Wouldn’t you know it, the one day this week when I was
supposed to go on a day trip to a tourist town on Lake Michigan the weather
report included rain, snow, sleet and ice. When the alarm clock rang this
morning I got up and turned on the TV, looking for that crawler at the bottom
of the screen that announces cancellations. There was none for the school
district where our senior citizen hall bus driver comes from. The trip was
still on. But the traffic at my bird feeders was extra heavy, indicating they expected
to be spending the rest of the day huddled under the tree branches trying to
avoid having a crust of ice hanging from their tiny wings. It was snowing hard---3
to 5 inches predicted---and the temperature was creeping up toward the freezing
mark where the snow would turn over to freezing rain. The counties south of
here where our bus would be heading were already reporting soppy sleet and slide-offs.
I made a decision. It might be an adventure to be out in the thick of bad
weather but it was an adventure I could do without. I emailed my regrets.
And that decision makes me wonder why I’m seriously
considering signing up for the 14 days trip to Alaska the summer of 2016. I went
to the monthly travelogue recently and as I sat there looking at slides of
Alaska I got nostalgic over the fact that going to Alaska was on Don’s and my
Bucket List. I’m not getting any younger,
I thought, and going with a bunch of
people from the senior hall will likely be the only chance I’ll ever get to go.
All day long I thought about the
pros and cons of going. I certainly have the time and money to go. On my cons
list I only have three things listed one of which is I have to pee about every
hour and a half. How’s that going to work out on the planes, trains, buses and
cruise ships we’d be on? I could bring a bunch of corks but that would probably
earn me a body cavity search at an airport, if they use one of those x-ray
screeners. Nope, I’d have to quit drinking liquids but that could earn me a
heart attack or stroke. I could try bladder “stretching” again but it didn’t
work when I was a kid, so I doubt it would now.
A bigger problem, though, would be Levi. Fourteen days is a long
time to be at a kennel when we’ve only been separated for two days at a time in
his entire life. I could put him in a kennel for a five day stretch this summer
and see how that goes. I’ve made it a point to take him there every summer for
two days, even when I wasn’t going anywhere just so he’d understand that he
gets picked back up again, should I have an emergency. I started doing that
because of Hurricane Katrina. Seeing all
those stressed out dogs, many who’d never been in a cage before---they said---drove
the point home to me that dogs need to be cage trained. I bought one for Levi but
I never close the door. He goes in there when he takes his afternoon naps, when I leave the house and
when I have workmen around. I’m afraid to close the door for fear I’ll
die and he’d starve to death before I’m found. He’s got a self-feeder that will
keep him alive for five days, after that he can start eating my fingers.
The third con on my list is I wonder if the emotions of
going alone on a trip that Don dreamed about for so many years would get to me.
I’d hate to pay that much money just to see the place through a veil of tears. Would
it even be fun without his spirit of adventure and curiosity mixing us up with
the locals?
New topic: On Super Bowl weekend I had gone to the grocery
store and I wrote about how busy it was and how it would be nice if they’d move
the sample food people over to the checkout lanes to keep us all from fainting
from missing lunch. This week I was at the store again when their cash register
system went down for seven minutes and the checkout lines got back up again. Lo
and behold, a couple of girls walked around those of us waiting in line and
they were handing out sugar cookies from their bakery and sample sized cups of
Starbuck’s cappuccinos. I love that store! If I ever get homeless I’m going to
find a way to live there. They’re open 24/7/365 days a year, it should be
do-able.
I have to be careful about what I wish for...I think I’ve
accumulated some super powers. Recently I was bemoaned that fact that I wanted
a new blender for no other reason than I wanted to change colors. But I couldn’t
justify a purchase for that reason, I’m too old school to start that
mindset. Less than a month later my trusty white blender broke right
in the middle of a making a shake. It wouldn’t crush ice anymore and it made
sick noises on some of the other speeds and it was leaving what looked like
black sand where the top and the bottom connected. To the trash it went and I
now I have the stainless steel model I had lusted after. Hum-mm…what should I
wish for next? I know! “I really do want world peace,” to quote Sandra Bullock
in Miss. Congeniality. Not going to
happen, though, I fear my super powers are confined to things like getting free
cookies at the super market and breaking blenders. ©
Well, I wait to see if you go on that cruise to Alaska. I do get that it's riddled with 'what ifs'. You'll figure it out before you commit.
ReplyDeleteLoved the blender story. That was really great.
Have a terrific day. ☺
That's the nice part, I have a long time to think about it before money down is required on the trip. And there are lots more travelogs to go to in between now and then to ask questions.
DeleteThe first time I went on a vacation alone (a camping trip on the downeast coast of Maine), the summer after my divorce, I left home feeling sorry for myself because I had no one to go with me. By the time I got to a state park that turned out to be one of the most beautiful places on earth, I had discovered that traveling alone is a much different experience than traveling with others, but not worse. When I'm alone, I notice things that I would never see if I were with another person because I would be too busy worrying about whether the other person was having fun. I've also found it much easier to meet people when I'm traveling alone. This was particularly true the year I spent a month traveling in Alaska (still one of my all-time best vacations). I wasn't on a cruise ship, but I kept running into the same people over and over again on buses and ferries. I woman from England that I met at a B&B the night before we got on the Alaska state ferry invited me to join her for a day-trip to the Tracy Arm fjord when we got to Juneau, which turned out to be one of the highlights of my trip. We met up again at Denali National Park where she shared my tent for a night. On the three-day ferry trip back from Alaska to Seattle, two couples who were traveling together "adopted" me. They were not people I would ever be friends with in my ordinary life, but we enjoyed each others' company a great deal for those three days.
