Facebook is the source of some wild and crazy things---amazing, funny, sad and heart-tugging posts as well as downright stupid stuff. Where else can you go 24/7 to see elephants taking mud baths, photos of your minutes old great-great nephew, clever words written on paper, recipes for ‘smore pie, 27 dogs in a swimming pool, a photo of Ryan and Romney hugging, and get an update on your niece-in-law’s surgery? On Facebook you can also get videos from around the world like the one below called Unsung Hero and sub-titled Not Every Gift is Tangible proving that while we might not understand the language and their streets and homes might look different other cultures value the same intrinsic things we do.
If you haven’t guessed by now, the photo at the top (as well has the video below and all the things mentioned above) appeared on my Facebook feed today. Wouldn’t you love to know who thinks up this kind of stuff? Where do they live? We could be walking by these clever people every day and not know it. What do they do for a living, do they walk-the-talk? Or did they “borrow” the words photographed and posted from a book or Sunday sermon? Does it really matter so long as the words makes us stop and say something like, “Knowledge and hard work ARE important but attitude, yes, Attitude, really does trump them both.” Yeah, my attitude could use a tune-up from time-to-time. Thank you, anonymous creator of clever things and my friends for sharing them.
According to my Franklin Language Master attitude is: 1) a posture or relative position and, 2) a feeling, opinion or mood. Okay, got it. We see attitude everywhere there are people. In some of the music videos out today, for example, they project an attitude of I‘m-in-your-face-sexy-and-I-know it. You can turn the volume off on the news but still pick up on the attitude of protestors who are mad as hell and not going to take it anymore. If we watch a movie about Mother Theresa or the Dalia Lama we'll see their attitude of love with a capital L. I can watch a hellfire-and-brimstone preacher and see him judging us all and us not measuring up to his piousness. He scares his flock by finding the devil everywhere, that’s his attitude. Well, look there! I just revealing my attitude of disdain for hellfire-and-brimstone preachers and on Sunday no less when I should have an attitude of love thy neighbor. Why do some people make it so hard for us to love them? Why can’t we all be like the guy in the Unsung Hero video where we’d constantly be reacting to the world around us in positive ways? Like him, if we open our hearts to seeing the opportunities to be kind and loving, we'd find them. Wouldn’t we? When we take ourselves out of the coasting through life mode we can change our little corner of the earth.
I admit it, I coast through life sometimes. I don’t always appreciate the hard work it’s taken me to get where I’m at as widow and a woman or appreciate the knowledge I’ve tried to equip myself with to rebuild my life and build it the first time. Sometimes it feels like I should be “over it.” I should be ready for bold adventures and new relationships. I should be polishing the silver and having dinner parties. Whoa, back up here! Dinner parties? When I start doing that, my nieces are welcome to put me in a nursing home. I don’t cook. I don’t entertain and neither of those things are on my Bucket List. Nor should they be unless I want to commit suicide using stress as my weapon of choice.
Recently I’ve been reminded of my Bucket List by Bella Rum over at the Cul-de-sac Chronicles blog. I wrote it three months after Don died and when I reread it this week I realized that I had a good attitude for a widow back when I wrote it. It was honest and filled with do-able things. And I need to edit it, rewrite and expand it. One thing that will go on my new Bucket List is a mission statement about the kind of attitude I should strive to hold dear to my heart and strive to achieve on a daily basis. How about you? What is your core attitude or approach toward living your life? Have you written your Bucket List. ©