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Welcome to my World---Woman, widow, senior citizen seeking to live out my days with a sense of whimsy as I search for inner peace and friendships. Jeez, that sounds like a profile on a dating app and I have zero interest in them, having lost my soul mate of 42 years. Life was good until it wasn't when my husband had a massive stroke and I spent the next 12 1/2 years as his caregiver. This blog has documented the pain and heartache of loss, my dark humor, my sweetest memories and, yes, even my pity parties and finally, moving past it all. And now I’m ready for a new start, in a new location---a continuum care campus in West Michigan, U.S.A. Some people say I have a quirky sense of humor that shows up from time to time in this blog. Others say I make some keen observations about life and growing older. Stick around, read a while. I'm sure we'll have things in common. Your comments are welcome and encouraged. Jean

Wednesday, October 23, 2024

Mahjong Tournaments and Presidential Election Mailings

Can you feel the excitement building? I'm not talking about the election two weeks and a day off. That's more scary than exciting. I'm talking about my baby that is due October 30th.  The 'baby' being a mahjong tournament that I've single-handedly orchestrated between our Continuum Care Campus and our sister campus. Gutsy of me, isn't it, considering I've never been to a mahjong tournament and don’t have a clue how they work except for what I've been able to glean off the internet. The only saving grace I have in all this is the fact that none of the twenty players taking part in the tournament has ever been to one either. 

Since I learned how to play about two and a half years ago I've been lusting after attending one of the big city tournaments that attracts hundreds of players, some lasting two days long. Or maybe playing in one of the cruise ship tournaments where thousands of people from all over the world can find a game to play any time of the day or night when they aren't sightseeing the Caribbean Islands.

Can you believe it, my tiny tournament has generated twenty documents for the day. Everything from custom score cards to name tags to the list of prizes I've accumulated to award to the winners---Ten in all plus satin ribbons. Some of those prizes will end up as random drawing prizes but I wanted to be prepared for ties. Our group wasn't keeping score of our games before I came up with the tournament idea and I've been surprised by how often we have ties at the end of an afternoon of games. We've also had to unlearn a few House Rules and learn a few National Mahjong League rules. But the other campus has had to do the same. My point-person at the other campus said she's been trying to get her ladies to play by League Rules for a couple of years and she loves that this tournament is giving her an excuse to teach them. People going down to Florida in the winter can come back with crazy House Rules and they get adopted to the point that players often don't know the difference. It's common, if you can believe the "chatter" I see on the four mahjong Facebook groups I belong to. Getting us all on both campuses to play by the same set of rules was the very first step I took on this tournament odyssey.

The Life Enrichment Directors at both campus are as excited as I am. Ours is providing water bottles, cookies, ink pens and two of the prizes and their campus is providing free transportation. My biggest challenge has been figuring out the table rotations so that most of the players get to play with most of the other players but making sure that with each game players plays with at least one person from their own campus. I'd be ashamed to admit the number of hours I spent trying to come up with an algorithm that works for these table rotations. Finally, I enlisted the help of a statics and math major/college grad student who works here as a waitress when she's not in classes. She said she loved the challenge and the funny part is we both came up with the same algorithm! But it took me two weeks and her one weekend. And I wasn't trying to re-invent the wheel. I did try to find an algorithm for table rotations already worked out online but I discovered that my tournament is too small for that to be available. 

Okay, enough about that. How about a report on our get-out-the-vote effort here? The twelve (known) democrats on campus and I have been writing letters and postcards two and three times a week. So far we've written over 500 letters and 100+ postcards. The day this blog post goes live will be the last day we'll do them and we're aiming for 600. The letters are sponsored by the Sierra Club and the postcards were for the DNC. We address the letters by hand and add to a pre-printed paragraph that tells the recipients where and when to vote. It's interesting that they have us write five non-partisan letters for every five letters we write supporting Kamala for president. The non-partisan ones go something like this: "Voting is easy. I find that if I make a plan to vote I'm more apt to get to the polls. I believe voting is important. Every vote cast is a voice heard and every voice heard helps shape our country. Please use the immense power of your voice and vote to help protect our country." 

The partisan letters---at least the one I chose to copy---goes like this: "I believe the state of our democracy is at stake. I am voting for Kamala Harris because she has a strong track record for protecting our environment. I also want a president who prioritizes decency, honesty, freedom and respect. I hope you will go to the polls this year and help protect our country and the planet with your vote."  

These letters are going out to just Pennsylvania and Michigan voters who are registered but don't always use their voting privileges and who are also present or past members of the Sierra Club. I don't know if they have any real influence on those who get the letters but it feels good to be doing something---anything---to help get Kamala elected. We can't elect a man who recently said that the January 6th Insurrection at the capital was a "day of love." We can't elect a man who literally tried to over-throw our constitution that day and has no respect for the Rule of Law. I've also seen a lot of people spiraling down into dementia and Trump's is on full display at each of his rallies. If his fans are honest with themselves, they see it too. Or maybe they listened to him a few days ago when he publicly admired the size of a pro-golfer's dick and they said to themselves: "Yes, this is the kind of man who should be the leader of the free world---a disgusting, vile and dangerous pot stirrer who prioritizes himself above all others." I hope not. I hope fence sitting Republicans will put country before party and put a stop to the drama that Trump churns out day after day.

I truly do want a president who prioritizes decency, honesty, freedom and respect and Kamala Harris is more qualified than any man who has ever run for the office in the past, having serviced in all three branches of the federal government---the legislative as a U.S. Senator, in the executive branch as Vice President and in the judicial branch as Attorney General of California. There are 29 countries where women are their heads of state. It's about time we added to that statistic.

