Welcome to the Misadventures of Widowhood blog!
Welcome to my World---Woman, widow, senior citizen seeking to live out my days with a sense of whimsy as I search for inner peace and friendships. Jeez, that sounds like a profile on a dating app and I have zero interest in them, having lost my soul mate of 42 years. Life was good until it wasn't when my husband had a massive stroke and I spent the next 12 1/2 years as his caregiver. This blog has documented the pain and heartache of loss, my dark humor, my sweetest memories and, yes, even my pity parties and finally, moving past it all. And now I’m ready for a new start, in a new location---a continuum care campus in West Michigan, U.S.A. Some people say I have a quirky sense of humor that shows up from time to time in this blog. Others say I make some keen observations about life and growing older. Stick around, read a while. I'm sure we'll have things in common. Your comments are welcome and encouraged. Jean
If Our Country Crashes Can I Return this?
My youngest niece is one lucky
woman. She fell down a flight of stairs and ended up at the bottom
head first and on her back. The only bone she broke was her big toe
and that was so messed up they had to remove the nail bed. She said
that hurt worse than anything she’d ever had happen to her and that
includes having two babies and a hip replacement. "Yup," I told her, "that's why the Japanese used to do it during WWII to torture American prisoners."
Her hip replacement
was in April but the fall—thank goodness—didn’t effect it nor
did she have a concussion. I saw a photo of the back of her neck and
shoulders and you couldn’t tell where one black and blue mark
started and another ended. She has to see her orthopedist about her
shoulder but, like I said, she is one lucky woman who I hope will
never, ever again break my Cardinal Rule about walking around after
you’ve taken a sleeping pill. You have 15 minutes after you take
one to get in bed and stay there!
In
other news— Well, there really isn’t any unless you count the
fact that I did a little stress shopping this week. I know, at my age
why am I still accumulating stuff? Sometimes I look around at all the
stuff I kept after downsizing three and a half years ago to move to
my continuum care campus and it makes me feel guilty that someday it
will be the responsibility of my nieces to dispose of. But this time it was both my
nieces and Amazon Prime’s big sale that is responsible for me
buying a portable DVD player for $34. They are both super-fans of the
series Mad Men and for a long time I’ve
wanted to be part of their conversations about the show so my oldest
niece loaned me DVD’s of the first few
seasons. But I was having a
lot of trouble getting my new-ish Roku TV and my DVD player to work together.
Finally, I put in a maintenance request but the maintenance guy for our
building couldn’t get it to
work either (which made me feel good that it wasn’t just an old
person problem). He was going to send the
IT guy out which would have
cost me $45 and when I was bemoaning this fact to my youngest niece
she sent me a link
to the portable DVD player that she uses. Snap decisions were made and I
found myself putting the DVD player in my cart. I love the idea of
not having to sit in the living room to watch movies, though. I’m
not sorry for the purchase and now I can look forward to donating my
old DVD player to Goodwill and checking out the movies that they have
for sale dirt cheap.
That
was an expensive phone call between my youngest niece and myself. I told her
to keep her eye out for a used card table when she goes out garage
shopping and I was telling her how having one will benefit my social
life because I’ll be able to invite people over for impromptu
Mahjong games. We were both looking at them on Amazon as I was
showing her what I wanted and lo and behold one jumped in my cart
along with the DVD player. The prime sale had it marked down to $50.
I was a little remorseful over spending the money on that because I
could live without one by asking players to meet in the public areas. But later on I recognized that this was as much about stress spending over the state of
the world as it was about the bonding conversation I was having with
my niece.
Stress
spending or stress eating. I haven’t been doing the latter so I’m
making up for it by spending money. My desk, for example,
will soon be all decked out with a full drawer-sized mouse pad that
looks like an oriental rug. I ordered one that came in the wrong size and it had to be reordered. It came from China and they don’t
want that first sent back so its 24 inches are adding class to the top of my desk while waiting for the 20 inch pad to fill the computer's pull-out drawer.
I also bought a keyboard skin for my new computer. Iusually eat my
breakfast at my computer and cleaning my keyboard is a chore I no
long have to worry about. The skin lifts off so you can run it under the faucet. Once I spilled a glass of water on my
keyboard but I got lucky and was able to save it. The skin at eight bucks plus shipping is worth it. Or so I tell my credit card.
And
to round out my stress spending the Amazon truck has been stopping
often with new, tiny paint brushes as I search for the perfect one.
