“Not in Assisted Living (Yet): Dispatches from the Edge of Independence!

Welcome to my World---Woman, widow, senior citizen seeking to live out my days with a sense of whimsy as I search for inner peace and friendships. Jeez, that sounds like a profile on a dating app and I have zero interest in them, having lost my soul mate of 42 years. Life was good until it wasn't when my husband had a massive stroke and I spent the next 12 1/2 years as his caregiver. This blog has documented the pain and heartache of loss, my dark humor, my sweetest memories and, yes, even my pity parties and finally, moving past it all. And now I’m ready for a new start, in a new location---a continuum care campus in West Michigan, U.S.A. Some people say I have a quirky sense of humor that shows up from time to time in this blog. Others say I make some keen observations about life and growing older. Stick around, read a while. I'm sure we'll have things in common. Your comments are welcome and encouraged. Jean
Showing posts with label truth or dare. Show all posts
Showing posts with label truth or dare. Show all posts

Saturday, April 29, 2017

If You Could Ask Me Anything…Truth or Dare



I’ve written about my life in such trivial detail that I can’t imagine anyone who has been following this blog would want to know something I haven’t already covered. But I’ll play the game. Lurkers, newbies or long-time readers---it doesn’t matter---hit me with your best shot. (How-to instructions will be at the end.) I will answer anything except questions about bodily functions or questions with answers that could help someone steal my identity. Consider this the blogger’s version of Truth or Dare. 

Have you ever looked at Truth or Dare questions online? Most of them are so raunchy and intrusive I can’t believe people actually ask them at parties, much less in mixed company which apparently is a “thing.” I did find a site---Conversation Starters World---that had a list of “clean Truth or Dare questions” and they’re pretty tame compared to others I’ve seen. Here’s a sample:

- What are you most self-conscious about? (Spelling in public.)
- What would you do if you were the opposite sex for a month? (Cancel my lady-parts appointment.)
- What is the most expensive thing you have stolen? (A dime mother-of-pearl cross when I was a kid.)
- What is the most childish thing you still do? (Get excited over eating ice cream.)
- Have you ever let someone take the blame for something you did? (No.)
- What do most of your friends think about you that is totally untrue? (I have no clue what goes on inside other people's heads.)
- Have you ever cheated or been cheated on? (No and I don’t think so.)

To be honest if I had a teenager who came home and said he/she played Truth or Dare at a party, I’d be alarmed. Back in my day when we played Spin the Bottle the worst that could happen is we’d get kissed. I have memories of an awkward two minutes spent in a dark closet with a boy who was supposed to kiss me but didn’t. Today, Truth or Dare might involve a dare simulating giving a blow job using a cucumber and a question might be, “Do you like it better doggie style or missionary style?” And trust me, don’t google Naked Truth or Dare and I don’t mean Madonna’s line of perfume which might be a nice fragrance with its “warm spicy, floral and woody accords” as its website says, but I would never, ever wear something with Naked Madonna on the label. My favorite perfume, Amazing Grace by Philosophy, has a classy name and I’d probably buy it just for that even if it smelled like Vicks’ VapoRub. I love Joy, too, but I can’t afford to wear it in the land of pension checks and Social Security. It’s $600 an ounce for the real deal these days! Back in the ‘80s my husband bought me a bottle for Valentine’s Day and I used it so sparely that I have a half a bottle that went bad. I still have it and its box, a souvenir now more than a usable scent. 
 
Truth or Dare is not an invention of our times. A variation of it called “Questions and Commands” has been documented as far back as 1712, and that game is thought to have evolved from games played by an ancient Greek king who commanded his comrades to perform for his amusement. The beat goes on, as they say. At the senior hall Gatherings (for people looking for friends) we always play Truth or Dare without the dares attached. The facilitator passes out questions that we each have to answer and they often lead to delightful or touching stories. Asking questions is the secret to being a good conversationalist. I learned by watching my husband over the years that talking with strangers is easy if you’re not afraid to ask questions. He had good instincts for knowing the right ones to ask and that came from being a well-read, intelligent person who was truly interested in people. Me, I still struggle with timing. I think of the right questions, the right follow-up comments two hours or two days too late.

Anyway, if you could ask me anything, what would it be? Play Bloggers Truth or Dare with me. Post a dare with your question if you wish (or not) in case you ask something I’d be too embarrassed to answer. That could be fun, too, if I have to follow through on a dare and report back on it later on. If you can't think of a question or you're a lurker, I dare you to just make your presence known by sharing the name of the state or country you live in. ©


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