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Welcome to my World---Woman, widow, senior citizen seeking to live out my days with a sense of whimsy as I search for inner peace and friendships. Jeez, that sounds like a profile on a dating app and I have zero interest in them, having lost my soul mate of 42 years. Life was good until it wasn't when my husband had a massive stroke and I spent the next 12 1/2 years as his caregiver. This blog has documented the pain and heartache of loss, my dark humor, my sweetest memories and, yes, even my pity parties and finally, moving past it all. And now I’m ready for a new start, in a new location---a continuum care campus in West Michigan, U.S.A. Some people say I have a quirky sense of humor that shows up from time to time in this blog. Others say I make some keen observations about life and growing older. Stick around, read a while. I'm sure we'll have things in common. Your comments are welcome and encouraged. Jean

Saturday, April 22, 2023

Mystery in the Blogs


Bloggers is doing strange things in my blog. I’ve used this platform since 2012 and recently I noticed they’ve changed the font size on older posts, presumably to save bandwidth. They also dumped a bunch of short comments into my spam folder. I noticed this because in the past I’ve always kept just ten comments in that folder (Repeat offenders I want to remember) and when I’d notice an eleventh I’d know I accidentally sent a good comment there that was meant to go through to public viewing. Last week when I opened my dashboard I had over a hundred comments in the Spam folder and I was almost afraid to open it and see what had grown overnight. 

For them to by-pass the normal path of first going into the 'Waiting Moderation' file for me to manually decide their fate had never happened before so I expected Bloggers had added a new feature, an auto-bot and it threw a bunch of x-rated comments in that file or the guy who plagued older bloggers with his  “I hate Baby Boomers” comments got out of internet jail and was back sending his nasty-ass crap. Or maybe the woman from India who wants to improve our sex lives with a special herb to help our mates grow their penis sizes was hoping one day I'll accidentally send her ads through for public viewing. Finally, I opened the folder and found mostly my own comments like, “LOL” or “So true”----stuff like that and all of it over a year old. (A bandwidth pruning.) So I deleted them and thought that would be the end of it. It wasn’t. 

A week later a few more old and short comments showed up in my Spam folder plus a longer one from an “administrator”(or someone posing as one) written two days earlier who commented that my title didn’t match the content in a particular post. How it got into the Spam folder without being in the 'Waiting Moderation' folder would be a mystery if not for the fact that long ago and faraway I used to be an administrator on a website with a message board, chat room and blog community and I had the power to do all kinds of things on the backside of that place. One of my jobs was pruning older threads when I wasn’t deleting inappropriate topics or monitoring fights between members in case one or both stepped over the line and I needed to put them in internet jail for a couple of days to cool down. I just never thought a place like Bloggers---as big as they must be---would have humans pruning or moderators. Even back when I was doing that kind of work, pruning could be done automatically but I talked my boss into letting me do it in my spare time because mass pruning would have dumped too many still useful-to-our-members topics.

I’ve never had a knack for naming my posts or anything creative for that matter. My husband could. He named most of the art pieces I did for college art shows and all the photographs we entered in contests way back when I stalked little kids with my camera and he stalked wildlife with his. He even named my sister-in-law’s hair salon. Knowing how often editors change titles of articles and books it never bothered me much that I don’t have the skill to name my posts. But if my posts start getting pruned for not having titles that match the content, then I’m going to have learn at the ripe old age of dirt.

Of course there’s the very real possibility that I moved that "Admin" comment to the Spam folder and I’m having short term memory problems and don't have the brain cells to remember dong it and that a real human isn’t messing with me. 

I tried clicking on that commentor’s profile but it took me to a message that read, “The Blogger profile you requested cannot be displayed.” People do that when they have an invitation-only blog. It's like knocking on the door of an old speak-easy. Someone would open a little window in the door and ask you who sent you before admitting you in. I doubt real administrator for Bloggers would have a profile like that. It’s a mystery.