ReplyDeleteI think traveling alone requires that same shift as making friends as a singleton; you have to be open to it as a unique experience and not expect it to be like marriage. I have become addicted to traveling alone and now find it hard to imagine traveling with a partner. -Jean
That's certainly encouraging! And it makes a lot of sense, the part about noticing things that you'd never see because you were too busy worrying about wither the other person was having fun. Couples really do do that! Thanks for sharing this.
DeleteMy dream travel destination if Alaska. I don't want to go on a "guided" tour--Fred and I planned on driving--up through Canada, through the Canadian Rockies, and onward. For me to go on a cruise or a group of people probably wouldn't be much fun. I am too apt to want to strike out to a different location than the planned ones. It might be wonderful for you, however.
ReplyDeleteLucky you--hour and a half between potty stops? I'm lucky to get an hour. Small bladder all my life. A friend once told a group, "Judy knows every rest area from here to Orlando!"
That's the way Don and I wanted to do it, too, and that's something I would never do alone, so a group tour is the only option left if I want to see Alaska. This tour covers just about everything. My niece and her husband went last summer on their own and she'd been to all the same places the tour package covers. I like that the travel agenda also has everyone change seats and seat mates every day so you don't get stuck with someone you don't like for very long. There are also options in many places where you can go off on your own or go with the group.
DeleteI saw on TV where someone came up with cell phone app that tells you were all the bathrooms are and rates them. I can't wait until they have one that covers my town. LOL
DeleteThe first trip was the hardest but I found I actually love cruising alone! We loved cruising as much as breathing so I was afraid like you but no, it's wonderful. You have to live and do what you want to do, isn't that what Don would want you to do? Isn't that what you would want for him if you went first? Be open to new experiences and talk to people!
ReplyDeleteHugs, Bee
xoxo
You're right Bee, Don would want me to do what I want to do. He was my best cheerleader and wanted that while he was alive. The thing is, I was never really that fond of traveling in the first place. My idea of an ideal vacation would be to go to an artist colony on Lake Michigan or to rent a cottage over there.
DeleteI do talk to people every where I go but I don't enjoy the shallowness of most conversations that take place between strangers. I ask the questions and listen to the answers and get to know them, make them laugh, and they walk away seemingly happy that we talked. But rarely do they ask me anything.
Two weeks of doing that on a trip is not all that appealing just to see Alaska. Actually I want to smell Alaska more than see it. LOL
Jean :
ReplyDeleteyou will love Alaska cruise. Its beautiful. I loved our hawaii cruise better than our Alaska cruise since in our Hawaii cruise I enjoyed staying outside on deck due to mild weather versus alaska was too cold for me to do adventure like those., though we did those fun things wearing jackets & scarfs in alaska too. You should defintely go I bet Don will be happy to see that atleast you got to fulfill your bucket list adventure. hope you have figured out how o upload your mobile pictures in your blog.
Asha
Hawaii is on the tour list, too, and I have been weighing the pros and cons of each place. They have Italy, France and Ireland as well and they are tempting to me. Alaska was on OUR Bucket List but I'm not really sure if it's on my Bucket List, if you know what I mean. I will keep going to the monthly travelogs until I sort it all out.
DeleteThe fourth con that I would add to the list (but I know that it is your list!) is that I do not want to see icebergs or snow on a trip! Maybe it is because it is March and I had to clean the snow off the car again this morning and my February blues have rolled over into March! A lot of people I know from this little corner of Northern NY cruise in Alaska and I am quite sure that the beauty is spectacular but by this time each year I feel that I have seen enough ice and ice related formations to last me a long time!
ReplyDeleteSomeplace tropical would be interesting to smell but I don't associate any real smells with Alaska except pine forests.
Regards
Leze
Oh trust me, that thought has crossed my mind and is a factor. In turn it's a factor when I think about going to a tropical place in the winter...I'm not sure I'd want to fly through snow/winter to get there. I guess I worry too much to be a good traveler.
DeleteI imagine Alaska as smelling very clean and although I'll bet the tropics smells beautiful, a lot of perfumes make me sneeze. I'm afraid the real floral smells do the same...not that that would stop me from going.
I'm not adventurous and would never consider traveling alone. The most adventurous thing I've ever done was to drive with a twelve-year-old from Wichita, KS to San Diego, Ca. I was terrified most of the way; worried about car trouble (and we did have some), worried about rapists and sociopaths (didn't meet any), worried about being robbed (didn't happen). However, the trip was to reunite with my first husband after a separation HE wanted, so he could "find" himself. My son and I should have stayed where we were -- instead we wasted two more years with the self-centered brute before he decided we were "holding him back" in life.
