September in Michigan brings more than falling leaves and back-to-school chaos—it sparks a personal reckoning in Jean's closet. As the weather shifts, so does her wardrobe, and this year she's committed to a 30-day clothing purge. With decades of fashion, fluctuating sizes, and sentimental garments hanging on padded hangers, she is confronting the emotional weight of letting go. This isn’t just about de-cluttering—it’s about identity, memory and making peace with change. AI...
September brings change to Michigan. The biggest shift? Kids heading back to school while parents scramble to fill calendars with carpools, practices and pick-ups. A longer-lasting transition begins in the trees, which start their slow dance of changing colors—pale pinks and yellows taking the first steps toward October’s grand finale. The high temperatures of summer are also ushered out on the tail end of hurricane season on the Gulf of Mexico and along the Eastern seaboard. And September means I start digging around in my closet for clothing that bridges summertime weather and winter layering.
I’m the undisputed queen of layering. Summer means sleeveless shells under ¾-length shirts. Fall brings short or long cotton sleeves under flannel. By November, it's turtlenecks pair with sweaters or sweatshirts. And in winter? I might add a third layer—a cotton camisole or quilted vest for extra warmth. In the “black” section of my closet alone, there are fourteen tops in various weights and sleeve lengths. No one needs that many. Same goes for the sweater section—eighteen, all hanging on padded hangers. And pants? Nineteen pairs, including three pedal-pushers and four pairs of blue jeans. No one needs that many pants. Unless, of course, they do—because like me, they have two sizes in each category.
I need a major purging project because my closet can’t hold another hanger!
It’s no secret—I struggle with my weight. It goes up, it goes down, and right now I’m living in the larger sizes. You’d think purging would be easy: just toss what doesn’t fit. But other fatty-fatty-two-by-fours might back me up when I say that letting go of smaller sizes feels like giving up on ourselves. I did that once and what happened is that larger size became the smaller size as I added on more pounds. Now, years after that disastrous purge I hear a little voice in my head reminding me that I shouldn’t get rid of anything in my closet, because I won’t be able to afford to replace whatever I’d purge. Tariffs combined with a fixed income are a bitch.
On September 1st, I went looking for a hanger to store a new top—and found none. Not. Even. One. That was my breaking point. I came up with a plan: purge one garment a day for the next thirty days. I’m in day eight as I write this and so far I’ve kept my promise to myself. I started with things I don’t like and never wear and next I’ll go for the things that don’t fit. I’m putting my daily choices in one of two boxes: ‘Donate’ and ‘Hold for a Year.’ Somehow knowing I'm not donating everything makes it easier to perform the task. Purging thirty space-wasters should make a huge difference in my small closet and I’ll be able to see if I have a need for anything new. If I do it will be pants. I have some that are a quarter of a century old. My pants size doesn’t seem to change like my top sizes. But I have some that are too short.
This is the third time I’ve written a post about closet purging, the first time was in 2014. “I started with a book titled, Ten Steps to Declutter Your Closet,” I wrote. “Short and sweet. Twenty-five pages of standard stuff: haul everything out of the closet, try on everything and purge the stuff that doesn’t fit, is stained or needs repairs or that you haven’t worn in the last year. One Year! I’ve got nearly three feet worth of closet rod taken up with vintage clothing from as far back to the Kennedy administration.” Before I moved here, I managed to pare down my vintage collection. But I still have three garments I can’t part with. They make me happy just to see them now and then: a dress from my clubbing days with Don in the ’70s, a size 11 sailor-themed, two piece outfit from the late ’60s (the smallest I ever was in adulthood), and my beloved hippie/bicentennial dress from 1976.
In 2020 while faced with another closet purging I wrote: “My master closet has always been a walk-in hell-hole of clothing (in three sizes), shoes, Crocs, purses, hats and anything that I want to hide from the world---the volume of which needs to be cut in half before I move. I’ve never enjoyed purging clothes. My size changes so often that I’m afraid to let go of things that don’t fit. I know—it’s a messed-up mindset. Life coaches and diet experts would say keeping three sizes traps us in a cycle: we bounce 15–20 pounds up and down, grabbing the next size up instead of facing the snug truth.” Re-reading this post made me realize I have made some progress, given the fact that my current closet only holds two sizes. Maybe if I live to be 100, I’ll die with just one size of clothing to my name. But let’s be honest—it’ll probably be one of my nieces who makes that happen, when and if I get moved to Assisted Living.
