“Not in Assisted Living (Yet): Dispatches from the Edge of Independence!

Welcome to my World---Woman, widow, senior citizen seeking to live out my days with a sense of whimsy as I search for inner peace and friendships. Jeez, that sounds like a profile on a dating app and I have zero interest in them, having lost my soul mate of 42 years. Life was good until it wasn't when my husband had a massive stroke and I spent the next 12 1/2 years as his caregiver. This blog has documented the pain and heartache of loss, my dark humor, my sweetest memories and, yes, even my pity parties and finally, moving past it all. And now I’m ready for a new start, in a new location---a continuum care campus in West Michigan, U.S.A. Some people say I have a quirky sense of humor that shows up from time to time in this blog. Others say I make some keen observations about life and growing older. Stick around, read a while. I'm sure we'll have things in common. Your comments are welcome and encouraged. Jean
Showing posts with label ice box. Show all posts
Showing posts with label ice box. Show all posts

Wednesday, October 13, 2021

You Probably Saw This Coming…

deck minus a splash of color

Okay, I'm going to get a few things out of the way first because living in an apartment building for the first time ever presences itself with situations where you have to learn to laugh at yourself or you'd die of embarrassment. 

Situation One - I learned the hard way that a pocket door tends to bounce back open if you close it too hard. I found this out while sitting on the toilet and gazing across to the where the closed door should have been and seeing instead the wide open bedroom window shade. Anyone walking by on the sidewalk would have viewed something neither one of us wanted them to see. To make it worse the bathroom is lit up like an airport runway with no other lighting choice in between that and total darkness. That pocket door bounce not only opens itself at inopportune times it also closes itself at inopportune times. After going in there without turning on the light the door closed itself and I ended peeing in pitch blackness. I followed that trip up by me digging around to find the box where I’d packed a few nightlights. 

Situation Two - You probably saw this one coming. I locked myself out of my apartment when I went into the hall to put some cardboard boxes out for maintenance to pick up. It wouldn’t have been so bad if it hadn’t been on Sunday and if I hadn’t just gotten out of the shower with my wet hair plastered to my head with clips to dry the waves out of it, and if the main entrance leading to the concierge’s desk---that great place that solves all our problems---didn’t have a gaggle of ladies waiting for the bus to take them to church. I was embarrassed right down to my fuzzy slippers. A side note here I’m going to have to dust off my bling because everyone else here seems to wear a lot jewelry.

Situation Three - Only half the residences have moved in yet so it’s pretty quiet here in the evenings and one night I was the only person in the cafe` eating when a tall guy came in who shall henceforth be known at T-Shirt Tom. I’ve seen him before and he’s memorable because he’s quick to introduce himself and he wears t-shirts with quirky sayings on them. He asked if he could sit with me and I graciously closed my notebook, set down my pen and we made small talk long enough for me to find out: 1) he’s got 100 or more t-shirts and that his grandkids buy them for him, 2) that he follows college football and soccer, and 3) that his favorite team is from the college where he got his law degree. 

Being the great conversationalist that I am---note the sarcasm here ---I was looking for a common thread so we didn’t look so much like I was a talk show host doing an interview. So I said that I’m not into sports but this summer I’ve been watching and learning about baseball. He looked at me like I’d pulled a giant turd out of my pants and laid it on the table. And I kid you not, the next thing he said was, “I changed my mind. I think I’m going to sit over by the TV so I can watch the game coming on.” It reminded me of a time in my twenties when a guy in a bar came over and asked if he could sit down. After a few minutes of conversation I excused myself to go to the restroom but instead I left the building. To this day I’ve felt bad about doing that. I was young and dumb and didn’t think twice about the guy’s self-esteem. Now I’m old and smarter and my self-esteem is high enough that I found the humor in karma finally catching up with me. 

Situation Four - There’s an intercom between the front door and our apartments. When someone comes to visit they’re suppose to punch in your apartment number and it rings like a door bell inside your unit and when we answer it we can see them on a camera. I have the first number in the building and I’m getting a lot of people wanting me to buzz them in---mostly moving company employees. Not going to happen if I don’t know them but one guy was quite insistent that he was my son. "Come on, Ma, quite fooling around and let me in!” In and out of the building he went all one day and every time he’d ring me instead of his mom. I finally I went out to the front door and showed him how to buzz the right apartment. If I was shopping for another son-I-wish-I-had it wouldn't be him.

Tomorrow my desk gets delivered and I can hardly contain myself. It was custom built by the Amish and I haven’t even seen it yet. But over the years I’ve bought five pieces of furniture from the same place so I have total faith that I’ll like it. 

That’s all for now from the Daydreamer’s Den --- yes, I picked a name for my place! I've always been a daydreamer only now I get to celebrate that aspect of my personality instead of feeling guilty over how much time I've wasted in the process. ©

 

My 'lovely' view of the road and parking lot off my deck. The building in the far view is our library and recreation center for crafting, book clubs or whatever we all vote to start up over there

This is the wall between my half bath door and the door to my den. I used to collect clothes pins---all different and the washboard now holds the six oldest, all that is left of my original 100. The baskets are running board baskets from circa 1905, made for touring cars. The ice box refrigerator is over 100 years old and speaks "cottage" fluently as that's what most of us had on the lake before we had electricity.

