Wednesday, July 2, 2025

Dinner, Drama, and a Dead Body at my Continuum Care Complex


Fancy, five course dinners planned around a Murder Mystery game where twenty of us play a character and twenty other residents dine and watch the action from the sidelines has become a tradition here at my continuum care complex. Last week was our third murder mystery dinner and once again I took a part. I actually signed up for the audience but the Life Enrichment Director asked me if I'd switch. There was a method to my madness, so to speak, because I knew she wouldn’t get enough actors to sign up and like last year, she’d ask me to switch from an audience member to a player. I said, "yes IF I can pick the part I want to play" and both this year and last year she let me. Some of the parts require fancy costumes—cocktail dresses, tailored suits
stuff I don’t own and don’t have the money to buy for a one-time event. Last year a guy even rented an outfit for $50! A lot of borrowing of props to round out our costumes goes on the week before these parties. One guy came with borrowed boxing gloves hung around his shoulders, another came wearing a borrowed tux with tails and carrying a top hat and a wand. One lady offered me to loan me a hundred dollar bill to put in my pocket. I turned it down.

If you've never been to a murder mystery dinner party, here's how they work: you are given a character before the party date with costume suggestions and you show up in costume. As you sit down for dinner you’re given a scribe to read and suddenly your dining table turns into a crime scene. For example my introduction speech was: “I’m Lucky Hart, current world poker champion. I don’t want to sound heartless but this murder has come at a really bad time. I’ve got a tournament in Paris tomorrow night and have to be ready. It wasn’t me anyway. Ever since Sterling left us, I’ve been one of the casino's bathrooms practicing my poker face in the mirror. What? You this comes naturally.” There are four times (between courses) where you have a part to read. And all night long there’s ad-lib accusations, drama, suspicious glances and cat-calling between tables going on and way too much laughter for a place where a murder supposedly happened just before you all sit down for the first course.

My suggested costume was jeans, a hoodie over a t-shirt and a baseball cap. I have lots of hoodies but it’s been really hot and I didn’t want to wear one so I bought a light weight shirt with a hood. I also figured out how to use rubber bands to put cards up my sleeves that showed when I waved during my introduction and I bought a $4.00 patch depicting a poker hand that I put on a purse with double-faced tape.

The part called for me to have poker face to stay in character. I knew it would crack up my fellow Mahjong players because they tell me all the time that I don’t have a poker face. Little do they know that sometimes when I get excited over a tile I just drew that I’m faking it and other times when I get a good tile I don’t show it in my body language. But for the most part, they are right. I get way too excited when I’m close to winning. 

For dinner the chef served five courses consisting of a Caprese Salad with burrata cheese, peaches, tomatoes, basil and microgreens. That was followed by a course of suffron-herb risotto, roasted red pepper and lobster tails. (Myself and another person who is allergic to shell fish got chicken instead of the two tails.) After that course we were given a watermelon with lime zest Sorbet to “cleanse our palate” followed by prime rib, Au-gratin potatoes and asparagus. Dessert was my all-time favorite comfort food. Bread pudding. Not just any bread pudding but bread pudding with bourbon butter sauce and vanilla ice cream that was to die for. Our chef won an Iron Chef Contest over a dozen other chefs working in places like this for a reason and at parties like this her skills really shine. At $25.00 for this meal it was worth going over my food allowance for the month. 

If you ever get invited to a mystery murder party, go. Even more fun would be to plan one. Just google Murder Mystery party games. There are several companies making the kits, for various size parties. The one we used came form a UK company. They have seventeen different themes. Ours was the Murder at the Casino and it had characters like: Buck Meister who stole the show. In real life the guy who played the part is a straight arrow, a classy dresser and very wealthy but for the part of Buck—a “red-blooded, ready to ride rodeo cowboy”—he came in jeans, a cowboy hat and boots and a white t-shirt that he’d cut down the front and held it together at the bottom with a big safe pin, his bare chest and gray chest hair hanging out of a very wide V. He’d also cut the sleeves off the t-shirt. You couldn’t help laughing every time he got up to do his speaking parts. Few of us knew he has a good sense of humor. Another standout was a guy at my table who all night long never broke out of character. He was a big, bold mob boss who dressed to kill and literally did. He was going to get me fitted for cement shoes if he ever caught me cheating at his poker table. There was also a magician, a casino floor manager, a crooner, a private detective, a TV reporter, a princess and others parts I’ve forgotten. What’s great about these parties is that the fun doesn’t just take place at the party itself but also before and afterward they generate a lot of conversation. For example, I was at the lunch table the next day for over two hours and when I went back to my apartment I had a sore belly from laughing so much over the rehashing of the murder mystery. ©

 Until Next Wednesday...