Until Next Wednesday ©
I was thinking something similar the other day when I went to hang up two new t-shirts and I only had one available coat hanger. I refuse to buy more coat hangers because I already have more clothes than I wear. So, of course, I had to get rid of one thing to so I could hang my second new tee. Funny, I can't even remember what it was I removed. It just went in the pile of stained or damaged items that can't be donated. I guess that tells you I really didn't even need it hanging in my closet.
ReplyDeleteI won't buy new hangers either, it's already to stuffed in my closet for the clothes to hang without getting wrinkled. Makes me feel guilty for having so much.
DeleteI try to go through my clothes at the start of summer and winter but sometimes all I do is think about doing so
ReplyDeleteMe too, I think about it a lot but wishful thinking doesn't get the job done, does it.
DeleteI have just done that and given away clothes I have kept for years till I slim back into them. I realised its not going to happen and anyway they will be out of fashion by then!
ReplyDeleteMy slim clothes end up under the bed but this time I have to purge there as well. I know it will feel good when the project is done but the process is painful.
DeleteThree cheers. And boy, can I relate! (I will say, I was glad I hung onto the smaller size pants -- down two sizes in the past two years and I didn't have to shop. But, like you, at least one size up is still on hold! Tops are harder. I layer too, and I like variety. But when I look at the things in the basement that I just don't wear anymore, it's time to say goodbye. Your one-a-day method may be just the incentive I need!
ReplyDeleteTrying on one thing a day is so much easier than trying on a whole lot of things at once. It's demoralizing to do a long session in the closet, at least for me. Congratulation on getting back into the smaller pants.
DeleteI chuckled when I saw your title. My poor dog spent the morning yesterday watching me try on clothes and make piles of things I need to donate or store (in case I like it next year...ha!). This tweener season for clothes can be a challenge. But there are a couple things I just should not have purchased. Did I get rid of them? No, I did not. Maybe next summer I will like them.
ReplyDeleteOne thing that helped me was a quote I read a while back on closet decluttering: Would you want to wearing it when you ran into an ex? That one helped me add several things to the donate pile.
As for pants, I have given in to the reality that I wear jeans and black pants. That's pretty much it. I bought a couple pairs of colored pants this spring and wore one of them off and on. The other probably once. Did I get rid of them? Not, I did not. LOL.
I am having the same problem, although I have donated tons of clothing over the years. I now have about 20 pieces that don't fit my size and/or my lifestyle, but I am having trouble tossing them because I found them on a great sale and are such great quality I like having them here. I have also done a little looking around in stores and I am shocked at the loss of quality, so anything I want to replace would likely be lesser quality but still expensive. I will deploy your "keep for one year" idea for these! One box shouldn't make much difference and at least it opens up the closet.
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I've used the 'keep for a year box before' and it works great for those things you're not sure you want to let go of. After a year under the bed about half get donated.
DeleteSounds like you have a good strategy. I have the opposite problem as I love having clothes I like to wear and abhor clothes shopping so things get really worn out. Your 3 sentimental outfits don’t have to play by clothing rules!
ReplyDeleteI'm hard on clothing and wear out things, too, that I really love. Living here made me step up on the quality of my clothing but I'm still out classed by all the retired professional around here. I agree on my sentimental outfits. No reason that have to go anywhere until I died.
DeleteI'm lucky to have Amvets come to my home for pickup about every other month so I'm always looking in my closet and if I haven't worn something for quite a while it goes in the Amvets box. Now that I am retired, I do not need many fancy clothes and only have two pairs of "dress pants" for funerals or fancy events. Maybe you can box up and store the size you are not wearing right now so it doesn't take up hanger space?
ReplyDeleteThat's a thought. I wouldn't even have to move the box out of the closet.
DeleteAre you reading my mind? My goal for today, if I ever put the laptop down "Miss Merry, put the laptop down" is to drag out ALL of my hangers with clothing onto the spare couch and sort. I am at the point where 30 donations won't make a difference. I have a ridiculous amount of clothing. Just crazy. And I need to purge.
