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Welcome to my World---Woman, widow, senior citizen seeking to live out my days with a sense of whimsy as I search for inner peace and friendships. Jeez, that sounds like a profile on a dating app and I have zero interest in them, having lost my soul mate of 42 years. Life was good until it wasn't when my husband had a massive stroke and I spent the next 12 1/2 years as his caregiver. This blog has documented the pain and heartache of loss, my dark humor, my sweetest memories and, yes, even my pity parties and finally, moving past it all. And now I’m ready for a new start, in a new location---a continuum care campus in West Michigan, U.S.A. Some people say I have a quirky sense of humor that shows up from time to time in this blog. Others say I make some keen observations about life and growing older. Stick around, read a while. I'm sure we'll have things in common. Your comments are welcome and encouraged. Jean

Saturday, November 6, 2021

The Living Room Tour

 


When the concierge helped me carry my new area rug from the mail room to my apartment I joked before opening the door that my apartment is where all knickknacks come to retire. I may not have the most knickknacks on campus but I'll bet I'm a top contender for the having the most seashells and I still have another box in storage that won't get unpacked until I get tired of the ones I put out. (You'll see more when I do a tour of my half bath.)

While my niece was staying with me to take me to my eye surgery and follow-up appointment the next day she unloaded the area where the rug belonged, put the pad and carpet down and moved everything back to where I wanted it. (Yes, that included all the books.) I wasn't allowed to bend over because it causes pressure on the eye so my niece made me sit in a chair and supervise---she's a keeper. The photo at the top shows the results of her hard work and it turned out exactly like I'd been visualizing for over a year. Yup, it plain to see I don't like living with a lot of color.

Sorry these photos looked washed out---too much light coming into the windows. But I wanted to post them now rather than wait until my eyes get in better focus for me to manipulate the images in a photo editing program that I haven't even put on my new computer yet. It also seems pointless to do photo editing until I get my new eyeglass prescription which won't happen until mid December. By the way, my right eye turned out better than the left with the macular pucker. By evening the same day as my surgery I could actually see the difference in colors and, a color change never happened in the other eye. Doctor says they are both right where they're should be, though, and I see her every week until I'm past the critical point when an infection would show up in the pucker, if I'm going to get one. Enough digressing... on to the tour details:


I've had this little steamer trunk since circa 1945 when my mom found it at the Salvation Army and all through my childhood it held doll clothes that she made. Later in my twenties my dad added the removable legs so I could use it as an end table. The trunk was originally made to hold toiletries, etc. for women travelers. The original handles on the sides and the inside tray are long gone. That's my new middle-century La-z-Boy chair behind the trunk.


The teddy bear I made and I've had the camera since early teens or before. The folding deck chair the bear is sitting in is a Victorian Era child's toy. The frame of knots and the postcard of the sailor need no explanation other than I've had the sailor forever and the son-I-wish-I-had gave me the framed knots a couple of years ago because he knew I'd love it.

Below is the top of an inlaid coffee table that I've had since the '70s. Imagine my surprise when I stripped layers of paint off it and found that lovely inlaid. The sunbather is modern kitsch, the ceramic convertible was handmade by a local artist who is known for his whimsical pieces.
 




This bookcase holds my art history books and on top is my marble collection, all sorted by type and age. The slab-built and fired sculpture was made by me and his name is Toe Joe.

The next three photos are part of the window wall at the far end of the room...two photos of shells and other kitsch in the deep window sill, and my Arthur Singer birds print is above a wicker planter that belonged to my husband's mother.



 

I didn't photograph the art easel corner as that was covered in another post but on wall across from the furniture grouping on the rug is my entertainment center. Inside the cabinet is my TV and boxes of photographs. A few days before the move I took a bunch of movies that used to be inside that cabinet to Goodwill so I could fit the TV inside instead of the original plan of mounting it on the wall above the cabinet. I'm glad I did.

