“Not in Assisted Living (Yet): Dispatches from the Edge of Independence!

Welcome to my World---Woman, widow, senior citizen seeking to live out my days with a sense of whimsy as I search for inner peace and friendships. Jeez, that sounds like a profile on a dating app and I have zero interest in them, having lost my soul mate of 42 years. Life was good until it wasn't when my husband had a massive stroke and I spent the next 12 1/2 years as his caregiver. This blog has documented the pain and heartache of loss, my dark humor, my sweetest memories and, yes, even my pity parties and finally, moving past it all. And now I’m ready for a new start, in a new location---a continuum care campus in West Michigan, U.S.A. Some people say I have a quirky sense of humor that shows up from time to time in this blog. Others say I make some keen observations about life and growing older. Stick around, read a while. I'm sure we'll have things in common. Your comments are welcome and encouraged. Jean
Showing posts with label Alaska. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Alaska. Show all posts

Tuesday, March 3, 2015

Day Trips, Long Trips and Super Powers



Wouldn’t you know it, the one day this week when I was supposed to go on a day trip to a tourist town on Lake Michigan the weather report included rain, snow, sleet and ice. When the alarm clock rang this morning I got up and turned on the TV, looking for that crawler at the bottom of the screen that announces cancellations. There was none for the school district where our senior citizen hall bus driver comes from. The trip was still on. But the traffic at my bird feeders was extra heavy, indicating they expected to be spending the rest of the day huddled under the tree branches trying to avoid having a crust of ice hanging from their tiny wings. It was snowing hard---3 to 5 inches predicted---and the temperature was creeping up toward the freezing mark where the snow would turn over to freezing rain. The counties south of here where our bus would be heading were already reporting soppy sleet and slide-offs. I made a decision. It might be an adventure to be out in the thick of bad weather but it was an adventure I could do without. I emailed my regrets.

And that decision makes me wonder why I’m seriously considering signing up for the 14 days trip to Alaska the summer of 2016. I went to the monthly travelogue recently and as I sat there looking at slides of Alaska I got nostalgic over the fact that going to Alaska was on Don’s and my Bucket List. I’m not getting any younger, I thought, and going with a bunch of people from the senior hall will likely be the only chance I’ll ever get to go. All day long I thought about the pros and cons of going. I certainly have the time and money to go. On my cons list I only have three things listed one of which is I have to pee about every hour and a half. How’s that going to work out on the planes, trains, buses and cruise ships we’d be on? I could bring a bunch of corks but that would probably earn me a body cavity search at an airport, if they use one of those x-ray screeners. Nope, I’d have to quit drinking liquids but that could earn me a heart attack or stroke. I could try bladder “stretching” again but it didn’t work when I was a kid, so I doubt it would now. 

A bigger problem, though, would be Levi. Fourteen days is a long time to be at a kennel when we’ve only been separated for two days at a time in his entire life. I could put him in a kennel for a five day stretch this summer and see how that goes. I’ve made it a point to take him there every summer for two days, even when I wasn’t going anywhere just so he’d understand that he gets picked back up again, should I have an emergency. I started doing that because of Hurricane Katrina.  Seeing all those stressed out dogs, many who’d never been in a cage before---they said---drove the point home to me that dogs need to be cage trained. I bought one for Levi but I never close the door. He goes in there when he takes his afternoon naps, when I leave the house and when I have workmen around. I’m afraid to close the door for fear I’ll die and he’d starve to death before I’m found. He’s got a self-feeder that will keep him alive for five days, after that he can start eating my fingers. 

The third con on my list is I wonder if the emotions of going alone on a trip that Don dreamed about for so many years would get to me. I’d hate to pay that much money just to see the place through a veil of tears. Would it even be fun without his spirit of adventure and curiosity mixing us up with the locals? 

New topic: On Super Bowl weekend I had gone to the grocery store and I wrote about how busy it was and how it would be nice if they’d move the sample food people over to the checkout lanes to keep us all from fainting from missing lunch. This week I was at the store again when their cash register system went down for seven minutes and the checkout lines got back up again. Lo and behold, a couple of girls walked around those of us waiting in line and they were handing out sugar cookies from their bakery and sample sized cups of Starbuck’s cappuccinos. I love that store! If I ever get homeless I’m going to find a way to live there. They’re open 24/7/365 days a year, it should be do-able.

I have to be careful about what I wish for...I think I’ve accumulated some super powers. Recently I was bemoaned that fact that I wanted a new blender for no other reason than I wanted to change colors. But I couldn’t justify a purchase for that reason, I’m too old school to start that mindset. Less than a month later my trusty white blender broke right in the middle of a making a shake. It wouldn’t crush ice anymore and it made sick noises on some of the other speeds and it was leaving what looked like black sand where the top and the bottom connected. To the trash it went and I now I have the stainless steel model I had lusted after. Hum-mm…what should I wish for next? I know! “I really do want world peace,” to quote Sandra Bullock in Miss. Congeniality. Not going to happen, though, I fear my super powers are confined to things like getting free cookies at the super market and breaking blenders. ©