“Not in Assisted Living (Yet): Dispatches from the Edge of Independence!

Welcome to my World---Woman, widow, senior citizen seeking to live out my days with a sense of whimsy as I search for inner peace and friendships. Jeez, that sounds like a profile on a dating app and I have zero interest in them, having lost my soul mate of 42 years. Life was good until it wasn't when my husband had a massive stroke and I spent the next 12 1/2 years as his caregiver. This blog has documented the pain and heartache of loss, my dark humor, my sweetest memories and, yes, even my pity parties and finally, moving past it all. And now I’m ready for a new start, in a new location---a continuum care campus in West Michigan, U.S.A. Some people say I have a quirky sense of humor that shows up from time to time in this blog. Others say I make some keen observations about life and growing older. Stick around, read a while. I'm sure we'll have things in common. Your comments are welcome and encouraged. Jean

Saturday, April 11, 2026

J is for July Fourth —The Year the Celebration Never Ended

The Fourth of July used to be my all‑time favorite holiday. Family parties with star‑spangled tablecloths and food of every description, parades where half the town’s children marched down Main Street while the other half sprawled along the tree‑lined route—those are pleasant memories now, tucked into the scrapbook of my younger days. Days when Don and I always had someplace special to go. Even before I met him, the Fourth meant a party at my folks’ summer cottage. My good memories of the holiday are endless, including the night I got my very first kiss from a boy—under a fireworks display, no less. Sweet.

Time marches on, and the only thing certain is that nothing stays the same. People move. People die. People divorce. People marry into new family units and spend their holidays elsewhere. The big family parties I loved for so many years petered out decades ago when the ones who organized them left this earth and no one stepped into their shoes. Such is the natural order of things. Whoop‑de‑do. Happy fricking Fourth of July.

If it sounds like I’m feeling sorry for myself, I’m not. I’m gearing up for a walk down Memory Lane to the happiest, biggest Fourth of July of my life—1976, the Bicentennial. Don and I were six years into our relationship then, still acting like kids even though we were in our thirties. I remember that summer as a blur of bluegrass festivals for us and the Ford administration for the nation. It was the year Rocky came out, along with One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest, one of our all‑time favorites. Queen’s “Bohemian Rhapsody” topped the singles chart, and Barbara Walters became the first woman to co‑anchor the network news.

And then there was the spectacle: more than 50 tall ships from 20 nations filling the Hudson River for the celebration. A laser beam—via satellite!—cut a star‑spangled ribbon to kick off the nation’s two‑day party. That was a huge technological marvel back then. And for every dignified event, there was something quirky to balance it out—like guys sporting red, white, and blue dyed beards, or the landing pads built for UFOs that never bothered to show up. I was so disappointed!

Don and I threw ourselves 150% into the Bicentennial spirit. We went a little crazy buying ’76 souvenirs, convinced we’d someday get rich off our collection of commemorative coins, china, jewelry, McDonald’s containers, and even dry‑cleaner bags wishing America a happy birthday went into a wooden Anheuser-Busch commemorative beer case. I made myself a long, flowing hippie‑style dress out of Bicentennial fabric, and I loved wearing that thing. When I downsized to move to my CCC, I discovered—duh!—that the souvenirs weren't worth much because everyone had saved them. But remembering our enthusiasm still makes me smile. We even signed a copy of the Declaration of Independence that now sits in a time capsule. That was also the summer several nearby towns opened their 100‑year time capsules, and of course we attended those too. I loved 1976.

I wish we could stay young and carefree forever. I wish people didn’t have to die or move away. I wish our country didn’t feel so fragile right now. But since those wishes can’t come true, I’m grateful for the memories that keep me company. ©

23 comments:

  1. Not your memories, but I could have written your sentiments about Fourth of July of days gone by. Now it geels like a day to just get through. I hate that the 250th is under the most corrupt, evil, unpatriotic, administration in history.

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    1. Me too! and I hate that he's taken my sense of patriotism and pride in our nation away from me.

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  2. It's nice that you have happy memories from 1976. This Fourth of July will be ruined by "you know who" unless he and his gang are impeached before that! ;)

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  3. Agree with not feeling very celebratory this year. Also, I feel the 4th was better years ago when people celebrated for one day and didn’t begin shooting fireworks off the week before. No one picks up their fireworks trash either…

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    1. I also think the 4th was better before the era of Facebook and cell phones, when people looked forward to catching up on each other's lives.