That ladder on the left is metal and I have no idea what it came off from but the minute I saw it I knew I wanted it. It's hard to see in the photo but I've got a vintage linen piece hanging on one of the rungs of the ladder and it's hiding a hideous, red emergency wall plug that is connected to a generator for power outrages. We can plug in a lamp, phone charger, TV and a space heater or fan, if needed. Originally I was going to hang that ladder sideways on the wall over my desk in the den, but that ill-placed plug changed the game plan. I will probably find some more vintage linen to hang on the ladder. Who knew I'd start a new collection after moving?


On top of the entertainment center is an assortment of old lamps. The two square ones on the right are candle powered from the Colonial Period. The round one on the left and back is a tiny stove and was powered by whale oil. The top becomes a cup to put on the stove. The others around stove and the bigger, round-based one on the right are also whale oil lamps. The two wire candle holders center front were used in coal mines. The end with a loop was used to carry it and the other end was jabbed into the wall of the mine when you got to where you were working. My grandfather was a coal miner so its history is an area of my interest.

 

Next to the cabinet are two more relics from my childhood...the wicker chair, and the crude little shelf that houses jars of stones and shells was built out of an orange crate by my dad. I had a whole set of kitchen "appliances and cabinets" each made out of fruit crates and they were set up in an attic dormer. This piece is the only one that survived past my childhood. 

 

The photo above is of the furniture grouping taken from the other end and it better shows my new La-Z-Boy (which powers back to a lay down position). The antimacassar at the headrest was embroidered by my mom. 'Antimacassar' is a new addition to my vocabulary compliments of my niece who ran across it in a book she and her grandson were reading. The following is from Wikipedia:  

"An antimacassar is a small cloth placed over the backs or arms of chairs, or the head or cushions of a sofa, to prevent soiling of the permanent fabric underneath.... Macassar oil was an unguent for the hair commonly used by men in the early 19th century. The fashion for oiled hair became so widespread in the Victorian and the Edwardian period that housewives began to cover the arms and backs of their chairs with washable cloths to prevent the fabric coverings from being soiled. Around 1850, these started to be known as antimacassars. They were also installed in theatres, from 1865."  Aren't you glad you know that bit of trivia? I was. ©

51 comments:

  1. I love what you've done, and thanks for telling me about antimacassars. ❤️

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    1. Its fun learning new things, isn't it. I knew you'd appreciate the bit of trivia.

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  2. I loved reading the details of your vignettes! Currently, my sister and I share an apartment - before our relationship suffers irrevocable damage, we've decided to go our separate ways come Spring. I hope to find a place as lovely as yours!

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    1. Me too. Finding a home can be compared to the prince that has to kiss a lot of frogs before finding a prince. I spent a lot of time looking at various things----stand alone houses, condos, other CCC places.

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  3. You've sure made your new space a home that reflects your life's journey. It was fun seeing and hearing about all of your mementos. That's my favorite part of decorating--placing well-loved objects where they can be seen and appreciated (mostly by me, lol). I think your sitting area turned out well and I like the rug you selected. It really ties everything together and it will feel good underfoot. We still have our moving process ahead of us, and if I let myself think about it, it becomes daunting. It's been encouraging to follow your progress and know that day by day, a person can create a new life. Happy for you, Jean. Thank you for the tour.

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    1. Thank you. I can't think of many things I've regretted, decorating wise. Except maybe I have too many things in storage but I plan to downsize in my cabinet down there come spring/ I don't think I would have felt at home so quick had I bought all new stuff.

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  4. I just love everything you have done so far in your new home.

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    1. Thanks. It's been fun seeing it all come together after all the planning.

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  5. Your new home is so nice. You've done a great job on decorating it and I really love your new rug. I like the arms on your new chair too. I know you had to sort what you would keep and what you had to let go and you've done a great job. You still have many things that hold happy memories for you.

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    1. That chair is surprisingly comfortable. I've even fallen asleep in it which is something I rarely do during the day no matter what I'm doing or where I'm at. I need those solid arms to push myself up from and if I get to the point where I need a lift chair, my husband's is in the den and I can swap them.

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  6. You have not only surrounded yourself with lovely memory invok8ng pieces but also created a beautiful space. Glad the new chair is as comfortable as you had hoped.