The idea for using old fruit jars to house some of my downsized collectibles I shamelessly stole from Dawn's blog, Bahamian Valhalla. That jar of watches is every watch I ever had in my lifetime, but I sold 50 or so of my husband's pocket watches. We used to collect political pin-back buttons and sold 100's of them on e-Bay but I screwed up and forgot to keep the best for my jar. Sewing buttons are in another jar and I didn't make that mistake again. I sold 1000's of sewing buttons. 100 wooden nickels takes up another jar. The largest jar contains the fool's gold and rubies my husband and I mined Out West on what I consider the happiest day of my life.

These now hold knitting yarn, but they are lined with tin to keep food cold.

I turned the inside of the ice box into a pantry which is going to work out good. The top left section is where a block of ice would have gone back in its day. The meat section is right below it. At cottages people used to keep these old ice boxes even after they got electricity and used them for keeping pop and beer cold at parties.  

Tuesday, November 10, 2015

Touring My Future

I posted this photo on Facebook so I might as well share it here as well. This is the exact model and make of an oak ice box that I have and just sent off to get refinished for a grand total of $500. It sold new in 1921 for $27.45. It will come back after the holidays just in time to replace the Hoosier cabinet/baking center that I gave away to one of Don’s nephews and his wife. I kind of wish, now, that I would have taken the money they offered for it but no one twisted my arm to make me give it away and a deal is a deal. My goal was just to keep it in Don's family since his parents bought the Hoosier when they first got married.

My Belding-Hall Century Refrigerator was built in a town not far from where I live, by a company that was the forerunner of the Gibson Refrigerator Company. I’m only its second owner, can you believe that! The first owner abused it, though, after they got an electric refrigerator thus the need to be refinished. Before Don’s stroke I had taken it apart, intending to refinish it myself but that’s all the farther I got. I’m absolutely thrilled that it will finally get upgraded from the garage to my dining area. I always thought it would be fun to keep cold drinks in that ice box during a party---it holds a 75 pound block of ice---and I may do that if I ever have a party again. But I’m planning to keep pressed glass serving dishes inside, downsized from those I keep in the Hoosier. On top I’ll set my antique malt maker and my blue fruit jars the hold my marble collection. The suitcase in the photo below, by the way, is what my grandfather carried all his possessions in when he immigrated to America from Italy.

 

This week I'm framing some prints I recently bought for the condo I haven’t bought yet. I know, I know, I’m putting the cart before the horse. But it helps me with downsizing decisions to visualize what my next reincarnated space will look like. Besides that, Don had some prints in frames that I don’t want to keep and with the price of framing so high, I will use the ones I already own by swapping out Don’s prints for my new ones. This week I also had a 10% off coupon to a framing shop so I decided I’d take in a drawing I did decades ago of my mom reading to my niece. I wanted to swap it out of its poster frame and into another frame I have. All I’d need was a mat and foam backer. I could not believe they wanted $140 for that little job! With the coupon. I didn’t leave it.

My next stop will be at the art supply store. They sell mat boards and maybe---just maybe---they cut them as well. If not, I may reteach myself the craft. I used to be do it all the time and still have the equipment. I could go through a lot of mat boards, trying to get it right for $140. Yes, this in yet another example of putting the horse before the cart. But after an entire summer of making tough widow-related downsizing decisions I needed something fun to keep me on track. Besides, if I end up not moving, I’ve decided a major redecorating project will be in order. What I have now is a blending of tastes and possessions and eventually a widow has to claim those jointly created and blended spaces for herself. This week's project is the library. I took so many of Don's books to the auction house this summer that I had gaping holes on my shelves. One whole wall of books is now officially reorganized and looking great and the other wall will be done by the end of the week.

my new prints
When I move I’ll be going for the ‘cottage look’ and I’m seriously thinking of using my wicker settee and matching chair instead of buying a new couch. (The one I have now is too big for the smaller condos I’m seeing.) It belonged to my grandfather and I probably won’t have a porch to put it on. Company won’t be all that comfortable, but do I care? I get so little. There will always be my kitchen table and chairs, a coffee pot and cookies for guests---my least favorite place to sit here or when visiting others because it feels like punishment for not eating dinner but others don't have my hang-ups. Or I could order a pizza and revert to my youth and have guests over for a pajama party in the bedroom. Just kidding! But I am seriously thinking my large oak art easel and paintbrush cart will go in the living room, smack dab in front of the biggest window. I go back and forth between having my writing/computer area in the living room and the painting area in the second bedroom space or vice versa. Believe it or not, my writing space is usually messier than my art area ever was. But mainly I’m thinking the light and long-distance views will be better for art in the main living space and I’m getting too old to care about what people think. I say that but it’s more wishful thinking than a truthful statement. I do care what people think. So what do you think? Should my public space portray me as a crazy old, would-be artist or as a crazy old, would-be writer? ©


my grandfather's settee