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Welcome to my World---Woman, widow, senior citizen seeking to live out my days with a sense of whimsy as I search for inner peace and friendships. Jeez, that sounds like a profile on a dating app and I have zero interest in them, having lost my soul mate of 42 years. Life was good until it wasn't when my husband had a massive stroke and I spent the next 12 1/2 years as his caregiver. This blog has documented the pain and heartache of loss, my dark humor, my sweetest memories and, yes, even my pity parties and finally, moving past it all. And now I’m ready for a new start, in a new location---a continuum care campus in West Michigan, U.S.A. Some people say I have a quirky sense of humor that shows up from time to time in this blog. Others say I make some keen observations about life and growing older. Stick around, read a while. I'm sure we'll have things in common. Your comments are welcome and encouraged. Jean

Wednesday, November 20, 2024

Door Deocrating in an Independant Living Facility

I promised this post would be a fluffy thing about the various stuff people have on display outside their doors here at the continuum care facility where I live. What a tedious job that turned out to be. After walking the halls in my building and snapping photos, then downloading them to my computer, I cropped the bunch of them but for some crazy reason I can't get the cropped versions to upload to my blog's posting box. So please cut me some slack because my frustration level was getting too high to keep trying so you're getting the uncropped photos. There are reasons why I don't usually post photos in my blog and the main one being I've never really figured out how to get photos off my phone and in my blog without jumping through a ton of hoops. 
 
Now that that's out of the way, one thing I learned with this project is that nearly all of my neighbors decorate their doors. I don't have to walk past anyone's door to get to where I need to go---the elevator, the outside door, the gym and only two doors to get to the trash room---so I was shocked at the level of decor in my building. You'd think, me having twenty years of experience in the floral industry, I'd be one of those with a decked out door, but other than a Christmas wreath I haven't done anything to my door until after the election when I brought out my mini-billboard with its cryptic messages. (See my last post). 
 
We have such bright lights next to our doors it was hard to get a decent photograph. This first group of photos all have the use of a table in common.
 
That's a turtle on the bottom shelf.


A rabbit.

Weird plant cuttings and a scarecrow.


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Bear

Handmade pottery.

Silk Apple blossoms.

This next group of door decor is in the wreath and door swag category.








Our fashionista lives here.


The last category of door decor would be better called "floor decor".
Dog with straw hair.

Owl with real pumpkins.

Straw Rabbit.

Cast Iron Scottie.

Iron Worm Sculpture.

Hobby Horse from the '50s?

One of doors I walk past to get to the trash room.

At the end of a hallway.
 
And last is the doorway of my across-the-hall neighbor who is said to be the richest guy living here. He's got three houses and several cars and gets a lot of deliveries that sit in front of his door for days on end. These are Wall Street Journals.

The other door I walk past to get to the trash room.
 
My latest mini bill board I put on my door (see below) may have gotten me in trouble with a MAGA guy who has to walk past my door to get anywhere. I happened to be by the elevator when he got off and he said, "We have to talk about what you're putting on your door." And I said, "Oh, no, am I in trouble?" Then I got on the elevator and left before he could say anything thing.  But I'm thinking I need to back off and play nice again. At least for awhile. I've been trolling him with my door messages since the election November 5th. If the tables were turned and I had to walk past a 45/47 cry-fest for losing the election several times a day I wouldn't like it much. Who am I kidding? I'll love it but just the same, I'm going to back off...at least through the holidays.

Until Next Wednesday....
 

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    1. I was truly shocked at how much door decor is in my building. I didn't even try to capture those in the larger building.

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  2. I don't think you need to back off. Lives are at stake.

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    1. My torn on expressing myself in the mini-billboard way. The MAGA guy who confronted me is the husband of my mahjong guru and I wouldn't do anything to hurt her or make her life harder if she has to defend me. Her husband also delivers all the packages for everyone living on my hallway. So I think I'll put it up but sparely.

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  3. I have phone link on my laptop and if the laptop and phone are connected to the same wifi, I can see text messages and photos on my laptop. I can save those pictures from that phone link to my laptop and then copy them to my blog. Much better than my old method of emailing myself photos

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    1. Thank you for the tip! Emailing photos to myself is how I've been doing it. Then I have to save them on my computer to be able to upload them to my blog.

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  4. Jean, I actually liked the full size shots of your neighbors' doors. It's a great way for people to express themselves, or simply beautify their surroundings. It brought back memories of my mom's last home--a condo. She had a wooden bench, a wall mirror and a memo pad. Plus a seasonal wreath on her door. I'm glad you put up your bulletin board. Your opinion matters!

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    1. I had a little table I could have used but I gave it to my niece to put in her barn sale. I feel bad about that. It even folded up and could had stored out of the way when not in use. Glad this post brought you a nice memory of your mom.

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  5. I like that you can do your doorways as you like and OK, playing nice is fine. But it's also your door and your statement, so your call. And there is nothing wrong or even questionable about what is currently on your door. I wonder how your neighbor gets in and out of his place with the papers there?!

