068281640883852021-03-14T11:18:59.312-04:002021-03-14T11:18:59.312-04:00I blog about my life and right now my life is abou...I blog about my life and right now my life is about losing a good 'friend' and companion. So thanks for recognizing that it IS part of my grieving process.<br /><br />Good tip about the vet. <br /><br />I have a huge box of stuff of Levi's that will get donated to a pets' pantry before I move, if I don't get another dog. It's a place that helps people who are rescuing dogsMisadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-58628351376612972072021-03-14T10:59:54.025-04:002021-03-14T10:59:54.025-04:00I'm glad you are posting about Levi. Walking t...I'm glad you are posting about Levi. Walking through this, remembering, the concerns -- it's all part of grieving and healing and "getting it out," which is healthy -- be it online or to a friend. I have thoughts about Lizzie and during the pandemic finalized what would happen should both Rick and I die. I agree with Shoreacres (and your comment) about waiting a bit. The loss ofJeaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17482528482559445943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-40857059132983674992021-03-14T10:03:21.462-04:002021-03-14T10:03:21.462-04:00For Levi I had an agreement with a well known dog ...For Levi I had an agreement with a well known dog trainer in the area who'd help my heirs find him a new home, if he'd needed it. She knew Levi well since we took all our training classes from her and he'd do over night boarding at her kennel. There is a lawyer here that specializes in setting up dog trusts. I didn't have a special trust for Levi,,,just the clause in my will but IMisadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-13050929957900527192021-03-14T09:22:15.694-04:002021-03-14T09:22:15.694-04:00If you decide to have another dog there is one thi...If you decide to have another dog there is one thing I would recommend absolutely: find somebody to take him/her when you stop being able to look after them. Leave them the necessary money in your will on condition that they do that, and a solicitor to check that they do that. It’s my one thought that stops me from getting a dog now, although I have a couple who have already undertaken to take Frikohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04277167831642088694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-85542888600203838522021-03-14T09:11:26.954-04:002021-03-14T09:11:26.954-04:00I think so too. Serendipity as always played a big...I think so too. Serendipity as always played a big role in my life. Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-15297009221969072702021-03-14T09:08:06.515-04:002021-03-14T09:08:06.515-04:00Wise words that I often forget thus a delayed reac...Wise words that I often forget thus a delayed reaction comes later for me.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-33552800268775664312021-03-14T09:07:16.328-04:002021-03-14T09:07:16.328-04:00It would be an easy choice if I was staying in thi...It would be an easy choice if I was staying in this house, and briefly I considered canceling my move to make adopting a dog easier without having to rush the decision.Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-43450800150780534362021-03-14T00:39:17.545-05:002021-03-14T00:39:17.545-05:00Good luck on whatever you end up doing. That'...Good luck on whatever you end up doing. That's a hard choice. CheerfulMonkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00934008738777906970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-87494633225672628052021-03-13T21:04:18.096-05:002021-03-13T21:04:18.096-05:00Losing a loved one is a shock to the body and brai...Losing a loved one is a shock to the body and brain and it takes time to recover. Jo-Anne's Ramblingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11418152399382818709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-79361457861570176142021-03-13T20:57:08.174-05:002021-03-13T20:57:08.174-05:00You've had lots of valuable life experiences w...You've had lots of valuable life experiences with dogs--all of your life. I believe you'll know when the right one comes along. Often, our animals have found us. We live in the country and have rescued many strays, at different times. Life is interesting in that it often provides exactly what we need when we need it. Best wishes to you as you take one step at a time.Pamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04495841077527091378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-4990699915484152482021-03-13T20:49:24.346-05:002021-03-13T20:49:24.346-05:00I would never get an internet dog but Jason came f...I would never get an internet dog but Jason came from a pet shop who used breeders within our state and he was very healthy. I know what you're saying is true about euthanizing dogs. We are lucky here to have a no-kill shelter that is bigger than the state and local humane society. The only place in the state that will take dogs with biting histories and let them live out their lives without Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-7515573489298251992021-03-13T20:39:32.997-05:002021-03-13T20:39:32.997-05:00I think YES on puppy and invest in someone to trai...I think YES on puppy and invest in someone to train him. Before the move if breeders insist on fenced in yard.<br /><br />You can update your will to say your estate will cover ALL COSTS of adopting your baby ... that might ease a friend or relative to know teeth cleaning and grooming and whatever wouldn't be a financial burden to them.<br /><br />Your other heirs can get some inheritance The Awkward Widowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03729456066739275695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-60456202161076647132021-03-13T20:38:44.276-05:002021-03-13T20:38:44.276-05:00The price tag really does bother me on puppies. I&...The price tag really does bother me on puppies. I've seen some listed here in town for $5,000. I would have spent that on Levi if he was fixable and I keep asking why wouldn't I do it for a puppy. Now days many of those high ticket puppies come with genetic testing kits and warranties which takes some of the fear of over breeding away.<br /><br />A rescue would be so hard for me to find Misadventures of Widowhoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262709452281226620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5990351249805345004.post-31847998586820350762021-03-13T20:04:00.133-05:002021-03-13T20:04:00.133-05:00I'm a rescue dog person all the way. With 4 m...I'm a rescue dog person all the way. With 4 million dogs euthanized each year, and about the same number bred by puppy mills (commercial breeders), shelters and rescues are by far the most humane consideration when looking for a dog. There's no feeling in the world like seeing trust and love from the eyes of a dog you've saved.<br /><br />It's invaluable to have a foster home LS Nelsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16888269999839452459noreply@blogger.com