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    1. It wouldn't have been me if I hadn't layered the place with stuff from different decades of my life. I might do something different with the window sills though, but I've got nothing but time now to accomplish new projects I can dream up.

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  7. Thanks for sharing! I love looking at decorating pics even if it's not my style (and we're very different, I'm close to a minimalist.) You've done a great job displaying your treasures!

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    1. Thank you. I enjoy looking at other people's style's too, especially when they fit a person's personality. I'm deeply sentimental and minimalism would not reflect that. BUT I am fascinated by people who living in the Tiny House movement. I don't live in the past but I like being grounded with objects that speak to me. What grounds people to their spaces without tying them down is an interesting topic

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  8. It's a very light-filled space. You are surrounded by objects of memory, and that no doubt makes you feel grounded and comforted. It's very homey, yet has an air of careful curation.

    (I'm glad I don't have to dust your home, however; that's a lot of little things to pick up and put back down.)

    The la-z-boy chair looks terrific.

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    1. Dusting is not hard with the right duster. But the real trick is to change your furnace filler often so you don't create the dust in the first place. And having your furnace duct cleaned every 2/3 years. I use Swiffers and don't have to pick things up every time I do dust.

      That chair was worth waiting for. All the comfort of the old style La-Z-Boys without the bulky look of the old style "puffy" chairs.

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  9. It looks fabulous! I like all of your collections and can see why you want to be able to see them around you. I am sure they bring back lots of happy memories!
    I like how the little wicker chair has a matching cushion to your larger wicker set! Cute attention to detail! Well done!

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    1. Thanks. That little chair used to be a rocker...before my mom bought it at the Salvation Army store. I didn't know that until last year when I was researching its value to possibility put in an auction. They are surprisingly not worth a lot so I decided keep it. I did give my niece a kid's wooden table and chair set that my brother and I used, then me as a bedside table as a teenager. Her grand kids are now using it with I'm happy about and I have visiting rights. LOL

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    2. I had one of those wicker rockers from my childhood. Finally during the move I made in 2008, I looked into selling it and found what you did, that they don't have a lot of value. Luckily, a neighbor had a little girl about 4-5, so he was delighted to have it for her.
      Nina

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    3. It's fun finding just the right person to treasure something we've treasured in our lives. Win-win all the way around.

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  10. Love the new look. There are so many things to see that have stories attached. Each has made your place a home. I was going to suggest Swiffer but glad you are all ready using them. They are great for dusting and not disturbing..

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    1. A lot different from the Old West theme of my other house, isn't it. I did have a small sun porch where my wicker lived, but it had brighter colored cushions.

      I love Swiffers and I don't mind dusting at all. Sometimes I change things up with I dust.

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  11. The Daydream Den looks fabulous! Each piece thoughtfully placed in a cohesive look. So welcoming. I look forward to your photos and the history behind every little thing.

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    1. Thank you. I'll still have a tour of the 1/2 bath, den and the bedroom. When I get around to them. Right now I'm trying to update my in case emergency book.

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  12. Your place looks so nice. I love the area rug. I don't have one in my living room because I trip on the two smaller rugs I have in my bedroom. I just know I'm going to trip and fall on the darn thing.

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    1. Do you use double sided carpet tape on your throw rugs? Good insurance against tripping. Works great and cheaper than a trip to ER.

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  13. Your living room looks absolutely wonderful, Jean. I love how it is full of mementos and history that is meaningful to you. I knew the term "antimacassar" and knew they were used to keep furniture from getting hair oil on them, but didn't know that the oil was actually called macassar. Thanks! I learned something. Love seeing your new place - I hope you make many more posts about it.

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  14. I definitely will. It's cataloging all my stuff for when I forget and the memory care team needs the for que cards. LOL

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  15. Looking good, and so many stories for you to tell and of course remember...

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    1. We all have stories like mine of the things we love. I wish more bloggers would take us on tours of their favorite things.

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  16. You will absolutely love this La-z-boy. I purchased the dark blue one two years ago and well my cat Pearl is white, so you know how that goes. You will love this chair.