24 comments:

  1. I did something similar eons ago with friends but I have no recollection of the play or even if we ever got through it all before we evolved into something else! It sounds like a fantastic evening, full of fun and I loved hearing all the details!

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    1. It really was fun. With your background and circle of friends, you'd be the perfect person to do a party like this.

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  2. Oh that sounds like so much fun. What a wondrous place you live in with so many opportunities to engage in activities that enrich your life and make you laugh. JJ

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    1. Our new CEO who has been here about year and has worked at several others in the past says this place is unique in our residents' group spirit and taking such an active role in creating social events and advocacy groups. I'm so glad I don't live alone in a big house anymore.

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  3. That sounds like a very fun evening. I'd love to be invited to something of that sort.

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  4. Once upon a time we hosted a murder mystery dinner party. The theme was Chicago gangsters so overcoats and machine guns in violin cases played a big part of it. It was fun, couldn't tell you committed the crime, but know that we went through lots of bottles of wine that night.

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    1. It's really clever how those games are written so that no one knows who did it except the one person who draws a slip of paper with an X on it and how their script changes to a section on the script sheet that is underlined. All the parts have an underlined section in case any one of us draws the X. At this particular party no one at the end guessed who the murder was and of course we all had motives. My character had lost a classic car to the dead guy in a poker game and he was supposed to turn the keys over to him that night.

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  5. This post makes me also happy that you moved to this community and found such a good one.

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    1. I am too happy with my choice. It isn't perfect but they really try to please the residents.

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  6. That sounds like so much fun!!!! Laughing is so good for the soul and the body.

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    1. I know! It's like taking a happiness bath. You feel so good after a night of laughter.

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  7. I'm still feeling sorry for you about having to trade lobster tails for chicken!
    But at least you had the rest of that menu. Wow, what a wonderful dinner!

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    1. I haven't had lobster since I was 18 and had to be taken from the restaurant in an ambulance. Shell food doesn't hold any magical powers over me. They serve it as a special nearly every week and you can order shrimp off the menu anytime so you'd love it here.

      I could have licked my plates after each course and did end up taking some of the prime rib home.

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  8. What fun! Getting to play a part in the Murder Mystery is a different form of cosplay. Twin 2 took me on a Mystery Cruise as a birthday present once, but we didn't get to play parts, just watch and guess who the culprit was.

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    1. Twin one! I didn't know they had mystery Cruises. Now that really sounds fun to me.

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  9. Oh what fun! You are so blessed to live in a place that offers so many opportunities to take part in. Your meal sounds yummy too. Would have been nice to see you in your costume though 🤣. JJ

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    1. Someone took pictures but they haven't posted any publicly yet for me to nab. With the hat, hood and glasses on you could hardly see my face which was the whole point.

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  10. I congratulate you on being able to keep a straight face. I was grinning ear to ear just hearing about it. Great story.

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    1. I didn't always keep a straight face but when I couldn't I looked at my hands so they couldn't see me cracking up.

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  11. I just have to say - that dinner sounds divine!!! I would go just for the luscious dinner! Wow!
    And your murder mystery was fabulous. Great that everyone is willing to get into their parts.
    I have attended two mystery dinners. One was at an area winery with a wedding theme. A man and woman (professionals) picked actors from the crowd who could read cheat sheets in some of the other parts. My friends and I recycled our "mother of the bride" dresses, you could also wear a wedding dress or suit. Unfortunately 1 of the crowd actors drank too much and just got silly, the pros kinda took over and read his part. He was also trying to adlib without staying with the plot. It was pretty humorous and people weren't paying attention to clues. Since I am a unprofessional private detective, I was making notes and solved it right away. Each table got to present their case and we won! (I can't remember the prize).
    The other was a bust. It was based on the game of clue and a troupe of actors played the six characters. There were over 100 at the dinner and the wait for each actor to come to your table and give a little act with clues was long. And the food was not good (think banquet tv dinner). Luckily we were toward the back of the hall and spotted an Italian restaurant down the street. We snuck out and had a lovely dinner - no mystery.

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    1. I can't imagine a mystery dinner with 100 people and six actors. I like that you took notes as the private detective and solve he case. There's always a detective in these games. Maybe next year I'll ask for that part. Love that you got to wear your mother-of-the-bride dresses again. Thanks for sharing!

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  12. Glad you had a good time and that the whole crowd enjoyed it. Your place sounds really great and I'm glad you are so happy there.

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  13. The murder mystery dinner party sounds bloody awesome

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