Welcome to the Misadventures of Widowhood blog!

In January of 2012 my soul mate of 42 years passed away after nearly 12 years of living with severe disabilities due to a stroke. I survived the first year after Don’s death doing what most widows do---trying to make sense of my world turned upside down. The pain and heartache of loss, my dark humor, my sweetest memories and, yes, even my pity parties are well documented in this blog.

Now that I’m a "seasoned widow" the focus of my writing has changed. I’m still a widow looking through that lens but I’m also a woman searching for contentment, friends and a voice in my restless world. Some people say I have a quirky sense of humor that shows up from time to time in this blog. Others say I make some keen observations about life and growing older. I say I just write about whatever passes through my days---the good, bad and the ugly. Comments welcome and encouraged. Let's get a dialogue going! Jean

Wednesday, March 20, 2019

Grand Central Station Busy Around Here


I’ve been planning my bedroom and bath redecorating project since January when I wore out the internet shopping for a quilt and shower curtain to establish a color palette. I wanted a girlie, beach cottage theme which probably has you wondering why I’m now the proud owner of newly painted gray walls, white ceilings and freshly steam-cleaned gray carpeting. The answer would be that I like starting with a neutral foundation that lends itself to making changes down the road should I get tired of living with the pale coral and soft aqua accents I’ll be living with for a while. Those are not colors I’ve ever had before and, believe me, it was hard not to go full out with pale pink and burgundy cabbage roses with moss green accents that I lived with for years (in my pre-husband life) and I still adore that combination.

My redecorating project was a long time in the thinking stage because I wanted to get a new mattress and bed and the harsh winter and bad roads kept me from shopping. And it was also hard to justify getting rid of my old mattress that still has a lot of life in it. But the bottom line is it’s too heavy for me to lift to make properly since my issue with my elbow that resulted in a life-time weight restriction on what I can lift unless I want to risk an elbow replacement surgery. I’ll bet I’m the only mattress shopper who had to act out putting bedding on a mattress before ordering one. Not being able to make a proper bed, I think, is contributing to my restless sleep. And I hate the way cleaning service girls don’t have a clue how to make a hospital corner. I’m so old that all females had to learn how to make them to get out of high school. I doubt schools even teach ‘domestic engineering’ anymore aka home economics.

Figuring out a schedule for painting, carpet cleaning, pickup on the old twin mattresses and bed frames, delivery on a new full-size bed and finally delivery on the mattress was driving me crazy. No matter how I shook it up, I figured there would be a few nights of me fighting the dog for the couch. Stay tuned half the swap-out is completed and the rest should occur over the coming week. In the meantime, the bathroom is almost finished. I still have some artwork to go up. The photo at the top is a preview of my big reveal when the whole project is finished. I love that shower curtain!

Monday I woke up with an Ambien hangover which has never happened with that drug. Or maybe it was a hard-work hangover because the day before I wore myself out washing windows and mini-blinds and polishing furniture. But I had places to go and things to do and one of those things was to have brunch with my Gathering Girls friends. It was the day after St. Patrick’s Day and I was lucky to score a great corn beef sandwich. When I got home---after a detour to Bed, Bath and Beyond to buy sheets and towels---I got a call from one of my friends. She was crying because she’d lost a diamond and sapphire ring she’d paid $1,500 for, but more importantly it had a great deal of sentimental value. She called the restaurant. They did a search around our table and out where she parked. She searched inside her car and around her house. A few hours later she called back. The ring was sitting in a soap dish in her guest bathroom. She figured she hadn't even worn the ring to brunch. Haven’t we all been there with something we thought we lost? I’m just glad it wasn't me, this time, who had to call all my friends back and own up to having a senior moment. 

Now a warning to Trump supporters: Stop reading here unless you have an answer to what you think he had to gain by bad-mouthing John McCain in a series of tweets this past weekend? Did he think we’d be so outraged over his treatment of a guy who’s been died since August that we’d be distracted from the fact that the terrorist who killed fifty people at two mosques in New Zealand wrote in his manifest that President Trump's White Nationalism was an inspiration to him? I feel badly for McCain’s family. At least McCain’s daughter had a good come back: "No one will ever love you the way they loved my father....”

Trump also spent time twitter-ranting about GM and Saturday Night Live---that’s what keeps him up in the night? Forty-nine tweets over the weekend from his presidential account but no mention of the disastrous bomb cyclone that raged across the Midwest leaving behind devastating floods. No compassion for American still in peril. But he did tweet several times to his fans to put pressure on FOX News to bring back pundit Jeanine Pirro who’d been suspended for making Islamophobia remarks plus he whined-tweeted about Hillary, Steele, McCabe, Amar Ilham, Weissmann, various republicans and the country of France. Okay, rant off. In truth I’ve cut the time I usually spend on politics in half this past month or two. But I fear I may have to redecorate my entire house to stay sane between now and the next election. And should he get re-elected? I'm going to invest in a barf-bag factory. ©

22 comments:

  1. I am applying for political asylum as I type to be sure I won't have to live here if re-elected.

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    1. I'm baffled by how low Mr. Trump has to go before he loses his supporters. Anything he does that MIGHT be good things he's doing for the economy or whatever can be done by other Republicans/Democrats and without the daily drama displayed by his classless, petty, vindictive character.