It's also a mystery to ponder why if I did move his/her comment to the Spam folder why would I have done that. I don't make a practice out of not publishing comments that are critical of something I've written. (Case in point, read the comments on the wedding dress post where I was chastised for body shaming the bride.) In fact when I write about certain topics I'm prepared for a little push back. Conflict can is good from time to time. It has the potential to make us grow if all parties involved stays on point and don't disintegrate into name calling which on the website mentioned up above was the tipping point for time outs in internet jail. (Internet jail, if you haven't figured it out by now, is just using a person's IP number to lock them out from getting on a website for set length of time. They can still communicate with the administrators but protesting your time out, just gets you a longer one.)

If I had published the comment I would have replied that sometimes I purposely come up with titles that don't match the content like if the topic contains sexual, money or religious matters. Long time bloggers know better than to put certain words in the title line or first paragraphs because the internet crawlers are looking there for the spammers to dump their stuff in the comment sections. That was not the case with that particular post title and content but I'm just sayin' it's a better excuse than saying I screwed up. ©

 

Added this morning: Is anyone else getting notices from Mailchimp wanting you to buy "additional credits?" I've been on their free plan to notify subscribers but this morning none are getting the notices. I have no clue what "additional credits" are. When I go to their website directly there is no mention of 'credits'.

20 comments:

  1. Yuck! (Cheerful Monk)

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  2. I'm not exactly sure what's up with that -- certainly at that quantity. But I've noticed other bloggers mentioning how a lot of either genuine current comments are getting into the spam folder (that's happened to me, and generally with two or three of the same folk, but not always -- sometimes someone else pops in there, especially if they've gone back and commented on two or three posts). Other times I'll get comments on posts I wrote back 10 years ago. But I've never had more than a few. Sometimes I think they're doing something to the system and someone hits the wrong button. If it goes on too long, email blogger through that question mark icon at the top. Not that it will help but...

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    1. In all the years I've been blogging I've never really noticed that question mark nor wondered what it was for. How dumb am I? In the past when I've found an occasional good comment in the Spam folder I just assumed my pointer strayed when I was trying to moderate it through to public viewing. But with this amount of older comments going there, there is no way that's what's going on here. I don't really care enough to ask why Bloggers is doing it, I'm just glad its still a free platform. But the title thing did freak me out except the more I read it them more think it might have bee a joke.

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  3. I didn't get a notice this morning that you'd published a post and was concerned something had happened to you since you are so on top of things all the time. Glad it was just a Blogger error, irritating as that is in itself!

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    1. I just found our from Jeanne that she had gone through the whole thing with Mailchimp not sending out notices and what I have to do to correct it. Just don't have time right now since I'm having a birthday party tomorrow for my brother. Bottom line is I either have to leave their free plan and start paying or cut down on the number of times I post each month by two posts. I'm leaning toward the latter. In the meantime no notices will go out next week I'm guessing.

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  4. I didn't get notified of your post, and generally it comes bright and early. I was worried about you. So glad you're okay and it's just some strange blog thing. Ya know, I really and truly don't want to become a paranoid old lady, but sometimes I wonder what's really going on with technology. Hope your brother's birthday party is a good time--esp for him! Good luck with the blogging, Jean.

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    1. They make so many changes and upgrades with everything, trying to stay ahead of the spammers and hackers that it makes your head spin. Thanks for tracking me down.

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  5. Hope you can straighten this out. I didn't get notification either, so I just came looking for you. :-) Best wishes for a nice birthday party for your brother. Sounds like fun.

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  6. I'm on WordPress and it has its own problems, but none that sound like yours. I don't know a thing about Mailchimp. In other words this comment is totally lacking a solution but is posted in the spirit of "good luck, you can figure this out."

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    1. Word Press really confuses me. It will let me post comments on se Word Press blogs but not yours and I've tried as recently as yesterday to leave you a comment. I even have a Word Press account, just for this purpose.