ReplyDeleteThe part about replacing worn out clothes is necessary too. One thing about the Facebook is it shows me how long I have had some clothing. Remember when everyone would post "Throwback Thursday"? I can date stuff to the 80's. And I probably haven't worn it since then. I have put it on and changed my mind, but it hasn't gone out the door.
Keep us updated on how you are doing!
I try not to buy fashion that gets dated. But of course I didn't start out that way when I was in the working world. Then during my caregiver days it was mostly jeans and sweat pants, t-shirts and sweatshirts. All of which I can't wear here all that much. I hate that the fashion industry makes us think we have to get rid of clothing just because a hem line or color is out. We are so lucky not to have to live with just the clothing on our backs or what we can carry in a plastic bag. I keeping thinking if I won the lotto I'd start from scratch and but nothing but good quality stuff. I have too cheap stuff that don't hold up well. I'll try to do an update at the end of the month.
DeleteThis post made me remember a simple black dress I bought and never wore, because I too put on 30 lbs, and when I donated it I noticed a small black L shaped tear in it. I paid $29 for it. I'll likely never forget that one. It feels like taking a $10 and $20 dollar bill out of your wallet and putting it right in the garbage!
ReplyDeleteAlso, when did we all give up on dresses and skirts and start wearing only pants? For me it was when pretty shoes became too painful to wear.
My clothing choices are totally dictated by the shoes I have to wear. I need a LOT of support, not just in the shoes but as inserts. I have to wear lace ups and maybe young women can wear high tops with dresses and look cool old women can do the same. Until I moved I held on to the sexist high heels I every own, alligator with a matching purse. Ended up selling them as vintage and got a lot of money for them. Thanks for the memory trigger.
DeleteI'll bet you bought that dress back when we were all told we needed little black dress to get take us anywhere. I never really had one but plenty of two piece back outfits, including long black dresses.
Periodically I go through my clothes and pull things out that I haven't worn for a while and put them in a bag I keep in my smaller "out of season" closet. When that gets full enough I take it to the Goodwill. Often, by that time I don't even remember what I put in it so it must not be something I'll miss.
ReplyDeleteThe company that I've been buying tops from for years, Blair, recently went out of business unexpectedly, so I guess my closet won't be gaining many new pieces going forward. Too bad, too, because I really liked their sleeveless tops for hot Texas summers.
I didn't know about Blair going out of business! I bought all my bathrobes and from them for a lot of years. That makes me sad.
DeleteI agree once clothing has been out of the closet for awhile it's so much easier to donate.
My mother used to buy pants from Blair, so I guess I was carrying on in her tradition. lol They were sending me a catalog a week and then nothing. I went online and saw they had pretty much everything at 85% off with no returns or exchanges, so probably should have been taken as a warning. Then not too long ago I got an email from them thanking me for my patronage and that was it.
DeleteI had reordered some tops I especially liked so I do have some new ones in my closet to replace the others when they eventually wear out. Wish I'd gotten more while I could. :(
I just went to their website and it says they are "currently" not taking any orders. I wonder by that wording if they are reorganizing and will be back again?
DeleteI have been avoiding this issue for a few months. But my clothes usually look to wrinkled to wear, so I have to toss them in the dryer before wearing. THAT is ridiculous. I have just 10 linear feet of closet rod, upper and lower 5' space. I love the velvet hangers so things don't slide off when reaching another shirt.
ReplyDeleteI even keep my coats/sweat shirts/shawls as the living room closet is packet with teen boy things. You guys are motivating and I think I will seperate winter and summer and feel super luxurious by having 1/2" between garments!
I need to start buying a lottery ticket or I will never win.
Those pick powerball jackpots really get you to thinking, don't they. It would be hard to give it all away at your ages...we'd run out of time! But I'd start in my closet.
DeleteI've had to dewrinkle things before wearing them too.
Andy and I both have "uniforms", white shirts, navy pants. Not fancy but saves a lot of time thinking about clothes. :)
ReplyDeleteI used to do that back in my caregiver days. It's harder to do when you seen the same people every day.