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    1. He picks them up when he's in town. But he's gone a lot. His parking spot is next to my mine so he's easy to keep track of. The papers are nothing. He gets a of boxes too. If his car and the build up in front of his door are both in place that's when I question whether or not the security guard should check on him.

      My door statements kind crossed over to lecturing with the one that's photographed in this post. You may have been a blog follower long enough to remember when I used to post "Sunday Sermons" and I may go with a once a week mini-thought for my door and label them Sunday School or Sunday Sermon. The MAGA guys is a regular church goer.

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  6. I like the variety of decorations that are outside the doors. Gives you a little glimpse into the personalities that live there. With the holidays coming up, you will need to do another Christmas decorations post. I bet it's lovely!

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    1. Next week they are going to start decorating around the building. I wish I had thought to photograph Halloween decor here. It was EVERYWEHERE and full-sized. Ghoulish stuff that would have pleased blogger Dawn.

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  7. My brothers had that horsey toy! I recall injuries when someone got their fingers too near the giant springs. LOL.

    I love all the variety. And as for the MAGA dude comments, I'm taking to heart the first rule from "On Tyranny" by Timothy Snyder: Do Not Obey in Advance. There is SO much overreach going on. And the candidates for high positions are just laughable -- or in the case of Gaetz, criminal. (Of course, there is also keeping the peace in your own environment.)

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    1. 45/47 thinks he's casting a TV reality show with his candidates for high positions. It would be laughable if it wasn't our tax money he's going to be wasting with his agenda and unqualified people. I'm anxious to see if the Republican senate will just rubber stamp these guys. Doctor Oz in charge of Medicare and Medicaid? Who knew the way to getting a government job was through a FOX audition tape.

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  8. Loved your fluffy Post. Easy solution to downloading images off Phone onto Computer is to send them to yourself at FB Messenger then grab and edit them from there, that's what the Kiddos taught me and it works like a charm.

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    1. I'll try it. But it doesn't sound much easier than what I'm doing now. Anyway I learned a new appreciation for your photo heavy blog posts. What a lot to work you do!

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    2. LOL, yeah, but it's like a pleasurable Art Project to compose a visually stunning Post, the Written part is easier, just a stream of consciousness, but Photo Editing is a Labor of Love. I sure enjoyed the work you put into Photographing the Decorations and Sharing them tho'.

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  9. PS: I wouldn't Care if MAGA Guy is offended, they aim to offend, so if he can't take it, don't dish it out.

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    1. You're right, they don't care but is wife is a friend and my mahjong guru and I don't to make her life harder by me upsetting him.

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  10. I tried to submit a comment on my phone earlier but it seemed to evaporate into the ether. I see that you used the correct term “45/47” whereas the man to whom it refers has “45-47” on his brand new hat, implying that he was also in residence as #46. I really enjoy your blog and appreciate all of the time and effort you expend.

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    1. Thank you! You'd think someone at the hat imprint place would correct that error, wouldn't you.

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  11. The level of nastiness toward those whose political opinions differ is reaching a height I've never seen. I have one very good friend whose family has banned her from the Thanksgiving and Christmas tables because of her vote. Administrations will come and go, but tearing up bonds of friendship and family will reverberate far longer than any election result. In the past, I've known a few people whose bonds with their families were broken when they came out as gay. We need less of that sort of thing: not more.

    The new member of Home Free, Adam Bastein, wrote a song about his own estrangement from his family when he told them he's gay. It's been updated and is part of their new Christmas CD. It certainly carries a message that applies more widely now. There are a lot of people who would love to come home , and not only at Christmas.

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    1. It's going to get a whole lot worse before it gets better. In my opinion. 45/47 whole agenda is about being a wrenching ball. What some of us called progress---acceptance of gays, abortion rights, for example---is being turned into a culture war with teeth because it's not just a difference of opinion anymore when the MAGA regime is taking about making/reversing laws against things like gay marriages and having gay characters in books or forbidding healthcare workers from using the word/s like abortion or terminate a pregnancy. Project 2025 outlines it all in black and white.

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  12. MAGA guy can just ignore it. Or stuff it. Either one is good.

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    1. If only that were true! I will fold like a paper airplane when push comes to shove. I'm backing off from having something new on my door every few days to just posting something a couple of times a month with cool down periods in between.

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  13. Too bad for the MAGA guy. I guess the truth hurts.

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    1. I saw an interview on TV of a MAGA voter and she said, "I don't like him as a man but he will do good things for the country." And I was thinking, "How can you separate the two?" That's like saying I don't like the choice of Hanibal Lector's meat but he sure knows how to cook and season it well.

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  14. A lovely walk throughout your hallways. I have a Mac and all my photos are saved to my desktop into a folder labeled "photos" and also copies to the cloud. But I do have to drag from folder to desktop, crop and then save. I'm not as busy as you are so it works for me. I'm going to get a wreath hanger to put over our front door and do something seasonal! Thanks for persevering and showing us the creativity!