This concludes my unpaid political announcement. ©

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    1. I'm worried! I just don't understand how so many people can over look the immorality of this man and obvious signs that he's mentally declining lon top of that.

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  2. I love to play mahjong on my laptop, I've never physically played with people, I might try as our U3a has a group.

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    1. I play online a lot on "I Love Mahj". It's a different experience with live people. Online playing against computer bots a game goes really fast.

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  3. Loved this!! When I joined the local Senior Citizens Center, I joined the Mahjong group there. What fun these folks have! I quickly learned about House Rules versus Official Rules. I haven't been for the past few years but remember that group fondly. Good luck with your fun tournament.
    Thanks also for your 'unpaid political announcement'. My husband and I are totally opposite politically. I cannot understand his support of the man who is intent on tearing down our country. Anyway, thanks for your efforts to encourage voting. I read my husband your powerful words and he listened!!

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    1. Wow, If you husband listened maybe he'll do the right thing!

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  4. That unpaid political announcement is very moving and absolutely correct! And have fun at your Mahjong tournament. What a big commitment to pull that off. Congratulations.

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    1. I'm at the stage now where everything is done that can be done until the actual day of the tournament. But I keep worrying that something will go wrong. The players at the other campus are already talking about making this an annual event and they will host next time. I haven't told anyone yet but if it goes well I'd like to grow it even bigger and invite some of the other CCC in the areas.

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  5. Wow! I'm impressed by your mahjong tournament and all the preparations for it. Sounds like it will be a great event!
    As for the election, we voted and turned in our ballots last week. My DD who lives in the UK got a postcard this week urging her to vote. I know for a fact that she mailed in her ballot long ago and has checked to see it was received. I am hopeful but very nervous.

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    1. According to the Sierra Club they hope to catch the iffy people and inspire them to vote. They have a way to measure the success of the campaign and will know which kind of messaging worked better. MI and PA are supposed to be must win states for Kamala or Trump.

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  6. Wow--you've been incredibly busy and productive. Kudos to you for organizing such a huge event. That's a lot of planning and getting things in line--lots of moving parts! I hope it all goes off beautifully.

    And thank you for all your efforts to get out the vote. This election is an inflection point for the US and for all Americans. When we write postcards and letters and make phone calls and send text messages, we're truly participating in and saving our democracy. I'm really encouraged by the fact that others in your residence are supporting VP Harris, too, and working for her election. Thanks again!

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    1. I've been trying to figure out why the tournament is important to me and I can't decide if it a kind of "look at me" kind of thing or if I just want to play in one so bad I figured this would be the only way I'd get to. Probably a little of both. I just know if I don't help our group grow it will die out in a place like this.

      My letter writing is nothing compare to what the couple who is our point people with the Sierra Club they paid for all the postage stamps and won't take any money towards them. And they got all kinds of commemorative stamps so those receiving the letters know they aren't mass produced letters. I live in a Red county so I'm happy to have found so many Democrats as neighbors. The die-hard MAGA people are still here but they don't hassle us. Thankfully.

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  7. Thank you very much for your work supporting Kamala Harris and encouraging people to vote! I've voted already and felt proud to color in the rectangles for the Democrats. I hope for a Blue landslide.

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    1. Wouldn't it be nice! Either way 45 will not go quietly into the night. I expect trouble for him and his fan base.

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  8. Thank you for your service. I am a postcard writer, too. I did do less this election because of my arthritis. I would have ordered more if I had realized my postcards would come with address labels!! For Biden I had to address them by hand and that was double the work! I hope that they do the trick. I am a nervous wreck myself.
    Good luck with the tournament. I can't wait to read all about it. It sounds like it will be fabulous!

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    1. Our postcards had address labels too. My big thing with the cards and letters was to try to guess the age of the recipient by they name. Because so many young people can't read cursive I'd print out the messages for those I thought were young. Printing takes longer than writing though.

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  9. Hats off to you, Jean, for working so hard to make the Mahjongg tournament a reality. I hope it's a wonderful experience for everyone. I also want to thank you for your efforts in encouraging people to vote. It is so important!!!

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    1. I hope it's a good experience, too, for everyone who is taking part. I had to strong-arm a few of the timid one into it, so I hope they go home with a prize. Pretty good odds of that happening since I have ten of them to give out....most in a random drawing.

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  10. Oh boy, organizing that tournament sounds like a huge project (and some great brain exercise!). I hope your good work towards your upcoming election pays off. We just had a provincial election here in British Columbia and we’re still days away from knowing which party won - the race was that tight! Which is kinda scary to know that so many of us voted for a proven liar who doesn’t believe in climate change or Indigenous rights (sound familiar?😉).

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    1. It's like a virus that is traveling the world... and that is truly scary. Ethics and morals be damned by too many people.

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  11. You continue to amaze me! Thanks for sending out the voting letters. My son in law got one locally. Neither Kate nor I did. Maybe he skipped voting recently? Good for you for investing so much energy and time for your First Ever tournament. I hope YOU have time to play! How many people?

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    1. Twenty of us in the tournament and I have to play to even out the tables. I got someone who knows how to play but hates playing the game to act as a hostess/timekeeper. I will not place in the winning circle. We've been keeping score for 14 weeks and I'm never in the top two. Put I get pulled away from the game all the time to answer questions so it's sometimes hard to focus.

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  12. Husband and I went to vote this morning...early voting with no required excuses started yesterday here in red state Missouri. The voting site was packed... lines surrounding the whole building plus... fields full of parked cars. We left and will try again tomorrow... here's hoping the enthusiasm is going to turn Missouri blue!!

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    1. That's great! I truly hope the early turn outs are a good sign for the Blues. But MAGA people are motived too, so we still have to hold our breath.

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