      The Mailchimp problem like most can be solved with money...upgrading to the paid service instead of the free one. Jeannie, Thank heavens, gave me a lot of information and I'll decide what to do next week.

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    2. WordPress and Blogger are products of rival tech companies, so they purposely put roadblocks in the way of communicating with bloggers on the other site. Right now, I have to jump through quite a few hoops to leave a comment on blogger sites that is linked to my blog rather than to my google account or is just "anonymous." Sometimes I miss one of the steps, and the comment just disappears without getting to its intended destination.
      BTW, don't you love the way that, when they make changes that make our lives more difficult, they call these "upgrades"!

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    3. I hate changes online and they happen way too often.

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  7. I didn't get a notice that you had published but I did see you on my Feedly, so here I am! It seems to me that just when you get good and comfortable with something you use on the internet (like a blog host), they introduce all sorts of unasked-for "improvements", or they want money for what you were using for free. Sigh....

    Deb

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    1. So true! I wish they'd just stop changing stuff so us old duffers could keep up.

      I don't subscribe to any blogs but the ones I read are in my blog roll/feed for me to find when they publish.

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  8. What... our Blog Titles must match Post Content?! Who knew? *LOL* I have had some long time followers leave comments that somehow end up in Spam and then Real Spam actually gets thru, so I don't know how they moderate that content... Bot or Human? I always look thru my Comments and Unspam anyone whose legit and apologize to them for not responding sooner to their Comment that didn't Post and went to Spam instead. A lot of the Trolls just went away, I do remember Mumbai Escorts were tenacious... and I felt that most Trolls and Bots followed you to your Blog when you visited certain Bloggers they like to torment. Some great Blogs ceased due to how harassed they were by Trolls and Bots or unlovely people just spoiling for a fight and to be controversial. I figure, if you are opposed to what a Blog says, just don't go there... simple solution... but, some folks are deliberately Drama and a Headache, it's the only way they know how to Be I guess... and I would think they're not Welcome anywhere... not in Cyberspace or Real Life.

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    1. We've got snow outside! Off topic but I can't believe it!

      Spammers and trolls don't bother me much since I switched to moderating comments. What my followers don't see won't hurt them. Bloggers does seem to be more on top of the Trolls lately. Only see one or two a week.

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  9. I don't think there's any mystery about the "title must match content" message. That's so typical of much of the stuff that lands in my spam file. Combined with the fact that you couldn't find a live link to the "whoever," it seems almost certain to me that it was a spammer. They'll use messages like that to raise our anxiety level, and ensure we click their links.

    Does Blogger not have an option to send email notifications of your new posts? There's no need at WordPress to use services like MailChimp, because we have the option to have our posts sent to readers. I know you've had your issues with WP, but Blogger seems unnecessarily complicated to me. I started out with Blogger, but decided WP was better. I've been trying to eliminate my Blogger identity for 15 years, and haven't managed it yet!

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    1. Bloggers eliminated their email notifications a few years ago and that's when many of us switched over to Mailchimp. I just checked this week to see if they may have added that widget back in again since it had been a long time since I looked what's available and they didn't. I've been with bloggers nearly 20 years and still have five blogs that show up on my dashboard. The idea of changing over to WordPress seems like too much work and why bother at my age. I'd have to start all over building readers. I do have an account with them, though, that I use for posting comments but every so often they get picky and won't take them. It's very frustrating to comment over there. What works on some of their blogs doesn't on others.

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    2. Well, sometimes WP won't take my comments! I've discovered that if I leave a blog post open in a tab and then go back to comment, the comment just vanishes. All I get is a message that says, "This comment cannot be posted." I've had to teach myself to copy comments on open tabs in case that happens. Then, I can just refresh the page and paste the comment again.

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Thanks for taking the time to comment. If you are using ANONYMOUS please identify yourself by your first name as you might not be the only one. Comments containing links from spammers will not be published. All comments are moderated which means I might not see yours right away to publish through for public viewing as I don't sit at my computer 24/7.