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    1. I loved it the first time I sat in it at the store and then again when if finally came. It cradles your body like a glove, doesn't it. I thought there was a rule about buying chairs and couches to match your pet? Didn't you get the email?

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  17. You look as settled as if you have been there for years. I love your art -- especially the birds and the one by the lanterns. And seeing your childhood keepers -- all good. I love the white wicker with the gray. It's very cool, summery and easy to live with. I'm loving the stories behind the things!

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    1. That print above the lanterns is of the Kalamazoo River as it looks when you're on the Saugatuck side looking over. The old post office is now an art studio and sales shop. If you ever get back over there don't miss going there She has some watercolor notecards that remind me of you work. Did you notice your painting inside the TV cabinet. The one of Levi will be on my den tour.

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  18. It really is lovely and your collections are set up in a way to really appreciate them. How do you like your new Lazy Boy? I've been thinking I might buy myself one for Christmas.

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    1. I love that La-Z-Boy more than I ever thought I would. If you're looking for one for Christmas you'll have to buy off the floor and here that's not a bad thing as they have lots of them. Custom orders take 5-7 months. I got one with power even thought I could get it to move without it, but down the road, who knows if I would still be able to.

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  19. Another bloody lovely post that I enjoyed

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  20. I love your use of neutrals with subtle blues and greens; it has a quiet, meditative feel. Just looking at the photos of this space lowers my blood pressure several points. ;-)

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    1. What a nice compliment. My bedroom has an even more meditative feel to it, I think. I like color but I can't live with it. I still can't believe how well the new cushions are so comfortable.

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  21. What a lovely peaceful room - very zen. You have some beautiful objects. I love the old steamer trunk. Growing up in rural England in the 1950s, we knew all about antimacassars!

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    1. We had them here in the fifties too but I never knew they had a name other than doily.

      I feel pretty Zen living here. The little trunk hold a bunch of odd and ends from the past that I love to take out once or twice a year to look at. My niece and I did it while she was here.

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  22. WOW! I love your living room! Thanks for the tour and the interesting information about all your pieces. And for the new vocabulary word! I have a lot of color in my house; a good friend of mine is neutrals all the way , like you. I actually find, lately, that I'm drawn to more neutral myself, but I'd have to repaint and re-decorate every room at this point to achieve it.

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    1. If I didn't have soft neutrals I'd probably go for stark grays and whites on black with a pop of primary color in art work. I also thought it would be fun to own several houses that you could decorate differently. It costs too much to re-decorate to do it often and I know I'd tire of certain colors palette too fast to invest in them.

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  23. Thank you for sharing your home with us. You might dislike mine as I'm a Fauvist at heart.

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    1. I love looking at Fauvism art and can appreciate it, but I couldn't live with it as a decorating style. I need something that calms my mind.

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  24. My Parents used the term Antimiccassar but I had absolutely no idea what it was, just that it seemed to mean something Old and Outdated to them. *LOL* Now I know what it is and I've used those on Fav Chairs a lot to keep them from just getting soiled by the various Hair Products the Family have used over the Years. The Kiddos have used everything from Gels to wash-out Colors that often stain everything in bold Colors like Green, Blue, Purple, Pink! Argh. Anyway, your Living Room is well thought out and it turned out really Inviting and Lovely Jean, you have been very Editorial. I failed miserably at that after the first Year here, I did better before unpacking most of my stuff. *LOL* I was minimalist and went with Simplicity for several Months tho' and enjoyed it, I just had too much I wanted to bring in and use or Display in a much smaller space than I had before. You really accomplished the True Downsize, Bravo!

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    1. Interesting about your experience with the word antimacassars. Considering the greased back look that boys had during the 50's I can see why the protective clothe made a comeback when I was in high school. Being a very light chair, just the natural hair oils is why I put one on mine.

      I am pushing the limit on how much kitsch and junk I can display. But when I happen to see the photos files of all the stuff I sold on e-Bay I am proud of myself. It was hard but I found good homes for the stuff I or my husband truly loved. You and I both have objects that speak to our souls and we want them around us. I stopped going to antique shops, etc. and that has helped me cut down accumulating even more one-of-a-kind stuff.

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