Just Call Me The Widow
contains the twists and turns of raw pain and loss, the sweet memories and
funny stories that my heart didn’t want to bury with my husband, and the dark
humor that got me through that first year. Through writing I was hoping to find
insight on life and growing older as well as heal my grief. Did I find that
insight and the strength it takes to move forward after losing a loved one? If
you’ve been following this blog you might have an opinion on that and you’re
welcome to share it in a comment box below. For all others, you’ll have to read
my book to find out but I’ll give you a clue: I’m still standing.
If you know someone who is not internet savvy but might
benefit from reading my story, I hope you’ll keep this book in mind to give as
a gift. My quirky sense of humor is never far from the surface but more
importantly my septuagenarian view on widowhood and life can---hopefully---help others heal, or at the least let them know they are not alone as they travel the Widowhood Road. Jean
P.S. If anyone orders this before May 2, 2013 you can use the code SHARE10 at check out and get a $10 discount.
P.S. If anyone orders this before May 2, 2013 you can use the code SHARE10 at check out and get a $10 discount.
What a great idea to put this together as a book. What do you think is the right time in the grieving process for a resource like this? My experience is that many times those who are newly bereaved feel that their pain is absolutely unique and are resistant to the idea that others have been through it. Maybe 3-6 months out? -Jean
ReplyDeleteThanks for the comment. There's a common saying on grief support sites that grief has no time table and there is no right or wrong way to grieve. Having said that, I agree with you that widows in the first few months are often inconsolable. In many (but not all) ways each person's grief is unique because so many factors are involved---the way someone died, the type of marriage the couple had, the general health and age the deceased was when he passed away, the coping skills and strength of the surviving spouse, her support system or lack thereof, her financial situation and, of course, whether or not she has minor children who are grieving, too, etc. etc. What is the same, though, is we all go through the major changes both emotionally and physically in the first year. We can fight those changes but be can't stop them from coming. My story is just one story among many so I'd hesitate to put a number (like 3-6 months)on when most widows stop resisting the idea that other people can and do understand what they're going through.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the question. If anyone else has thoughts on the topic, please feel free to share them.
the other Jean