There was a time when I could have written, “The mantel clock struck twelve...” which is arguably a more dramatic word picture than saying my
atomic clock’s digital numbers just let me know I’ve wasted the entire morning
sitting in front of the computer in my bathrobe. Ohmygod I can be lazy when
given the opportunity. One side of my brain tells me I deserve it for surviving
the past four weeks of over scheduling myself because I feel like I’m returning
home after a long, hard trip down a rabbit hole. At least when Alice came back from
her trip down the White Rabbit’s hole she had some interesting tales to tell
thanks to her creator, Lewis Carroll, who had an extraordinary imagination---or
a good supply of psychedelic drugs. Me, I have neither one at my disposal. And what’s
the other side of my brain telling me? It’s doing a constant drum beat: Life is too short, use it or lose it! Nothing
new to see here, move along little doggies, move along.
Since I last sat down to write a blog post, I’ve been out
with my Movie and Lunch club, to a family birthday party and to the gym a few
times. The movie we saw was Going in
Style, a remake of a 1979 film by the same name starring George Burns, Art
Carney and Lee Strasberg. You know you’re getting old when you can remember the
original movie almost as well as the one you just saw a few days ago. The new version
stars Morgan Freeman, Michael Caine and Joey King and they threw Ann-Margret into
the mix so they could add a senior sex scene. (At least they didn't make us look at them nearly naked.) If you’ve seen the trailer for
the movie you’ll know it's about three old guys who plot and carry
out a bank robbery. In the original version they did it to add excitement to
their lives; in the remake they did it because the bank dissolved their company’s
pension funds to pay off the company’s debts which put a darker twist to this “comedy”
that was a little too real for me, having survived almost losing our pension during the banking meltdown a few years back. I wouldn’t
recommend the movie if you pay night rates but we only paid $5.00 for a matinee
and it was worth that much. Although I must disclose that others in our group
of twelve gave the film a higher rating than I did. What I liked, though, was
the opportunity to go to an oriental restaurant afterward and get almond
boneless chicken. I miss oriental food since my husband is no long in the
picture. We’d pick it up at least once a week. Now, even that close-by take-out
restaurant is gone.
Guess what I tried to do at the birthday party for one of
the newly minted two year olds in the family? I tried to jump a hop-scotch pattern
drawn with pink chalk on the driveway. I did okay until I got to the part where
I would have had to hop on one foot three times, then bend down to pick up the stone
marker. No way could I do that even though my balance is improving since I
bought a balance board. I tried to talk my older brother into trying the hop-scotch
grid but he accused of wanting to get him into trouble like he claims I did
when we were kids. (It was the other way around.) He recently got a new bathtub
and he brought the empty box over to the party with “doors” and “windows” cut
into it. The kids loved it for a while then the little balls of energy were
riding tricycles and pulling wagons and marking up the cement with colored
chalk. Some things never change. I’m impressed by the millennium parents I’m
seeing lately. They are in patient teacher mode all the time or maybe it’s
just the age of the children I’m around who are all at an age where
the entire world is just one big learning tool. The oldest, a three year old is
learning how to shake hands when he meets people and he does it like a pro.
I just got a call from my brother letting me know that we
have a brand new baby in the family---the boy I’ve been wanting to carry on the
family name. They named him Levi…yes, the same as my dog. My brother named his first
born after our family dog-at-the-time. Does that mean another family tradition was born along with this baby? The parents and grandparents, I’m told, all
thought I’d get a kick out that. Little do they know but Levi my Might Schnauzer
is not the only Levi in the family. Shake our family tree and both the first
and middle names of our newest baby will fall out. How cool is that! ©
I laughed about Lewis Carroll taking psychedelic drugs when he wrote Alice. That or perhaps really off his nut. My personal rabbit hole was time spent doing research and not much else.
ReplyDeleteI don't believe I saw the first version of that movie.
How cool is that, Levi has a namesake. I do love the name, it's a good strong name. Congratulations, Auntie!
Ya, I'm pretty happy about the namesake. When we named our four legged Levi, we picked the name because it was one of a handful of words my husband could say after his stroke. But it has grown on me more with each year because he's such a sweet dog. Afterward, we realized Don's and my mom's grandfathers both were named Levi.
DeleteLewis Carroll (Charles Lutwidge Dodgson) was a fascinating guy.
Congratulations on the new male addition to the Clan!
ReplyDeleteI'm impressed by your brother's thoughtfulness in making that impromptu cubbyhouse. My kids enjoyed those kinds of 'toys' better than ready made ones.
Is it ONLY four weeks at the gym that brought about the transformation? seems longer.
Your schedule is busier than mine. ~ Libby
You are right about me going to the gym longer than four weeks. I started the end of February. But I've only been terribly overbooked for four weeks. April is when I do all my health care bi-annuals and when all the house's service stuff starts so throwing the gym in the mix did stress out my schedule.
DeleteThe box at the party reminded me of a 'kitchen set' my dad made for me when I was a kid only he used old orange crates. It made me smile.
I I believe it was opium that drove Lewis Carroll's imagination.