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    1. But how do you get them off your camera and on to your computer? I don't have a cloud. This is a good time of the year to start decorating your door. Lots of things available. I won't do Christmas until after Thanksgiving.

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  15. Interesting array of door decor. My favorite is the hobby horse. Tell that maga guy ... It's bad enough you folks are telling us "your body, our choice". The least you can do is to let me have my door decor. That should end the conversation.

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  16. You know what, Jean? If you give away your right to Free Speech so easily, and to an individual of that ilk, then you might as well have voted for him, too, or not at all. Why would you give away your rights and your voice so cheaply? He is ONE PERSON. You have just as much right to say your piece as he does. At some point, bending that low will make you break.

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    1. I'm only backing off on using my mini-billboard until after the holidays. He is only one person but he's the husband of a good friend here and anyone can ask him to help with anything and he's right there. In every aspect except politics he's a nice person.

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    2. I just want to say I have some people like that in my life, and as hard as their vote is to stomach, I choose not to engage on that topic and look at the other aspects of the relationship. Especially given you're friends with his wife, sometimes it's not worth kicking a skunk.

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    3. Thank you for that, Hope. It's complicated in the era of 45/47.

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  17. Adding photos to posts at times can give one a right headache, some interesting things here, like the scottie dog and the wreaths not that weird iron worm thing and that last one is that your door, I really like that

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    1. I love the scottie dog. The woman who owns it has a real scottie dog that she walks several times a day.

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  18. Interesting what people pick to display outside their doors. I do think the guy who leaves his newspapers laying on the floor, outside his door, makes things look unkempt. Please take us on a tour when folks decorate for Christmas as it should be interesting. The guy who is a trumper is trying to get your goat and someday you just might let him know how you really feel🤣. Can’t wait to hear how that conversation goes, we wait with baited breath 🇺🇸

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    1. "Trump Exhausting" is setting in. I need a little break to regain my mojo for the next round which will probably come around 6/6.

      Christmas decor is going up next week in the common areas.

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  19. I loved the tour. You have some creative neighbors! I hope you take us for another tour when everyone decorates for Christmas. What a fun way to express personalities.
    I don't think I could be trusted with what I put on my door. I am still very upset and can barely form the words I want. I thought what you posted was very mild and generic. It isn't your fault if the shoe fits him. I guess since I pass several F Joe Biden flags in my town, I am over it. I can't even tell you some of the homemade signs about Kamala that were displayed along country roads. I would probably be evicted.
    I am currently using the - edit photos on my phone, send the edited photos to my messenger on Facebook, download the photos from Facebook messenger to my laptop method. I know, but it is currently working for me.

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    1. I have not tried editing photos on my phone before sending them. Thanks for that tip.

      Some of my neighbors have a lot more space to get creative than others----the ones at the end of the hallways for example. I kind of feel sorry for the guy who rides a vacuum in the hallways every night because some places are going over our allots space for decor. He much not mind because we've gotten to directives to reign things in.

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  20. I'm sorry to read that your neighbour seems to be taking your door decor in a personal way, and I get that you want to spare his wife from having to defend you. My opinion: you've said your piece with the door decor and it hit someone hard, and I think now you acting with kindness by dialing it back a bit to keep the peace is a good thing to do. Your signage (although brave and totally something I would do too) is never going to change any of these peoples' minds anyways - it's only going to inflame and enrage the cult members, who seem to be fuelled by rage already - I mean, it seems to me that they deliberately seek out things to be mad about - things that don't even concern them or otherwise impact their lives - like gay marriage or trans rights. So why feed the beast any more than you have to?

    I have a neighbour who, when I first met him, made a homophobic slur in conversation with me. I was too shocked to respond in the moment but since then I have hung an LGBTQ flag in one of my windows for Pride Month (that he could see when he came to my door) and he hasn't said anything more. Too bad in a way, because now I am prepared to respond to that nonsense!

    With regards to photos on the blog - I have Apple products and I use Wordpress so it might not apply...It seems relatively easy for me to send photos to the laptop but the thing that has helped me the most to get them from the laptop into WordPress is to make my photos smaller using the photo editing tool on my computer before I put them in the blog. Sizing them down makes the upload to Wordpress so much faster and easier and the quality is still pretty good on the blog.

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    1. Living in a place where you can't avoid seeing someone living in the same building, walking the same hallway and eating in the same restaurant every day there does come a time when I feel it's best to turn the heat down. Like you said, we're not going to change anyone's opinion, and it's not like any of us can move.

      The photos in your blog are always great. I am able to crop my photos and save copies but when I tried to up load this last batch they wouldn't let me upload the cropped copies. If it had been one or two photos I might have been able to figure it out but I got overwhelmed and frustrated tried to do so many for this particular post.

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  21. Interesting door decor, I only do a Christmas wreath on our door, but next door does loads as she has little children,

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