“Not in Assisted Living (Yet): Dispatches from the Edge of Independence!

Welcome to my World---Woman, widow, senior citizen seeking to live out my days with a sense of whimsy as I search for inner peace and friendships. Jeez, that sounds like a profile on a dating app and I have zero interest in them, having lost my soul mate of 42 years. Life was good until it wasn't when my husband had a massive stroke and I spent the next 12 1/2 years as his caregiver. This blog has documented the pain and heartache of loss, my dark humor, my sweetest memories and, yes, even my pity parties and finally, moving past it all. And now I’m ready for a new start, in a new location---a continuum care campus in West Michigan, U.S.A. Some people say I have a quirky sense of humor that shows up from time to time in this blog. Others say I make some keen observations about life and growing older. Stick around, read a while. I'm sure we'll have things in common. Your comments are welcome and encouraged. Jean
Showing posts with label A beautiful day in the neighborhood. Show all posts
Showing posts with label A beautiful day in the neighborhood. Show all posts

Wednesday, December 4, 2019

Mister Rogers and A Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood




Speaking of my Gathering Girls pals---oh, I wasn’t? No, matter I just brought them up so let’s talk about them. The seven of us were supposed to go see A Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood and go out to lunch afterward last Monday. But one by one, they fell by the wayside because of medical issues until there were only two of us left. Is this what growing older is going to be like---we can’t make plans in advance because our lungs and legs and digestive systems can bug out on us with little warning or care for how inconvenient it is to our social lives? We were down to me and BL and a miss-read e-mail almost caused me not to show up. Sunday night one of the ladies sent her regrets and BL replied back to us all in the e-mail group, “Sorry everyone can’t make it” and I miss-read it to say, “Sorry everyone, can’t make it.” It was straight out of the classic book on proper punctuation, Eats, Shoots and Leaves. Only in this case it wasn't a miss-placed comma that changed the meaning of a sentence, it was me reading a comma in where there was none. Why, Jean, why do I do things like that? It took a flurry of e-mails back and forth to get my error straighten out and we two did meet for the movie.

Moving on. You’d have to be living under a rock not to know that A Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood stars Tom Hanks as Fred Rogers but you may not know it’s based on the real-life friendship that grew between a journalist for Esquire Magazine, Tom Junod, and the beloved TV star of children’s programing. Junod was a cynical guy who usually exposed the underbelly of the topics he wrote about but this time, his article inspired this heart-warming film. At Rogerebert.com they said when Junod was assigned to interview and write about Mister Rogers, he rolls his eyes at the “too-easy job” and his wife asked him not to "ruin her childhood" with his usual hard-hitting article. 

A pluggedin.com review says, “In the movie, Fred’s wife, Joanne, tells Lloyd Vogel (the character based on Tom Junod) that Fred isn’t who he is by accident. He works at it. Fred’s intentionality, his kindness, his goodness are products of not just who Fred is, but of who he wants to be—who he thinks he needs to be for the children who watch and trust him.” And over the course of getting to know Mister Rogers Tom/Lloyd comes to see that he is exactly the same off camera as he is on camera. Through his association with Rogers, the journalist also learns the importance of forgiveness, and he has a lot of long-held dark resentments in his life to forgive. 

In one of the reviews I read---I lost track in which one, I read so many---it said “this movie makes you want to be a better person.” I’m getting tired of hearing the phrase and variations of, “you make me want to be a better man.” After all, it’s been 22 years since Jack Nicholson first delivered that line in As Good As it Gets, but in this case I totally agree with the sentiment that this movie makes you want to be a kinder person and more thoughtful about the words we use. You’ll laugh, you'll spill a tear or two and you'll get a deeper, more complex story than you will probably be expecting. I guarantee you'll go home feeling your time and money were well spent.

But nothing is ever black and white or a-political in our modern world, is it. When the trailers started appearing on TV for the movie's release Andrew Klavan, host of the right-wing website The Daily Wire claimed Fred Rogers was responsible for creating a generation filled with metro-sexual men. “If you really want to have a beautiful day in the neighborhood” he said, “call John Wayne and tell him to bring his guns.” Klavan went so far as to claim that Jesus was more like John Wayne than Mister Rogers. I doubt that but you can’t argue with Crazy.

In the same time frame another man, a college professor, originally said Mister Rogers was responsible for creating a generation of young people who feel entitled. Fox News picked up that quote and pushed the smear to the point that the professor finally contacted FOX essentially to retract his ‘entitled statement’ writing, “The reference to Mister Rogers was just a metaphor. I have no professional qualifications to evaluate the real problems or propose solutions. Mister Rogers was a great American. I watched him with my children and wouldn’t hesitate to do so again if I had young children.” I first ran across the push-back about Mister Rogers on a political website where I occasionally go to debate and I couldn’t believe anyone would find a way to tear down a man like Fred Rogers. But then I remembered these are the same people who tear down environmentalists who fight to keep our water and air safe for human consummation and who believe windmills cause cancer. Like I said, you can’t argue with Crazy. 

To recap: The movie has a powerful message of acceptance and forgiveness and my wish for us all of is that Mister Rogers’ message of kindness will guide us all through the holidays. As for me, as you can see from my not-so-veiled barbs at right-wingers I made in this post I should probably go see the movie again because that’s a message that clearly hadn’t fully taken root in my persona. But more importantly, as BL and I left the theater we both said we want to see A Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood again. It's just that engaging. ©

 
 Official Movie Trailer

Tom Junod was asked to write 400 words about Fred Rogers. He wrote 10,000.  Esquire Article