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  4. I remember that year, I was a Navy wife, and my husband actually was in port and had the day off. We walked on the beach and watched the fireworks from there. These days fireworks are not so special (really, Thanksgiving does NOT need fireworks!) and they're so hard on our pets that I really wish they were outlawed, but I don't see that happening. These days we don't have to go anywhere to watch fireworks, our neighbors shoot off enough you can get your fill at home.

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  5. Oops, that anonymous comment was really me.

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    1. Denise, there are communities that ban fireworks and/or have replaced them with the light shows done with drones. They are easier on pets and veterans. And they don't harm the environment like the spent fireworks casings. So never say never, Fireworks probably won't stop in our live times but eventually they could.

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  6. I am a lurker I look forward to hearing from you on Wednesdays. I am really enjoying reading your A to Z challenge blog posts. I am sure this sounds crazy but I have enjoyed your trips down memory lane. Thanks, looking forward to the other alphabets.

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    1. Not crazy at all. They probably trigger your own memories of what you did way back when. Thank you for being a lurker and finally commenting too.

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  7. In 1976 I was a youngish Air Force wife. My husband was stationed on a base that must have had the worst Fourth of July fireworks ever put together. But it was all good. We were serving our country, the country we loved, and it was so exciting to be part of #200. Now we are at #250 - how did we get here? For some reason, when I read your post, I thought back to how things have changed. I hate to say it but I just don't feel the same way about #250 than I did about #200.

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    1. Many of don't feel the same pride in our country as we used to. I just hope we out-number those who do.

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  8. That's a lovely set of memories. July is so hot down here. My daughter was born in the middle of July and I remember being 13 months pregnant and threatening to die if this baby didn't come out soon.

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  9. I do hear you. Our big centennial was in 1967 and it was a lot of fun. Especially as my Younger Daughter chose to make her entrance on July 11th of that year, ten days after The Big Day. So I can keep track of the age of Canada as my daughter's age plus 100. JG grew a red centennial beard, but not flag red. No.

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    1. If I had to pick a favorite year in my life it would be 1976. I can see why you would, ushering a daughter in to the world/

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  10. I'm really enjoying hearing all the things you have loved over the years. Some of your memories trigger joy for me and others, like family picnics definitely do not. I also don't have any particular happy memories of the Fourth of July either, especially the Bicentennial. We did love visiting the American Freedom Train because we're railfans, but the only other memory I have of that year is the ridiculous pageant our town put on at the local high school stadium. We didn't go. It was fun to read your completely different take on that year and it did make me smile! But like you and others, I'm completely dreading this year's celebration. It doesn't feel like it's about our country at all, but about the evil man himself. Have you heard about his huge, gold embellished Arch that he is naming after himself? Makes me gag!

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    1. Yes, and I hope that arch never gets built.

      I had so many moments/days during 1976 when I felt like I was exactly where I was meant to be with the person I was meant to be with. We had a schedule of every celebration around the state within driving distances and we hit them all. They were stagger through the summer (probably by the tourist department) so that we could get to most of them.

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  11. Our Sweetest Memories are always lovely to visit again and recall. I agree, we did much more back then than we do now and for many of the same reasons. Now the 4th of July means we may just watch some Fireworks, but, mebbe not. And, Celebrating our Country now doesn't feel Right at the moment either, so this Year I may skip the 4th completely.

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    1. I skipped them last year because it didn't feel right singing patriotic songs with the few MAGAs around here.

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  12. 1976 - the year I got married! I tried to talk my bridesmaids into red and blue dresses but they wouldn't do it (thank goodness). It was a year of excitement and new beginnings. Our local parade went right by my parent's house, the last year they lived there.
    My youngest grandson was born on July 4th, 2019. The hospital is just across the road from the county fairgrounds where the city lights the fireworks. They held him up to the window for his first photo- with fireworks behind his head. He is six now and is pretty sure the celebration is all about him.

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    1. Your grandson will think the fireworks are for his birthday for a long time to come.

      I would have gone with blue dresses and red, white and blue flowers with little flags tucked in.

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