After the fifth try I think I found it. And for anyone out there who
loves to do paint-by-numbers I found a product that makes a
difference when the paint in those little tubs gets stiff. It’s a
slow-drying thinner for acrylics. There are lots of brands but the
photo shows the one I bought. I’ve read reports that you can even
bring back tubs that are all dried up with these acrylic thinners if
you take your time, over several days. By the way, I live less than five miles from the Amazon's distribution center and they stop at my complex three times a day, so I'm not feeling guilty over making small purchases from time to time.
Anyway, when I’m not
shopping online or working on another custom paint-by-number I've been scaring myself with the possibility of organizing a Mahjong
tournament between six o seven CCC’s in the area. The social media guy was watching me set up tables for our weekly game and I happen to
mention that was my dream is to have a tournament involving all the CCCs in the area. “But” I continued, “we don’t have enough
tables for something like that.” He looks me straight in the eyes
and says, “I can make that happen. This is in my wheelhouse.” He
named a near-by venue that is one of the classiest places in the area
for parties! I don't know if I'm up to chairing an event that large or not but I'm going to avoid the guy until I figure it out. ©
Until next Wednesday.
I say go for it! If he is the guy that can make it happen - well, you are the girl that can make it happen, too!!! I think you made some really good purchases.
ReplyDeleteThanks, I'm not regretful. I know when to stop and I've never had a credit card that didn't pay off in full each month.
DeleteSounds like you made some excellent purchases and at prices that were affordable to you. It seems as though every once in a while I go on a spending spree but not so much lately as I’m in sticker shock at the grocery store. For two people it seems like I spend a lot and I don’t buy meat! Oh well, it’s only money 💰 Hopefully you will be able to have your tournament. I pray your niece recovers from her fall🙏
ReplyDeleteAs accident prod as she's been lately she needs those prayers. Grocery shopping scares me. When will the prices quit going up? I'm being more careful not to waste stuff.
DeleteSo glad your niece wasn’t badly hurt! All my FILs falls in later life were in combination with sleeping pills so I so far totally avoid them. Useful purchases all btw.
ReplyDeleteI wish I could avoid sleeping pills. I don't take them every night but probably half of them. Sometimes you just have to get a good night's sleep.
DeleteAmazon makes it way too easy to spend your money. You can always find what you're looking for, and you don't have to leave the comfort of your chair (or even your bed). It makes everything seem perfectly reasonable, too. It's all right there!
ReplyDeleteA lot of people resent the owner and don't want to give him any money, but when you think of the company he built out of his garage it's pretty amazing. At this point in my life I don't want to run around to stores.
DeleteSomehow I have also fallen into a shopping moment, too. Maybe it's the weather and staying indoors to avoid the smoke. Only things I "need" of course. LOL.
ReplyDeleteThe tournament sounds like fun and stress combined. But I am sure you can do it if you decide to...didn't you organize one at your CCC? This will just be the same but bigger. :-)
Yes, I did and it took a lot of research and time. Plus no on who came to mine had ever been to a tournament to judge whether it was done good or not. But we did have fun. I wouldn't have to do another one alone next time.
DeleteI've not been buying from Amazon but I can see why you were tempted. Hope you have fun using all of your purchases.
ReplyDeleteI am. I Even managed to find one of my favorite movies/books at Goodwill---Water for Elephants.
DeleteHa! You are one heck of a shopper. I avoid shopping until I have to replace something. I know what a DVD player is, understand the purpose of the card table, but am not familiar with a keyboard skin. I hope everything you bought makes you happy.
ReplyDeleteThe keyboard skin is essential in places where people type with dirty hands---lots of professions. It makes it a little harder to type but protects your computer's life span. I'm still getting use to it.
DeleteMe too! I started seeing reports that because of all the waffling, the tariffs haven't really kicked in yet. That was the nudge I needed to get a new wool oriental rug ordered for my living room. Not one bit sorry I spent the money. I'm trying not to let my frugality run my life so much. I still wait 24 hours to make a purchase because it's amazing how many times you think of something else you can use, or realize it's an impulse purchase that's probably foolish. Plus I HATE sending stuff back to Amazon.
ReplyDeleteThat card table will bring you way more than $50 of pleasure because you can invite the people you enjoy the most!
I had the card table in my Wish List at Amazon so I don't really consider it an impulse purchase. I kind of have a 24 hour wait period too. I put things i baskets and sometimes you even get offered discounts on those things. I rarely return things but we have a UPS store close by and we don't have to box stuff up to return.
DeleteGlad you got your rug. Tariffs will kick in sooner or later. They are already making the stock market crazy. I just had my annual appointment with my finance guy and he assures me my investments won't be effected by they ups and downs of the stock market and craziness going on in Washington.