FOX News columnist and executive editor John Moody wrote a hissy-fit
column this past weekend where he said that the U.S. Olympic Committee this
year has changed their motto of ‘Faster, Higher, Stronger’ to ‘Darker, Gayer,
Different.’ “Were our Olympians selected because they’re the best at what they
do,” he asked, “or because they’re the best publicity for our current obsession
with having one each from Column A, B and C?” Setting aside the fact that all
the athletes have to go through stiff competitions to qualify and they’ve earned their places on the team, Moody’s
attitude reminded me of the 1936 Summer Olympics in Berlin when
someone else tried to make the Games about something other than being faster,
higher and stronger. Yup, that’s the one where Adolf Hitler intended to showcase
his warped ideas about the superiority of having an Aryan Nation. Instead, the
Fuehrer stumped off in anger when a black “sub-human”---his words, not mine---named Jesse Owens won four
gold medals in track and field events.
What possible reason other than racism and homophobia
can explain Mr. Moody’s anger over having ten black athletes competing in South Korea and for
the first time, having two openly gay U.S. athletes at the Games? And I’m
still trying to figure out what he meant by “different” unless he’s talking
about the eleven Asian-Americans on our squads or the fact that 45% of the
athletes this year are women. “No sport that we are aware of awards points — or
medals — for skin color or sexual orientation,” Moody wrote. Is it any wonder
the blow-back on his column was so fierce that FOX ended up taking it down?
Next up: The mini controversy
created by Adam Rippon, our openly gay figure skater, when he didn’t want to meet with Vice President Pence before the opening ceremony. His
reasons? Pence has advocated for federal funding to go to institutions that offer gay conversion
therapy and, as governor, he signed a bill that allowed businesses to refuse
services to LGBT customers. Then there’s free-style skier Gus Kenworthy, a returning
Olympian who won silver at the Russian Olympics. He came out of the closet since
those Games and he was more diplomatic in his refusal to meet with
Pence stating that he didn’t want to be “distracted” from his training. About
coming out of the closet? Gus said it felt good not to carry that “dirty little
secret” around anymore---his words, not mine---and the peace of mind that brought
him, he says, has improved his skiing.
The whole issue of gayness and being in the closet was
brought down to a personal level for me this past weekend when a young relative
I haven’t seen in over six years came into town and wanted to take me out for
lunch. I’ve known he is gay since he got married three-four years ago but I’ve
never had a conversation with him about the topic. I had heard stories from
others in the family about who did their best to accept and understand the news
and who initially rejected the idea adding extra drama to his disclosure;
I’m guessing it’s that way in most families. He brought his wife/husband with
him---I still don’t know what label to hang on his marriage partner---and I was
a tad nervous on what to say when meeting him for the first time. I decided to
make it clear from the minute they walked into the house where I stood on the
acceptance scale. After being introduced I hugged the partner and said, “Welcome
to the family. I didn’t get to tell you that back when you two got married.” By
the time they left after lunch, I knew we couldn’t ask for a warmer and more likeable
guy to join the family fold.
Over the years I’ve had several friends who are gay. One I've known since we were both toddlers and his parents ended up divorcing over their son’s sexuality. Another guy I thought I knew well in college didn't come out of the closet until after his elderly mother died. By then he was in his sixties and his coming out was an ‘aha moment’ that made pieces of my own life fall into place. We had dated for several years and while we talked about getting married, I’m grateful that we didn’t. I can’t imagine the pain a woman goes through when she thinks her closeted spouse is rejecting her in the bedroom and she has no clue why. And then there was my work friend and ski buddy in the '60s who agonized over telling his military-career father that he is gay. I'm not sure if he ever did. He moved out of town to put distance between him and his family and we lost track of each other. These three guys are the defining factors in why I fully support working towards a world where sexual orientation is no longer a “dirty little secret.” Are you with me…or do you share John Moody’s fear that the Olympics and life in the U.S.A. are getting “too dark, too gay and too different?” ©
Over the years I’ve had several friends who are gay. One I've known since we were both toddlers and his parents ended up divorcing over their son’s sexuality. Another guy I thought I knew well in college didn't come out of the closet until after his elderly mother died. By then he was in his sixties and his coming out was an ‘aha moment’ that made pieces of my own life fall into place. We had dated for several years and while we talked about getting married, I’m grateful that we didn’t. I can’t imagine the pain a woman goes through when she thinks her closeted spouse is rejecting her in the bedroom and she has no clue why. And then there was my work friend and ski buddy in the '60s who agonized over telling his military-career father that he is gay. I'm not sure if he ever did. He moved out of town to put distance between him and his family and we lost track of each other. These three guys are the defining factors in why I fully support working towards a world where sexual orientation is no longer a “dirty little secret.” Are you with me…or do you share John Moody’s fear that the Olympics and life in the U.S.A. are getting “too dark, too gay and too different?” ©
Photo: Adam Rippon and Gus Kenworthy at the Olympics.