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  2. Love what you are doing with the bathroom Jean, and looking forward to the big reveal. Greens, pinks, blues, lavenders (and sometimes all together) are my favourite colours and combos. I also love the beachy look.
    I did not know Trump tweeted so much this weekend. I thought he golfed every weekend? I no longer have words for this man. At least not words I want to type out on someone else's blog. ;-)
    If he inspires you to continue to redecorate, I guess we have him to blame for bringing more beauty into the world (words I never thought I'd type regarding this person).
    Have a good week!

    Deb

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    1. Laurel Ashley has a sheet set in your color combination and I almost bought them. SO pretty and happy looking.

      Trump golfs in the daytime on the weekends, and tweets all night. He claims he only needs 3 hours of sleep. I personally think he'd be a better natured person if is slept and gave into the fact that sleeping is not a waste of time.

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  3. Oh the things we do to accommodate our aging. Did you get a smaller bed? Thankfully I have the kidults to change my queen sheets.

    I can’t wait to see the grand reveal! You started with shower curtain?

    I love where this is heading!

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    1. I went from two twins pushed side by side to a full sized bed. It will be visually smaller but two twins equal a queen for sleeping area.

      I started with a quilt, found it then went shopping for the curtain to blend. Got one and sent it back and started over because it was major flawed. But this second choice I like even better than the first.

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  4. That is a very dramatic shower curtain. I think having a neutral wall colour is a good idea; it can allow other things to be the focal point. If you decide later to change things up, you won't have to repaint.

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    1. I found a place online that turns art pieces into shower curtains...any artist can do it and sell through them. The guy who painted the original that was reproduce this curtain is known for painting like the impressionists. Talk about drama, you should see it with then light behind it is on that the room light is off. Looks like she's standing looking at a sun rise or set.

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  5. There may be an answer to the bed making that won't require a new bed. I had a bad shoulder and discovered a Tucker (https://thenewsixty.blogspot.com/2016/12/day-late-inventor.html) which lets you make the bed with out lifting the mattress. I just used mine this morning. Love it.
    I agree that the McCain thing was just a distraction also. Nothing is too low for him to use.

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    1. Wow, what a great idea! I found a wooden paddle in my kitchen drawer that will probably work the same way. If not I'm ordering The Tucker. Over priced at $24.00 but worth it to have clean sheets whenever I want without waiting for help. Thank you so much for sharing this.

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    2. I like your idea for your bedroom. I hope you'll show us when you have it completed. As far as Trump. I'm afraid that my American friends really don't have a true president. He's a president for the white supremacy and those that hate the rest of the world and FOX network. I thought the President of the United States was for all the American people and the world. Trump doesn't show any of this. As I said before Jean, I'm worried for the the US and the world. I pray everyday for help. See ya my friend.

      Cruisin Paul

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    3. Thanks for those prayers, Paul. We need them. It might take awhile but I'm betting we'll right ourselves down here.

      It might take awhile for photos of my bedroom too. I have to wait until the first to get my cleaning girl to help hang my art work but the rest will be done the middle of next week.

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  6. Love the shower curtain! Can't wait to see the rest.

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    1. Every time I walk into the bathroom, that curtain makes me smile. I drove myself crazing shopping online for one I liked---found quite a few---including a huge, smiling cow---and I'm really happy with my choice.

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  7. Redecorating YOUR house with colors YOU like, is kind of a perk of living alone. Our life situation is as it is, so we might as well make it the best we can for as many days as we have left. Eh?

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    1. Amen to that! I'm thankful to have the money to do this project. The room hasn't changed since 2002 and it was looking tired. But you're ahead of me...your living room redo was great a year or two back. Loved your new carpeting.

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  8. Good for you for redecorating to escape the insanity.

    I agree that Trump could not care less about the farmers in trouble. I get most of my Trump news from the late night comedians. One of the latest topics is how Trump and his supporters scoff at the overly sensitive "snowflakes" while one of his strongest supporters in the House is Devin Nunes, who is suing Twitter and two fake tweeters for being mean to him. The upshot is because of the law suit those two fake tweeters are getting publicity. One of them has more followers than Nunes does. It's a crazy world.


    https://www.washingtonpost.com/technology/2019/03/20/devin-nunes-cow-twitter-account-gained-more-followers-than-congressman-after-he-sued-it/?utm_term=.e2a16c77ff9e&wpisrc=nl_tech&wpmm=1

    Also, what do you think of Beto getting so much publicity?

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    1. I didn't know about the Devin Nunes thing until he sued and from what I've seen he sure is being overly sensitive over something that looks to be mostly good-natured and funny.

      Beto, in my opinion, doesn't have enough experience but I'm trying to be open. CNN, at least is doing town halls with all the people running and with such a long list it will take awhile to get through them. A.O.Cortez is the one I wish would get less attention. She's a junior representative but if you listen to the Republicans you'd think she runs the entire party, which she doesn't.

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  9. PS Feel free to edit my comment, especially if you want to delete the political part. I can understand why you might want to.

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    1. The Blogger comments don't allow a blog owner to edit comments. It's either publish them as is or don't publish them. Whenever I do a post with politics in it (which I try not to do very often) I know I will get some replies along those lines.

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  10. Baited breath on Mueller. What a jerk DT is. He practically gives ME the DTs!

    Your bathroom looks great -- I love the shower curtain. I have to take mine on or at least paint the vanity but now I wonder when I'll ever get the time. Life happens. Thanks for your visit! I'll pass on your thoughts to Rick!

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    1. We should know very soon but so far it doesn't look like there well be any surprises.

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