DeleteI'm not sentimental about clothes, more like pragmatic. Therefore I keep two sizes around, three would be too difficult for me. I'm in awe of anyone who has just one size of clothes in their closet. How does that happen? No advice about knowing what to let go of, just wanted to say I understand your situation.
ReplyDeleteI know people who never change sizes and they can keep clothes for a long time because they don't wear anything out.
DeleteThe change of seasons is always a good time for a closet purge. I just did one about ten days ago. A bag of clothes from me, a bag from Rick, and a bag of shoes, too. I don't miss any of it. I try to do about two purges each year of all the things in the house. There's no way I want to leave a bunch of stuff for anyone else to wade through...just in case.
ReplyDeleteI'm not a big shopper so I don't have enough things to do purgings as often as you do. I've never enjoyed shopping and never own more than 3 pair of shoes at a time.
DeleteI'm not a big shopper, either, Jean. I just treat my clothes gently and keep them forever. Since I don't dress by trends, my things last a long time. And many of my purges are not clothing--just household decor or craft things or other things that have been unused long enough that they need to go.
DeleteWe are from Indiana but moved to Georgia for work. I purchased several Flax linen tops and love them but people are probably tired of seeing me in them! I got them on sale but they were still expensive IMO. I took two to a resale shop and was promptly informed they are "too senior" so they refused to consign them. Nice eh?
ReplyDeleteWow, that would hurt!
DeleteI also struggle with getting rid of clothes but the last year I have been intentional about doing it. I do have some clothes I really like but at this stage of my life I don’t see myself fitting into them ever again. I tell myself that if I get back down to a smaller size I deserve new clothes. The trouble with that is todays styles are not to my liking. I seem to wear the same clothes year after year and shopping for new ones is such a hassle. So I have decided to only keep the ones that I can wear now and possibly keep the ones one size below, everything else needs to go. As soon as it is cool enough to work upstairs in my cedar closet that is the plan, wish me luck. JJ
ReplyDeleteI could send my youngest niece over to help you. LOL She's ruthless when it comes to purging stuff. I'm afraid to ask her to help me.
DeleteThere is so much guilt that goes along with purging clothing that doesn't fit, not to mention the replacement thing in this day and age on a fixed income. Too bad there isn't a place for plus size people where we could trade up and down sizes as needed.
After helping my sister pack up (and purge) her things and then helping unpack (and purge even more) at her new place, I am filled with determination to go through all of my stuff (including clothing)! There were boxes and totes that my sister hadn't even been looked at let alone unpacked from her last move 3 years ago. I don't ever want to ever leave a task of this magnitude to someone else (hello, daughter!).
ReplyDeleteI get the feeling of struggling to let go of clothing, especially treasured pieces. Like you, I tend to dress in the same few items. I like the idea of holding on to some things for a year. Some people turn their hangers all one way and then turn them the other way when they actually wear a piece. After a year, that gives an instant snapshot of what has been NOT worn in a whole year. I can't wait that long - like you I am short on hangers let alone space, and I refuse to buy more.
Happy purging, Jean! Good luck to you (and me!),
Deb
I refuse to buy new hangers as well. I tried turning all the hangers backwards in my closet then turning the right way when I wore something. I don't remember why I didn't like that. I think because there are somethings I keep for weddings or funerals that would have gotten purged if I had followed that purging guide. I now turn things backward in my closet if I wore it once and I can wear it again before it goes in the washing machine. I like doing that.
DeleteI do that too with items that I've worn once. I tried turning all the hangers around for everything for a while but that didn't last long. Sometimes when I buy something new I'll remove something from my closet to my Goodwill bag. It at least gives me the illusion I'm being proactive. lol
DeleteI can purge clothes but I definitely have too many T-shirts and I keep any that fit. pants I purge often. I didn't own many Shoes. The Showroom ends up with what I no longer want to keep. I never keep what doesn't fit... I can't stand tight or I'll fitting too big pants or tops... Got the Man in ER again with his Heart...they may have to bump up the Surgery... Dawn the Bohemian
ReplyDeleteSorry to hear that, Dawn. I think you'll breath easier to have his surgery bumped up, though.
DeleteI have a whole box of T-shirts that would sell in your space...vintage stuff I can't wear any longer but have a hard time just giving away. Selling them I could do.