ReplyDeleteI apologize that I wanted to comment on your last post but didn't, however, your paragraph in this post on your little relatives ties in so I hope it is okay to use ideas from both!
It's this memory thing that I find so interesting. I, too, have a very poor memory for certain things but when I really consider it, that was part of my problem when young with learning dates and languages and unconnected facts. I really need the connections to remember something. It takes a while, but when I finally do remember something, it is because I have understood it in its context. When you lose the context (we went to that restaurant?) the memory is gone. Here's my connection to this post...asking questions like what have you been doing lately or how's school are out of context questions. Most kids do not start rambling off details when asked those general questions, in fact most kids find that kind of question stifling. As older adults, we find those general questions equally stifling. It is much easier to have a natural conversation and the details will emerge.
I'm intentionally using the word stifling because it does inhibit the natural flow of thought or imagination. You reminded me of that by talking of the large box that became a house. Somehow getting into a child's imagination by entering his world, going down his rabbit hole, is the way to engage, and those general questions make that world difficult to enter.
Does that make sense?
Regards,
Leze
Opium! Yes, it was quite commonly used during Victorian times when Carroll was alive but I don't think it's ever been proven for sure he was using anything, but certainly there's been lots of speculation.
DeleteYou bring up a fascinating thought train---The way a question is asked can be stifling. Those kinds of questions do have us mentally going through our file of memories to pick something to talk about. If we've been busy that can be overwhelming. I should be used to that, though. When I was growing up my mom almost every day would ask, "What did you learn today?" Never what did you do. It's the default thing I ask myself each night.
What you're saying about "stifling" questions does make a lot of sense and I'm sorry I'm cutting this reply short. I have to get in the shower to go to the eye doctor.
Congratulations on the new baby. I like the name whether a dog or a human boy. :-) I also felt that movie may not be all that great. Why do they tend to use seniors in such horrible films? They can still act and not be in drivel.
ReplyDeleteThanks! Changing the reason for the bank robbery took too much away from the comedy of it, for me. but the acting was good.
DeleteCongrats on the new baby and official carrier of the family name. I love the name Levi and just think, when they visit and you call out, one or both of them will come running. Be interesting to see what happens when you command your Levi to "sit."
ReplyDeleteLevi my dog thinks his name is 'treat' most of the time. LOL When my niece was young my mom would always call, "Cindy the girl" and "Cindy the dog" when they were both around. Not sure if she remembered that as she got older or just remembers hearing the stories about it. Either way, she turned out with no emotional scars. LOL
DeleteHooray for a male to carry on the name!! It IS a good strong name.
ReplyDeleteCongrats for continuing to build your body stronger! I'm not good at continuing my bright ideas on my own. Need a buddy to make me commit ...
It is a good, strong name. I really love it.
DeleteI'm not good at continuing my bright ideas, either especially when they involve exercise. Time will tell as summer goes on if I start slacking.
You just have to love the new babies, I am impressed when they carry on a family name whether intentional or not it still makes you feel good.
ReplyDeleteI agree it is somewhat strange to sit back and watch the kids you trained now in training mode themselves, the torch has passed and I just sit back and smile at them "paying for their raising" so to say.
We have seven little ones all under three with two more on the way but only the newest one to carry on the surname. I wasn't sure it would happen. I'm elated since I'm kind of the family historian. It's going to be fun to watch them all grow and interact.
DeleteOur family name died out with my Dad. Kind of sad, but he had no siblings and no sons! I often find myself sitting here, still in my nightie when my cuckoo clocks chirps out 12 chirps. I always feel a bit guilty--for awhile. Like 4-5 minutes. HAH!
ReplyDeleteNext time I'm in my nightgown at 12:00 I'm going to visualize you doing the same thing and then I won't feeling so guilty.
DeleteIt's a genealogy, thing isn't it...to be concerned with a surname dying off.
Very neat that the new baby will be called Levi. It's really a cool name, isn't it?
ReplyDeleteGood to hear that you credit the balance board with improving your balance. I could use some improvement in that area. I'm very careful on stairs, I tell you! I've gone back to working on our genealogy. I get absorbed in it. The world can just go by while I'm involved in it.
It's so easy to get involved in genealogy and so much easier now than ever.
DeleteLevi is still in the children's hospital. His little lungs have a problem but they say he'll be okay, making progress. Can't imagine how stressful that is for his young parents.
I know this is nosy but what made you guys wait so long to get married & what made you decide not to have kids
ReplyDeleteAsha
We didn't make a decision not to have children. I had fertility issues from a medical emergence I had as a teenager. That entered into not feeling the pressure to get married. Plus when we met we were both coming out of relationships that really hurt us and in the first five years neither one of us were in a hurry to get hurt again. Time got away from us and in the meantime, I was running a business out of my house and so was he. We spent a long time looking for a house that would work for both our businesses but we couldn't find one. But no joke, we spent more time together than most married couples we knew and we had a better, closer relationship than most others we knew, too.
DeleteP.S. Since you've been following my blogs in their various forms since 2002, how could I NOT answer your question? I would be curious, too, if the tables were turned.
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