ReplyDeleteI am even more fearful as I grow older of people looking to take advantage of a little old lady, especially one on her own far from home. Maybe I've read too many murder mysteries.
And, like many people who have survived this horrible winter (at least so far), I wouldn't want to go to Alaska to see any more snow! In fact I've seen enough snow to last me for a lifetime right now!
I also have pets and wouldn't want to kennel them that long either.
And, you're right, no one seems to want to know about me, only want to tell me about themselves. And I'm tired of being a "good listener." lol
I hear you about worrying about traveling alone. (And other things as you grow older.) I don't go far on my own either. Sorry to hear about your experiences with your first husband. I guess that's why he's called your FIRST husband.
DeleteThe only reason I'm even considering going is because the people I'd be traveling with would mostly be coming from the senior hall where I know most of them by sight, if nothing else and they have get-to-gathers ahead of time so you can get to know your travel mates before you go. The trips come with an escort to keep everyone organized and accounted for and guides at your destinations to show the group the sights. That takes some of the scare factor out of it.
I'm glad you mentioned putting a pet in a kennel for that long. Only another pet owner understands how BIG that really is. I'm really not sure I can do that to Levi. I used to have a niece-in-law who kept Levi when he needed a sitter but she has since gotten a second dog of her own and a baby and now it would be too much to ask of someone.
Being a good listener is a pain sometimes, isn't it. Maybe that's the reason I like to blog. I get to say things. LOL
You know, your niece-in-law just might want some extra money for taking care of your dog for a couple of weeks -- you never know unless you ask. After all, if she already has a couple of dogs, adding one more isn't much more work as long as the dogs get along with each other.... We did once kennel a dog and a cat for two weeks once and I'm convinced that they were put in small cages and kept there for the whole time. I felt so guilty when we picked them up that I swore we'd never do that again. Well, we no longer have the dog, but we still have the same cat....
DeleteI guess I wouldn't go on an extended trip just because I had nothing better to do. But then I'm basically lazy and would just as soon stay at home anyway.
I could ask but my niece-in-law absolutely will not accept cash to take Levi for the day. I end up buying her gifts just to pay her back. But you make a good point, one more dog might not make much difference and for a two week stay maybe she would take money if I paid her the kennel rate..
DeleteI'm lucky that I really trust the kennel I use not to cage dogs the whole time they are in her care. The owner only takes dogs who have been through her dog training classes and she's a well known animal behaviorist in the community. When he stays over night, she sends pictures of him having fun in the exercise area with the other dogs.
I think you read my blog posts last August about my first cruise and Alaska trip. I decided cruising is not for me, but most people would call me crazy. Our cruise line was luxurious (Celebrity) and we had perfect weather. Being from western Washington, we just felt the scenery was very similar to "home" I most liked the domed train ride (solid ground!) after being on the water and Denali Nat'l Park was beautiful. I'd always wanted to see Alaska and I'm glad I did. Early August seemed like a great time to go. I'm not very adventurous and not much of a traveler...it's when my demon anxiety issues rear their ugly heads. (Damn them!) But I am better about it when with people I know well. I admire your courage to do this! As for kenneling your baby; that's a tough one and I totally understand! We used to have to leave our dog at a kennel and it was a lovely place and we paid a fortune to leave him there, but I worried and fretted every time. But he always came home just fine. :)
ReplyDeleteI do remember your Alaska blogs and I read them with great interest. I'm not sure if I'll go or not but I'm thinking strongly about it. My niece said she'd go to Nantucket with me which is definitely on my Bucket List and might be a shorter trip for the dog kenneling issue.
DeleteI have anxiety issues traveling, too, but I always felt safe with Don. I might have to write a blog about some of the hair raising situations he's gotten us out of.
That is so funny about your supermarket. Ha! They know a good idea when they hear it. Such a simple thing and yet. Maybe all the best ideas are simple..... or not.
ReplyDeleteMy brother drove from Virginia to Alaska with his second wife. Boy, you better like the person you're with when you do that. The pee breaks would be enough to squelch any plans I would have of going to Alaska with a group. I know my limitations in that area. On the other hand, I have a friend who lived in Alaska for awhile. Both she and my brother were overwhelmed with the raw beauty of it. It might be worth it. I found a blog years ago. The author is a young woman who lived and worked in Alaska one summer. Her photography is beautiful - http://theroadislife.blogspot.com/search/label/Alaska
That's the link to the Alaska section of her blog. Decisions, decisions.
Thanks for the link. I'll check out her blog. I'm so gold right now, Alaska would be going to a warm place. Seriously.
DeleteWhat your brother did was what Don and I wanted to do. We did most of our traveling in a motor home which is a great way to go. When I go to my lunch and movie club I'm the only one who has to get up before the movie is over to use the restroom. And we're all about the same age. It is an issue when traveling with groups and one I'm going to ask the escort about at one of the travelogs.
My brother and his wife really enjoyed it. I'm so glad he did it. She died a few years later and he still talks about it occasionally.
DeleteI have a low tolerance for cold temperature but I'd love to go there too. Good luck to me.
ReplyDeleteGood luck to both of us!
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